Please tell me in not the only weird one...

That cant sleep unless their DH (or partner) is in bed!

Im not a good sleeper at the best of times, im even worse if im in bed alone cos DH has had to go out, or stays up late watching tv, playing games or working. Most nights my sleep is only 2-4 hours. I try to nap through the day when all 3 kids go down in the afternoon.

So lastnight i was getting desparate (sp?) for sleep and on Tuesday my GP gave me a script for Tremazepan (sp?) to take in this situation. I decided id take one. So round 10pm i took a tablet...by 1030 i was feeling pretty light headed and dizzy. Gave it til 11 then went to bed.

12am....1am...2am....3am....Still wide awake and DH wasnt home. Wasnt til he got home round 320am that i finally got to sleep....til 6am when i woke again :wall:

Only time i can 'sleep' (meaning more then 3 hours) is when he is in bed with me AND if im dead tired!

I too find it hard to sleep if DH isnt with me. I know if he stays up late watching tv or if he is out, I will stay awake til he comes to bed.

I have a similar reaction with temazepam - it keeps me awake.
I would tell your GP how it reacted as there are afew other options - its like any drug, some peoples bodies are better with one than another.

On the original q, yes I have the same problem, when DH is not home becuase he is at a gig or interstate I stay up til all hours until I am ready to collapse. Im worried at how this woll work when bub 2 comes along though :(

Awww.. it must be love, love, love ;)

I have friends like that, but I'm selfish, lol. I love having an empty bed to spread out in!!

I used to be the same, I would lie there waiting to be woken up when he comes to bed but in waiting to be woken I wouldn't get to sleep in the first place.:wall:
Not so now I have 2 super active kids :leap: and am :pregnant: with #3 so pretty much fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow.

PMSL Skye I am like you ;) If Shel is out I can't sleep but if she's just on the computer or watching TV I sleep great, so much room to move lol!

If DP is out i have trouble sleeping, i know im tired but i cant go to sleep, then the second he gets home or comes to bed i crash, i dont know if on my part its an insecurity thing? I dont think so tho hehe! Definately not alone on that one hehe

I find temazapan isn't very effective and always have to have more than one tablet to get it to work. Try Restavit, you can buy them over the counter at the chemist and they work a treat for me. They're also safe enough for you to have another half a tablet if you wake up in the middle of the night.

Good luck!

If my DH is home but just on the comp or watching tv I can sleep but if he is not in the house I can't sleep. Last week he was in Melbourne for a night and I took myself and the kids off to my Mum's place and we all slept there the night lol.

I used to be the same, I couldn't get to sleep until he was in bed because nine times out of ten he'd wake me up in the process, so I couldn't sleep in anticipation that I'd be woken up. Since having DS I'm the opposite, I will fall asleep quickly if he's still up, but if he goes to bed at the same time the I find it hard to sleep.

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nine times out of ten he'd wake me up in the process,

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If i fall asleep before DP comes to bed i get woken with "lights coming on" then the lights are on until he finds his way to bed haha

I can't sleep properly unless DF is with me!

I might be the weird one! I am going to be the only freak here and disagree!! My DH snores and is very restless, drives me insane. So when he is working nightshift or away - I LOVE IT!!!! :dance: Bed all to myself where it is quiet and no doona hogging during the night - and I have a wonderful night's sleep. He has been a shift worker all our married life so I think I'm just used to it.

Yep, me too. makes it a bit hard when he is away longer term though. :rolleyes:

Anyone wondering why so many after midnight posts from me lately?

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I find temazapan isn't very effective and always have to have more than one tablet to get it to work. Try Restavit, you can buy them over the counter at the chemist and they work a treat for me. They're also safe enough for you to have another half a tablet if you wake up in the middle of the night.

Good luck!

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Thats what i used to use but never worked to well for me either!

Glad im not the onbly one that has this issue of not being able to sleep alone :lol:

Nope, no such problem here!! DH is never out late at night, if he were away from home for some reason I probably would stay up waiting for him. But some weekends he will stay up into the wee hours playing video games, and I just head off to bed and enjoy being able to spread out!! I know he's around so it doesn't worry me. The thing that bothers me (lol) is when I go to bed at 11 and he sneaks in at 4am (if he hasn't fallen asleep on the couch) and starts giving me the ol' rub on the backside!! I'm ASLEEP!! Not tonight, sweetie, you left it too long!

I know he doesn't like going to bed without me, though. Some nights, when I haven't been able to accomplish much housework during the day, I will stay up late to do things like mop the floors or clean the kitchen etc, and DH chucks a big whinge about how he doesn't like sleeping alone. I always figured it was because it meant he missed out on getting some, so I would go to bed with him for a little while and then sneak off to do housework after he fell asleep, but he always wakes up and has a little whinge about how he wants me next to him.

I used to be the same, until I started co-sleeping with ds. Now I can sleep without df in the bed but can't sleep without ds in the bed. This is a problem because I'm trying to get him to sleep in his own bed.

kim im the same!! though seeing as im extra tired this time around its not as bad, still prefer him in bed with me though!

Me i'm just a scaredy cat... I cant sleep cos i'm paranoid of strangers... Its very embarrassing... With DP on rotating shifts sometimes he's off to work when i'm about ready for bed..Wish my GP would give me something to help me...

Kim perhaps you need to try some relaxation or meditation of something before going to bed?

my dp leaves at 5 am for work, usually by this time dd is in our bed, and im dying for him to get up so i can push her over to his side, and stretch out! BUT i can never ever get back to sleep as soon as i hear him drive off!! it drives me nuts! i set my alarm for 8am, but sometimes its 7.30am and im still awake! argh!

i can doze, but can't get into a deep sleep if DH home and not in the bed with me - i'll wake up heaps looking for him, and eventually go and sook to him to come to bed. most of the time he's just watching TV and given we have a TV in the bedroom, i tell him to come watch with me (and promptly fall into a deep sleep!)

with him working away, i can't sleep much at all. i never sleep the first night he's away, and if i know he's coming home overnight or next day, i struggle to sleep too. if he's away several days, i'll sleep ok sometimes, reallllllllllly bad the rest of the time. the only time i sleep well while he's away is if i know he's asleep at the same time - i hang out for the nights when he has his long break over night so that i can sleep.

tonight will be another shocker - he's headed north again, and i will likely wake up at least half a dozen times, ring him a couple of times just to hear his voice....

hmmmm prolly should head to bed soon i think - all this sleep talk is making me tired!