Im Pregnant

Hi,

Ive just found out yesterday i am pregnant again - ihave a 8.5 month old... i know this sounds bad - but i dont know if im happy or not.... i havnt told DP yet - trying to get my head around it first.

Its weird - i ovulated CD 18 we DTD CD 20 and im pregnant - it wasnt planned but not really avoided either.... i thought you only had 12 - 24 hours to fetilize the egg

Also im having feelings about if i will love the new baby the same as my 1st.... and i feel like i dont really want to share my love between 2 of them Does that sound mean ... i feel terrible...

I feel so silly saying all this - im pretty confused and im scared..

Firstly, congrats on your pregnancy :D It is hard coming to terms with another one so soon - I fell pregnant immediately after trying, and its sorta just now beginning to dawn on me that I will have an 18 month old and a newborn!!! Scary stuff!!!!! We are all here to support you at BB - so try to cheer up and enjoy the miraculous beginning of life inside of you.
:hug:

Thank you - im just very scrambled at the moment..... :redface:

Hi, Congratulations on your pg.

Hi congrats on your pg...
I fell pg with our second when the first was 8 months, at the time I was scared but the idea of two so young does grow on you.
My sister is 7 months pg and like you in the begining she didnt really know if she wanted another ( her 4th ) but as time has gone on she has come to terms with it and is now verry happy about the prospect of having another bub around.
So hang in there and let your partner know and enjoy this special time together.

meegm - firstly congrats :D.... I can relate to how you are feeling as DH and I have that conversation all the time! When you have such a strong feeling for your little one it is very hard to even think about - how do I share this love?? But I am sure as your pregnancy progress you will over come this... Wishing you a wonderful and exciting 9 months babe....

Thanks Chepie - i felt like it was only me and i felt terrible about it .. glad im not the only one....

meegm - we had an oopsie when my DD was 9.5 months old. Like you i was like 'how could this have happened'. I was breastfeeding too and hadnt had AF post birth......Dh and i took a bit of getting used to. But now, she is 5 months old and the cheekiest little poppet. We wonder how our household was without her. She brings us, and my other two girls so much joy....it was meant to be obviously. Enjoy this special time. ...you will get used to the idea........this little person was meant to be in your lives.......Good luck.

Aww Meegm - firstly big hug! :hugs:

I completely understand where your head it at right now. I thought that I was pregnant last week and was freaking out! Half happy if I was, half terrified if I was. Luckily when I tested (it took me a week and a half to work up the courage!), it was a BFN.

I totally get the "Will I love this child as much as I love the first?" thoughts... I find that difficult to imagine too.

Life doesn't always go the way we plan. We think we've got it all figured out, then life throws a curve ball.

I'm sure you're scared, excited and just not sure what to feel, but in the end, it will all be wonderful I promise.

Congratulations babe! :confetti:

Celsie. xoxox

Hey Clesie, How are you ..... you know i feel terrible coz so many ladies just want so bad to be pregnant and for me it has been very easy.....

Im slowly getting used to the idea... Im worried about work..

I am due to go back properly (im doing 24 hours but at home at the moment) in May - the girl whom is doing my current role in house is fulltime and her contract ends in July NOW do i totally stuff up my job and tell them im pregnant or stuff them up by not tellling them and go on maternity leave in October ?????????

I guess i have to look after myself and we get paid maternity leave so i want that ... I think i wont say anything for a few months not yet anyway....


God my head is such a mess

Celsie - Hows Caleb getting big Now i bet ... he's 8 months now isnt he..

Congratulations...wishing you all the very best for a H&H journey.

I remember feeling very much the same when I fell pregnant with #2, although my DS was almost 2....I felt sad for him because he wasn't going to be my baby anymore. "could I possibly have enough love to love another"...these feelings disappeared and resurfaced again just before DD was born. Looking back now, I think for the most part it was hormones.

All the best....

Congratulations, Meegm! Wishing you a very H&H pregnancy :confetti:

Congratulations on your pregnancy! :D

You WILL love your new bub just as much as your first, it is amazing how you can have enough love for two!

