Really what is so bad about dec babies!!!

GRRRR, just so upset, by some of the reactions i have had so far, and we havent told a lot of people, all my friends on bb know, my cousin, cause she is also expecting, my mum, sis and two school mums!

So far, my sister rolled her eyes when she found out the due date, one school mum said oh no, and the other said, o Dec is a bad month for u! and they never said congrats!

Ok its not my ideal month, but i feel so lucky to be pregnant again, i dont care what month, and tbh, march would be a much worse month as we already have 6 family bdays.

and i can easly add the bday gift to the xmas layby.

sorry just a little vent, i feel so let down by the negative reactions, especially my sister, but thats for a whole other thread!


Is december really that bad?
(and i may be out on my dd, so it could be early jan)

well im happy for you even if there born on xmas day lol...each baby is a precious gift whenever they decide to come

aw honey :hug:

I know some people (including myself) wouldnt like a December baby in hindsight

1. Too close to Xmas
2. What happens with schooling
3. They have to wait the whole year to have a birthday

and so on.

But whether or not they like having a baby in December really has nothing to do with them. It is you and DH's decision. :) :hug:

Oh yeah, those babies, such a darn inconvenience! Who cares about them coming when they are ready! I feel for you hon... I'd just reply with a 'Really? I think its the BEST time! Might even get to catch the baby myself!'

Not forgetting that only 3-5% chance he/she will be born on the EDD.

I've never got the whole issue around Dec babies either. My sister is due in Dec and I think it is great!

Psht. When they say something, just remind them its your baby and not theirs. :hug: And you dont view your childs birthday as inconvienent.

Your EDD is the same as my DD. I thought it was going to be difficult, but in hindsight, in the mid year toy sale I whack an extra bunch of stuff on laybuy. And bam, christmas/birthday done.

When we looked at TTC another - we contemplated what would be a 'busy' month for birthdays etc. But really, theres something in every month.

Thanks gals :D
I am actually pretty happy about it, the timing is really good, hubby starts a course in july that goes till dec, so there is no boss to ask for time off when the baby is due, and all my realatives are visiting from adelaide, so my gran will get to see her grandbaby, as a baby, and not as a toddler, and if its possiable, she may get to watch the birth. :D
And ill have heaps of family to help look after the other kids. :D

I think anyone who is able to be blessed with the gift of a baby should appreciate it coming whatever time it wants to.

But - we haven't told a lot of people yet. My mum knows... my SIL and brother (cos she's a member on here)... umm.. my boss... a few girls from work... thats it.

Haven't told my sister or ANY of DH's family... or any friends.

And I've asked DH if we can just like, not tell and just go visit them one day with a new baby.. he won't let me though :rolleyes:

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hehehe

I'd take any time of the year atm lol

When DS was due on 8th January my only fear was he'd come around Xmaz/NYE time....he didnt of course and came half way through January.

DD1 was ment to be a Dec bub and i loved it...ment nice pretty outfits cos it would be hot!

Other then the Christmas festivities i dont have any issues with a Dec bub....maybe ill add it to my list ;)

wha? what happens with schooling?? and doesn't everyone wait a whole year for their next birthday? LOL.

If we're talking schooling, then march is a bad time I reckon.. it already stuffed up trying to get DS enrolled in preschool.. they couldn't enrol him until he actually turned 3, so all those already 3 took up all the spots. We were lucky a place did become available. We won't have that hassle with DD (she's a Nov baby.. was supposed to be Dec!) so she'll be the right age at the beginning of the year.

I'm in January.. and it made things feel neat.. I started school at 5, no decisions whether to hold me back or whatever, like you would with say a April baby.. do we start at 4 & 9 mths, or hold off until turning 6...

meh - there's good & bad for every month LOL. I find it amazing that people would try and plan a certain month? Should just be grateful to have that baby!

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I was just about to say that!

Darls, its perfect for you and D.... ignore those other people! They are probably just jealous!

And dont take it too much to heart, they have NO IDEA, what it has taken for you to get here, so its no surprise they arent sharing in your happiness, but remember - its their thoughts and opinions - you dont have to take it on! Hear it, let it flow out the other ear and keep going!

YOUR PREGNANT! YOU - ARE - PREGNANT ! FINALLY! :happyforyou:

Who cares what anyone other than you and D think babe! :hug:

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This is why i love bb :D

yep, it doesnt matter when ur birthday is in our house, we make the effort to make it a big wonderful day, so even though it may be close to xmas, really doesnt faze me.

and ur right bec, its perfect for me.

