This is a poll to see what BellyBelly Members think about childcare. Imagine you were not restrained by money - what method of childcare would you opt for?
Discuss why you chose this option!
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This is a poll to see what BellyBelly Members think about childcare. Imagine you were not restrained by money - what method of childcare would you opt for?
Discuss why you chose this option!
I'd use some childcare to give my girls the social interaction and experience of different activites at a centre. It can also be useful to separate before getting to kinde/school!
Regardless of money, I'd still need some tim eout, too, so childcare is good for us all in that sense!
Oh i voted the other day/week but forgot to say why.
If I had all the money in the world I'd still wouldn't put Kameron into day care, I love having him home. I guess I might think differently when there is another baby to look after as well. We shall see.
Love
I wouldnt put Liam in daycare if it werent for making money. I work from home mostly, and he spends only one morning every one-three weeks in daycare. He gets plenty of social interation from going everywhere with me-we have a busy life and go out every day, and spend lots of time meeting up with friends with kids, playgroup etc. Having said this, I dont believe a moderate amount of time in daycare is bad, it depends on the individual child and situation.
I voted for a bit of both. Although I love being at home, I think that kids and mums benefit from a bit of a break. Emma loves going to day care, she does all the fun, messy things there, and also plays well and shares her things. My two older kids (13 and 10) both went to day care, and adjusted really well to school. Another consideration that I have when choosing care, is whether my child will be safe. I work in the Police Dept, and I am PARANOID about who cares for my children. In my opinion, there is always safety in numbers, and provided your day care centre is doing the proper screening, I think this offers the best protection. You just can't be too careful when it comes to child care. Jill.
I voted for a bit of both as well. I havent had bub yet but I think after about 18 months or when bub can communicate and walk, i would like a mixture of day care/ home care- grandparents and me staying at home.
I would hate to think i would be a stay at home Mum totally coz I got a uni degree to have personal fulfillment with a career and making a difference to the world :) and I think I would be a good role model for my bub if I am there for them when they need me (working school hours or only 3 days per week) and being a great Mum but also fulfilling my self needs of being Peita. I would hope this would give my bub time to get to know his/her grandparents and create a close relationship with them, plus going to daycare/homecare i think it helps them socially. I want my bub to not be afraid to go away from me and try new things. (this obviously wouldnt be at 1 1/2!)
But like I said I havent had Bubs yet so all this theory is wonderful and great, but until I have bub I probably shouldnt comment! :P
Well this bubs will be going to day care when it is about 4 months old for 2 or 3 days a week.
Ryan has said that if I want to stay home then I can but I have choosen to go back part time for a few reasons ...
1) I spent 7 yrs studying so that I could have a career and be able to make a difference.
2) I am a teacher and I love my very unstressful job. I make a commitment to each and every class that I have. I have 15 5/6 yr olds who I worry about when I am not there.
3) Because I am a teacher I get school holidays and therefore get time off to spend with my kids. Emma & Jack go to their Dad's each holidays so it will be an opportunity for me to spend time with bubs one on one which I got to do with my other 2.
4) I have no family close by that can help to look after bubs and Emma & Jack already go to a great day care centre (and have done since we moved to Perth) where I know all the staff and they know me. Emma & Jack go for before and after school care and the staff are all waiting eagerly to meet bubs!!!
and last but not least ...
5) I have done the stay at home mum thing ... when my XH & I left Adelaide to further HIS career I stayed home and looked after Emma and then had Jack and looked after him. They both used to go to day care 2 afternoons a week so I could study. When I moved back to Adelaide I finished my teaching degree and went back to work and LOVED it. Don't get me wrong I love my kids to pieces but I go stir crazy being at home 7 days a week!!! I love my job and really look forward to the me time I get there.
Wow ... seems to be something I can waffle on about LOL.
Cheers
Kelly if you ever need a break, i am happy to baby sit!! I know you dont know me (lol) but maybe we can catch up coz I have B.Ed Primary too and I am ay uni still doing Business now, so i have some spare time until bubs is born. Let me know what you think!!
I am a normal person with no psycho tendencies I promise!!
If I had no money worries, then there would be no need for me to work (not that I work now anyway! 8-[ )
I just couldn't put my son in daycare if I was able to be at home with him all day every day. I would probably use that extra money to take him with me & DP to Gymboree and swimming lessons etc!!
Kimberley goes to day-care once a week just so i can have a break.
With no family around to help it was the only thing i could do.
She loves going also and it has helped with her development.
I chose homecare and childcare. Reasons are:
Homecare
-Spend time with her
-Get to know her more
-Get to see her firsts. (eg laugh, crawl etc)
-Something to do so i don't get bored
Childcare
-Have some time to myself 1-2 days a week
-So she can have a social life
-So she can make friends other than with me
-So she's no so scared to leave me all the time, even if only for a few hours
When I had Ashlea i thought i would never put her in day care unless i really needed to, like so i could work. But when she was about 10 months old i put her in for one day a week cause she was bored at home with me. we always did fun things like painting and playing but she needed interaction with other kids. She LOVED other kids. Day care has been brilliant for her. Now she is in 2 days a week, cause i study and work and do the single mum thing so i dont have a choice any way.
From a personal point, I have worked in a child care centre and as a private nanny, and i dont think i would ever leave Ash with a nanny. There are some really brilliant nanny's out there, but i know first hand how easy it was to get into the nanny agencies. You provide a few ref's, a police check and act nice and your in. I did temp work where i would met the parents for 15 mins before they left and suddenly in charge of their kids. Just seems you can't trust people with everything going on in the world at the moment.
Having said all that, i adored working with kids and loved nannying, although it got a little too much being surrounded by kids 24/7 after i had Ashlea. She used to come to work with me.