When I was pg with #2 I found this article written by Kelly really comforting: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/baby/loving-two-children

Wishing you a very happy & healthy pregnancy :)

Aww firstly congrats on your pregnancy!I have a 9 mth old who will be 17 months old once number 2 arrives and it was an unexpected pregnancy and I am still getting my head around it all- just the thought of 2 seats, prams etc makes me feel tired.:rolleyes:

I think that is why pregnancy is 9 mths long- it gives us time to get used to the idea and although at times I dont feel like I could ever love another baby as much as Iz Im sure those feelings will pass once this little one arrives. Ive heard someone say that the love you have for one isnt split between the two but rather your love multiplies with each new child. I love that thought.:)

Good luck telling your partner - I think you should do it and you might then feel more supported. I think its ok to cry and feel like you aren't ready and then move onto to getting prepared and excited.
:hugs: to you and let us know how you go!

congratulations!

i fell pg with my second when Nixon was 9months old. i had already accepted a job to go back to work 2 days a week in the May. i waited until i was past my 12weeks before telling them & only end up being there only 4months.
you are not onblicted to tell them so i wouldnt just yet.

maybe once you have an ultrasound and see your little bub in your belly it will start to seem more real iykwim?

and somehow we do just share our love between as many children as we have!
have u told your partner yet?

Hi and congrats on a miracle!!:dance:

I know all work places are different, but at my work as long as I returned to work as planned 12 months after taking my Maternity Leave for #1, I was allowed to leave 6 weeks before EDD, without a certificate, and be entitled to another lot of paid leave. It was fortunate for me though that only ended up being 1.5 days to get another 3 months pay, as I went into early labor at 31 weeks, and was given strick instructions from Hospital no work. I was so happy (not about early labor, but that I got another 3 months pay for working 1.5 days) :dance: . I would speak to your HR, you might find out something similiar.

I hope your feeling better about it all now. How exciting, having two close, is the best thing ever. Of course we have our bad days, but so does everyone so matter the age gap. They are so close, they love to play together, and they keep each other amuzed with is good.

Good luck with it all hun, I'm sure you will love each of them as much as the other, and make a fantastic super mum.

Take care.

I am feeling so much better about it - DP is happy so are the family ...

:dance: Fantastic news hun!!! It really does take a while to sink in doesn't it, and I keep looking at Izzy and hoping that I can give her the attention she needs once bubby is here, but I keep telling myself it will be fine, thousands of other people do it and so can we!!

exactly what i thought Tanstar.... :) :D

My brother and I are 15 months apart so if my mum can do it I can... :pray:

Congratulations! That really is nice news..just think how they can play together on a similar level and be so close! Have you real the Jools Oliver book 'minus nine to one'? She got pregnant with her second bub when her first was only 3 months old...its a really nice story of how her family grew and her life changed around her and how she dealt with it all. - great book and fun & easy to read. All the best.

Congratulations meegm! How lovely to hear such news! I remember back ages ago our babies had the same due date.....wow.....

I'm glad all went well for you, and here's to another lovely little person joining your family.

Hey Feathertop Thank you - Yep thats right - hows your little one going

My monster is walking now he only 9 months and being pregnant again im so much more tired than last time...... getting into everything ...

Meegm,
Congratulations honey. Trust me. They are going to be GREAT friends and to tell you the truth, u get into a routine and it's not that hard! You get into the routine of dad looks after the older and u look after the new bub when u go out as a family and when u go by urself with the two, I find I carry the bub to a trolley and hold the toddlers hand and then put the bub in the capsule part of trolley and toddler into the main part and it all just works. I love it. I have three now under 4 and I love it. It can be hard and demanding, but it is so worth it. The love and laughter is just so special!
Congratulations and I am sure once u get the hang of having another bub, you too will love it all!

Congratulations on your pg

wishing you a happy and healthy nine months

You are an ispiration Kat - 3 under 4 thats great - thank you for your support im getting used to the idea now and im happy im sure ill be ok ..