I just dont know why, when im all smiles and say i am pregnant, and due in dec, they have this negative comment, even a simple congrats and nothing else would have been better, makes me not want to tell anyone else, and just share my joy on bb!

Firstly,

CONGRATULATIONS

:happyforyou: :happyforyou:

As far as schooling as an issue - you live in Qld - our school year is based on July - June birthdays which puts your bub right in the centre of the age group (ideal, I say :)) They won't be going stir crazy at home or care because they are understimulated and needed to start school already but they won't be the youngest in their grade.

As for the Christmas thing, all the best toys go on sale for Christmas not to mention the six month layby that you can get in July on cheap toys at Target, Kmart & Big W.

But at the end of the day ... all you really want is a healthy baby ... who cares when it was born :)

I hope that you have an incredibly happy and healthy nine months.

Lisa - please tell whomever gives you a negative reaction to a Dec birth to stuff it. Seriously.

We've all learned from BB that so many women would take a baby in Defebmarchober (my fake month) if only they could have a healthy bub. Is the EDD really that much of a worry? NOOOOO.

Jump for joy, scream with glee and just smile at the fact that you have a gorgeous baby in your belly whether they start school "on time" or not!!

Shari xo

My only thought hearing Dec/Jan is how much I'll feel for you in that heat!
I had DS in March & I dunno how I survived summer, lol!!

we were due on the 16th Dec but due to a cs were going to have her early Dec but it still didn't stop the negative reactions. I think it is just because December is a busy month..

I would respond with. I will get the best Xmas present ever this year be it early or late :D

Hi Anila, Firstly Congratulations hun on expecting again. How exciting. My first was born on the 20th December, and honestly almost 18yrs later come this December it most definately hasnt been a problem, and is definately not an inconvenience or a bad month for us, and hasnt been for any one around us as well. As far as the child having to wait a whole year for their birthday to come around, so does everyone. They all have to wait a whole yr for their birthdays. I believe my DS loves the fact that he gets pressies more than anyone else does when it hits December. Also what we normally do is make sure his birthday is acknowledged separately to the christmas events.
Enjoy your blessing hun, and think of December as being a special month to bring another life into the world.
My second oldest was born in November, and my last one was October, and the rest of us are March, April and May, so really I could write off the whole yr as being a bad yr. hehehe.
Hugs again and enjoy the rest of your pgcy and just think of the most precious gift of all at the end of it, your little bub.

My birthdays 3 days before xmas, it has its ups and downs. I dont know but for some reason it felt like eternity waiting for my birthday to come round so my grandmother came up with the idea for me to have a half birthday with her in June. So as a child it was fine having a birthday so close to xmas, its trying to organise a night out now on my birthday that I find hard because everyones so busy organising xmas.

Congratulations!!!

I've had my birthday in December for 37 years and there is nothing wrong with it at all :D

Congratulations!

I'm due in December too. DH's first response when I told him the due date was "Gee, that late". I think he was hoping for a birthday pressie for his 30th in November LOL. But in the end, we'll just be grateful for a healthy bub. And the heat doesn't get too bad until late January, so I'm glad I won't be pregnant by then.

Oh its so annoying isn't it. DS was due on christmas eve but decided to make an appearance on the 10th of dec. First thing everyone said when i told them i was pregnant was poor child!!! Huh??? Then when he came early they all said well thats good, not so close to christmas. Grrr... My birthday is on the 10th of june so i like the idea of a half birthday with mummy so that his birthday and christmas aren't so close together but at the end of the day who cares when they are born, they wont know any different.

OMG, this one does my head in!! There is nothing wrong with a December baby!! I feel for you being questioned about this - it's madness!!

I'm sure it's frustrating for those born in December who have their birthday close to Xmas / New Years, during school holidays, etc but at the end of the day there is a beautiful baby being brought into the world so who cares what month it's born! Some women have a hard enough time falling pregnant that the EDD month is the furtherest thing from their mind!

Hold your head high hon just because you're pregnant and you can. ;)

Pffft! My first baby was born on December the 23rd and it's been great! When she was young her birthday parties were all well attended because we used birthday venues near large shopping centres. The parents all used to drop off their children to our party and go and do some last minute Christmas shopping. And now that she is older and more selective about who she invites she has found that less people get offended they they didn't get an invite because more people are on holidays and it doesn't "get around" as fast that there was a party (girls can be so gossipy etc) Plus there were a few years that money was tight and we couldn't afford a big party... and DD felt under less pressure to "keep up" with others in the party stakes because her birthday was in late December and kinda more "hidden".