At least at a child care centre its by law that there are two people in the room at all time (never happens all the time but meant to) Therefore there are always other people around, most of the time.
I had an impossible time picking a day care for Ash because i'd see things that Ashlea's dad wouldnt, and walk out complaining about everything i didnt like, and the things that they did 'wrong' just from working in centres before.
In the end i love ashy's day care and all the people in it :D
*bump*
I'm putting Willow into daycare so she can have the social interaction and so I have some time to myself. But I'm going to wait until she is at least 18 months before I do that.
Raven
my kids stay with me. i would never send them to daycare, i personally dont like it.:)
sometimes my mum or my MIL babysit for short periods but thats it. no stranger is going to look after my kids! i just dont trust them with something so precious.:)
Unlimited money? A new house so a nanny could live in it with the kids full time! JK!
Seriously, Charlie and Olivia spend one day a week in chidcare, and Lexie will be joining them when she gets to 12 months. If money was no object, I would still probably keep it at that.
I spent a long while investigating my childcare options when we first moved to this area and weighed up the pros and cons for me and my family with regard to family day care, childcare in a centre, a nanny etc etc, and I believe, that for me and my babies, I have the best possible outcome, for us, my mental state, their socialisation etc. I have also made good friend sthrough the centre.
They love "school" as they both call it. The centre is small and very personal and their carers are now family firends who we can call onto baby sit at home as well if the need ever arises.
This one day a week means I get to spend time with just me and Lexie....it is GOLDEN time for me at the moment.
When she goes off as well, it will be my day to clean and get chores done and have "me time".
I have zero family support sadly and so this one day in childcare is a fantastic lifeline of support for me.
Moeny no object: the same as I do now I reckon.......it works for us........each to their own of course!
Well things have changed since I last answered this, because I am now a fulltime uni student, so yes Aidyn does have to go to daycare.
If money were no object I would probably have a nanny part of the time, and daycare part of the time so he could still have that social interaction with other kids.
And when the kids are at day care - the nanny would be home making dinner or cleaning !
Alex starts day care at the end of February for one day a week which is fine, I'd be happy with two days if it had to be. But for three weeks in August and November he will need full time day care, which is when I'd call the nanny in.
Can we have a 'manny' like Britney Spears had ?
If I had unlimited resources I would definately be a sahm.
I must have voted at some point, but I think I would have a mix of homecare and childcare. Nanny preferably until they are 3. Just for those times when you want to have a shower... or just 10 minutes to enjoy a hot coffee. Without having to jump up & run. I have Matilda in family day care 2 days a week because I was back at work, now I'm not working with a newborn & she's still in care and asks to see kids everyday. She will start in a centre in a few months 1 day a week for more social interaction but other than that... I like her being home more than away from it. I like being involved with her & miss her some days when she's not here. I love seeing her learn & discover new things.
yeah id get a cleaner:D
Oh I'm with you Barb on the Manny! (just have to find a good looking one... apparently they can charge up to L2000 per week in London!)
I think a mix of parent, grandparent and day care for me. My boys are in Family Day Care three days per week (about to go fulltime when I go to the bar) and have had the same daycarer since Alex was 11 months old. She's really like a substitute grandparent to them, they love her and miss her when we go on holidays. She really misses them too, and often calls us when we're away (or she's away) because she wants to talk to the boys. She's more like a family member than a daycarer. And she's been super supportive, both to the boys and me, through my separation from XH.
For a time, my Dad looked after Alex one or two days a week, when I worked fulltime, and this was a blessing too. Dad also helped out a lot (as did Mum) during my pregnancy with Ned, which was awful, and I had to spend a lot of time on bedrest. Needless to say, XH's parents, who live 15 mins drive away, don't spend any time at all with the kids. Unfortunate but true.
However, Alex is beginning kinder this year (3 y.o.) which I think he really needs. He's the oldest child at family daycare, which means he's more the leader of the pack, and I think he needs to spend more time with children his age and older, so he can experience what it is like to be just one of the kids, rather than the boss (or so he thinks!)
The only hassle was making arrangements to get Alex to and from kinder and daycare! It was a huge hassle! However, it's done now, and hopefully will work out for us.
I guess it's different for everyone. I, personally, can't be a SAHM, I have to work, otherwise I go stir crazy. I truly respect those who want to be SAHMs, it's just not in me to be able to do that. I love my children deeply, but I just can't look after them full time. Again, a big part of this is career-based, but it's also my personality.
I love the mix I have at the moment, Mondays and Fridays with the kids, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Thursdays at work.
I guess what I'm saying is that it's different for everybody.
Definately a mixture of Homecare and Daycare.
Daycare twice a week and home for the other 5.
I love being home with my boys, watching them grow and learning new things, but daycare is invaluable. It helps to develop self esteem, build social skills, enhances motor development, challenges cognitive development, develops independence and self worth... I could go on, I am a little bias though as I've worked in childcare for the past 11yrs.;)
Xander was in daycare from 13wks and since having Baylee, Im now a SAHM, I think he misses it. He loved it.
my child has all those skills and has never went to daycare in her life:p (well working on social skills as she has a speech disorder but she still went to playgroup, kindergym, etc which are all 'social'.):
everyone always comments to me how well settled my jade was at kindy - she never minded if i left her - because i never forced her before she was ready;)it is a complete myth that your child needs to learn to seperate from you at daycare at a young age imo. it can make seperation anxiety way worse.(amongst other things)
This is how I see it...
No one can look after my child better than me. I am her mother, it is my job, it is why I am on this earth. I don't care how qualified or how kind the person is, its nothing against them, I just feel that I can do the best job because I know her inside and out, I know her quirks and her dislikes.
My daughter is in childcare right now and while I am sure they can look after her (I know they can) I still feel that I could do it better, but time and money doesn't permit me to do that. That's how I feel.