Thank you again..

Hi meegm, Angus has been pulling himself to stand for a month now, and furniture cruising with ease for a week. He'll walk holding our hands the length of the house no worries. I'm sure walking alone isn't too far away either!

Look after yourself.

Oh - jsut a quick question, are your pregnancy symptoms etc the same as last time, worse, different ones etc? Just curious.

Hey F,

I would give Angus 3 weeks and he will be walking.....

And so/so withe the symptoms this time the MS is less than with lee I had it 5 weeks to 13 weeks with him, Now I have good days and sick days which im not complaining about at all, and im heaps more tired... but i put the tiredness down to running after a 9 month old.... and im getting the round ligament pain earlier than before aswell.. like when i cough or get up too quick.....

Im hoping for another boy....

I thought he won't be far off walking!

Boys are lovely aren't they? If we get around to having another I'd like a boy again.

for sure hes my little treasure, you know im kind of afraid to have a girl - dunno why but i am ...

I just want to say congratulations on your pregnancy! You will get your head around it soon and you will be very excited. In my case, I have a 2 year old and I 16 weeks pregnant with my second and I too was worried about how I could love another when I am so in love with my DD! But let me say, when I went for my ultrasounds with this new baby (its a girl) I had all this emotion flooding back to me of joy and excitement. Just because it is your second, it is just as amazing and special. I love this baby already with same amount of love I have for my DD and I can't wait to meet this little bundle of joy! I hope that makes you feel better.

OMG Megan! I've only just seen this. CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Its been such a long time since we've heard from you. How's Lee going??

I know it seems scary to be having another baby so soon but don't worry hun, you're a great mum to one so you'll be an even better mum to 2!!

We're actually TTC#2 (just incase it takes as long as the last time to get pg) and even though we really want another baby, the idea of having to cope with 2 is such a scary thought.

All the best with this pregnancy Megan. Dont be a stranger!! Come in and let us all know how you and Lee are going xx

He Tina great to hear - i will drop in and say hi - i have been so busy back working about 20 - 30 per week god its draining being preggas, have 9 1/2 month old Who is walking mind you ill drop in soon and say hi to everyone...

and dont be to suprised if you get preggas within the first 3 months of trying ... i wasnt even trying. HA!

Congratulations lovey!! Even though a surprise :p I am so excited for you!

Completely understand the thoughts of whether love can be shared equally.....will you be able to etc..........this was actually one of the hesitations more so on DH's part but mine a little when thinking about having bub#2 but omg!! Like someone has already said, you just can't imagine life without them!! DH feels exactly the same!

Thinking about it all is far more daunting than when the time comes to just get stuck in and enjoy a new baby and an older sibling. Its like a switch goes on to say, okeedokee, mummy to 2 now..........and you just kick in iykwim. Take it one day at a time and natter away even if you're not sure if you're making sense :) keep chatting xx

It is just so beautiful to watch my 2 play together......even if DD#1 is a tad rough :redface: but I call DD#2 my little bulldozer anyways, hehe.

You're going to be such a fantastic mummy to 2 miracles.......you're already so fab with your first little precious! I don't think its a case of sharing the love you have now over your 2 munchkins - I think that your love tank increases in volume so that you're giving the same amount of love to your second as what your first was and will still continue to receive........if that all makes sense.:)

Thinking of you and congratulations again lovely!! :confetti:

Mwa!!

right i m coming back to you girls to say hi... ..

meet you there..........;)

Megan,
Congratulations - better late then never!
Lee sound like he is going great, and by the sounds of things, you are doing a great job, so, i am sure you will do equally well with another little one. I dont think you are alone in your feelings.
We are ttc, and as much as i want a girl, i probably want a boy more, which is strange, but, i think, we end up wanting what we already have, cause, sorta like, been there done it type thing. And besides, we have all the clothes!
You will do fine.
Look forward to seeing you back in the junies thread!