And schooling??? Nah, like Liz said: nice and tidy to start school a few months after turning 5... what's the isue there?

I dont think it really matters what month your baby is born in.
I'm sure each month has its good and bad things. I was a June baby, and when my mum went to enrol me in school when I was 4.5, the school said you have to be 5 by the end of May, and so they didnt want to take me and told my mum to come back next year. But, Mum made a special application and they took me. Apparently I was a clever kid and preschool couldnt see any reason for me to stay back a whole nother year.

I think its just because December is one of those crazy months where so much happens and people always reckin it would suck to have your birthday on Christmas day.. but really, what is more important? A healthy baby or the birthday being in a certain month? I honestly woldnt care if I had a baby due on Christmas or a few days later. My sister has her birthday a few days before Christmas and she hates it. But she is a bit of an attention seeker so maybe thats why (her birthday seems to just get stuck in the middle of Xmas craziness some years).

Claire was born in March which I think is a fab month. The only annoyance so far has been trying to get her into preschool for next year when she will be turning 3. The preschool year start in January, children have to be 3 by the time they start, so because she is 3 just after it starts, she probably wont get in fo next year unless other children drop out of the centre. But thats no big deal, I cant change that.

Seriously, dont worry about it. You'll have a beautiful baby so who cares about the birthdate?

yeh im getting teh same reactions..

i dont acre, it was meant to be, tehy will have a great birthday and an even greater x mass.
and loving teh diea of puting toys and stuff on teh xmass lay buy we do that with DS and he is in march lol

December babies also are either Sagitarrius (very friendly/popular people) or Capricorn (very good students who tend to have good career prospects) so what's there to complain about astrologically????

I got all those comments when I announced our pregnancy with DD2. I could care less what month I have a baby due, as they are all precious. Loren has only had birthday so far and I haven't had any issues yet!!! Her sister's birthday is in November so DH and I decided to treat the girls to a mid year outing when they are older!!!

BTW - If family/friends ask what to get my girls as gifts I request buying them things that are 6months too old for them. I them put the gifts away and bring them out when they are ready to play with them:)

Congratulations!! What a beautiful month to be born in - you get to make the most of all of those gorgeous christmas outfits ;)

How sad for you that your family didn't congratulate you. There is always something that people can find negatives in isn't there. When i was pregnant with dd3 , i was so sick of people saying that i bet i wished i was having a boy. (we knew she was a girl) I hadn't even given birth yet and people were asking if we would try again for a boy. (makes me angry just thinking of it again!!)

I think you should get a shirt printed saying that you're having a December baby and you're proud of it!!

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December babies also are either Sagitarrius (very friendly/popular people) or Capricorn (very good students who tend to have good career prospects) so what's there to complain about astrologically????

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OOOohhhhhh yeah soo true!!!!! :p :lol:

Huge congratulations!!! I too got those comments but its not as if there is anything you can do about it now.

It is a bit of a PITA with presents(only 2days between xmas and bday). Ive found some of the family(DF's side) only buy for xmas and skip on the bday present yet my other child gets a bday and xmas gift so thats abit unfair.

We've never had a bday party with xmas and time being difficult with everyone having their xmas parties etc. Going to change that this year by having one late november/early december.

As far as schooling the school year is based on July - June birthdays. i would have started the following year anyway(if it didnt change to the above) as i went to school with a girl born in december and she couldnt go into high school(year 8) because her bday was after the school year finished. It was pretty hard for her having to stay back and repeat year 7.

We have also done a Xmas in july for our kids by collecting money in a money tin each through out the year. In the July toy sales they get to open their tins and buy whatever they like. Dont know if we'll continue with that now i have one due in july or not.

Phooey on them. I have a beautiful december baby. School was no issue - she started when she was 5. Just like I did as a January baby. Xmas is no issue - get her presents in the same layby we put on for xmas. The only thing we always make sure is it has birthday wrapping and there is a birthday cake. Just so everyone establishes the difference. Yes - xmas is a week away - but this is LYTAS DAY! No one in the family does the birthday/xmas present convenience. So I don't see it as an issue.

Besides - January is hotter than December! I had the next baby at the end of January and wanted him out weeks earlier it was so hot and sticky.

The only thing we make sure of is that when travelling to QLD for xmas - it is done before or after her bday. We once did the trip on her birthday because my bestie was over for 2 weeks - and the second was to be spent in QLD, which meant travelling on Lytas birthday. She didn't mind so much but I found having her unwrap her presents in the car on the road wasn't my idea of a special day. Mummy already has her own traumas to deal with on that date - and we have had some birthdays that are forever tainted by badness. She will be allowed to enjoy her birthday for as long as I can ensure it.

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Damn Straight! My little Saggy is a very bubbly and friendly girl! And well, I love caps - but that could be because I am one, haha.

Anila you're in brissy too, which means the bub will be one of the eldest in their class at school. (now that we've got prep!) Babies born in the beginning half of the year will be the youngest (which means they get their license last, their 18th last, their birthdays last etc etc)

As far as i'm concerned, a december baby is great timing!

My DD is the end of November - and i'm excited for her for these reasons (she'll always be one of the first). My birthday is in september and growing up i was ALWAYS last at everything, it was VERY annoying and i hated it soo much.

Next bub is due late nov too - totally pumped! :p

Congratulations, december babies are wonderful - an extra christmas pressie for the family!! :D

How ridiculous! A beautiful baby is coming into the world - who care's when it comes! Elly was born in December and it's a great time of year weather wise to have a baby - you don't have to carry in the hot, hot, hot months, and you don't have to have a newborn in the freezing cold.

Can't say I really got those comments much anyway, except from people who don't know us - we don't celebrate Xmas and Birthdays for religious reasons so when I was a kid we had our family days, kids parties and present days at various times of the year anyway without having to worry about that sort of thing and we'll do the same for our kids.

Thankyou all so much for your beautiful words, it means so much me.
I actually have a few tears, i had a bit of a scare this afternoon, i had started spotting a little, and although it has stopped now, it made me appreaciate my december baby even more, and who cares what other people in my life think about december babies, i am so grateful to be having one!

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It is a bit of a PITA with presents(only 2days between xmas and bday). Ive found some of the family(DF's side) only buy for xmas and skip on the bday present yet my other child gets a bday and xmas gift so thats abit unfair.

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this is the only reason i think a lot of people have negativity about December babies - the laziness of OTHER people in making sure the birthday is celebrated seperately! it annoys me when i hear people saying "oh, we bought something a little bit bigger for both birthday and Christmas" - as a younger child, i find this appalling cos they DO remember that their siblings got treated special and i'm sure they'd rather have two smaller gifts... i also know of people who do the same with birthdays close to Easter (or for people who are mothers and have birthdays near mothers day!) - it does't take much to make a big deal of the individual on the day of their birthday!

i have a friend who has twins that are now at school - to make sure their birthday was celebrated, they used to have a party late november - kinda an end of year get together for their birthday before everyone got too busy. the twins always had a family thing ON their birthday, but their friends had a party with them late November or early December. their bro had his birthday in Sept, sis in November (early) so they made the big deal of it - it's not like the kids owuld forget how spesh their siblings birthdays were.

the whole "year til their birthday comes around" thing is such a crock - we ALL wait. yes, some of us get a middle year celebration - but we're not on school holidays (mostly), we're not having lots of extra time with family - pfft! i think people need to take a good long look at themselves - every baby is precious, they arrive when they arrive - and if people don't want to have THEIR baby in December - well, keep your knees together in April!

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- every baby is precious, they arrive when they arrive - and if people don't want to have THEIR baby in December - well, keep your knees together in April!

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Couldnt have said it better myself!!

My first angel baby was due in Dec.... I would have given anything for a dec birth after we lost him/her :(

Don't listen to them... they obviously have issues.

DD2's birthday is 17th Dec, I never had a problem with it and she gets lots of presents all in a week or 2. She does complain sometimes mid year that she has to wait so long but all kids do that LOL
My bro and his DD are both born on 27th december which can be a pain for them but if everyone is nice and buys seperate presents then its fine.
School is perfect for december babies cause they are already 5 when school starts.

HUGS! It shouldnt matter when you are due - it should be about the amazing fact that you are going to have a BABY!!! :)

I am a December baby - it really doesnt matter! I didnt miss out on anything. Maybe I was the last to turn 18 and last to get my License - but really, it made no difference!!!