personal question..

Good morning ladies,
i have a question that im hoping none of you judge me for lol, coz i have no one else to ask.
My DH and i are pretty "out there" with our sex life, alot motre out there than most of our friends. We use sex toys, well i guess you could that i am the only one who uses them, lol, but to the point,.. will this harm our baby? im more concerned about the vibrations than anything. obviously when my DH is home i dont use them as often but the weeks that he's away i may use it about 4 or 5 times.
again im sorry if i offended anyone :redface: but i have no where else to go to ask a question like this one...
thanks for your help xxx

Lol, I don't think it will hurt.

Dont be embaressed!!! I have been wanting to ask the same question!!! :lol:

And I have another one to add. Again really embaressing. :redface: and probably a really really stupid question.. Ok so here goes.. When me and DF DTD it is fairly vigorous and fast :redface: ok so what i want to know is and i feel stupid even saying it but it has been bothering me so much i have actually stoped DTD because of it which is leading to using the toys more, its just one big cirlce! anyway my question - can the baby be "shaken" up too much by this? As in - can the baby get shaken baby syndrome whilst it is inside me? I feel like an idiot even asking. But it is really really playing on my mind. I just feel like my poor little baby is getting tossed about all over the place in there...


Ok Stevie... now we can be mortified together!! :lol:

No don't think it will hurt but in your later 2nd trimester and third trimester I would try not put too much pressure or friction on your cervix. It might not make any difference either way but I wouldn't risk doing any damage to the cervix but that would be my only concern if I were you when using toys.

Don't worry about your baby. Thats what the amniotic fluid is there for as a cushioning and the things you let go (your hormone things can't remember the name for it) is a relaxant for the baby so it probably enjoys it.

Elyse84: i too have the same fear, will too rough hurt my little bean? i hope not, and i too have to slow everything down coz it plays on my mind so much.

Guys I DTD through 3 kids & it wasn't always gentle. I've also used toys often (Thats more embarrassing to admit than I thought!) & all my kids are fine.
As someone said, just be gentle with your cervix.

I also used toys throughout my pregnancy - particularly towards the end where DTD can be so hard it makes you think you should join Cirque Du Soleil :rofl:

Also we always have quite vigorous sex....

As long as your not in pain or feeling discomfort you'll be fine :)

Like the others have said I doubt it will cause any harm but I would be a little more careful with how deep you use it during the later part of the second tri or early in the third tri for the reasons already mentioned about the cervix.

I guess the closer to due date you get it will help you out a bit to get things rolling ;)

I have to admit I am jealous ... I cannot do ANYTHING and have been given strict instructions to not do ANYTHING (not even for a little self satisfaction) :doh: man I am going to be so edgy by the time bub comes :lol:

It might be an idea to join the AO section,chicks....

Oh no Nae! You poor honey!

Well... I have used toys pretty much throughout all of my pregnancies and all my babies are ok... none of them have stutters (which is what my friend thought might happen because of the vibrating! lol)
Dh & I are never really gentle during sex... he tries to be but hey. The worst thing that has happened to me was some spotting afterwards and a UTI. I do say it is better to err on the more gentle side though just in case. There is no risk to the bub... think about how much movement is involved in just walking... Bub is cushioned by the amniotic fluid around him/her.

Keep enjoying your healthy love lives :)

NaeNae - :hug: That sucks! Hopefully you loose your sex drive and it doesnt bother you too much. :pray: It will be worth the restraint when you meet your beautiful bubba

Thanks for all the advice guys! I feel a whole lot better about it all now! and i am sure DF will be thanking you all for putting my mind at ease also! :lol:

Now we just have to figure out the logistics of how to actually do it without ending up in tears of laughter like last time!! There should be a Karma Sutra invented for pregnant women!! I have not found ANY comfy positions yet!

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Now we just have to figure out the logistics of how to actually do it without ending up in tears of laughter like last time!! There should be a Karma Sutra invented for pregnant women!! I have not found ANY comfy positions yet!

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LMAO - Wait til you hit the 30 + weeks and you've forgotten what your vag looks like :rofl:

Seriously .... glad your feeling more comfortable about it all :)

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LaDeeDa,:ROFL: Cirque du soleil. I was making a joke about that the other night with DH.Its a good thing we have relaxin when we`re UTD.

Like others have said just go gentle on your cervix, you dont want to go stirring things up in there.

Also dont be embarrassed, use Mr Buzzy with pride. Some people dont know what they`re missing:thumbsup:

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LMAO - Wait til you hit the 30 + weeks and you've forgotten what your vag looks like :rofl:

Seriously .... glad your feeling more comfortable about it all :)

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:rofl: I have already forgotten!! I am quite massive already - and havent seen my vajutz in 6 weeks at least! Nor has DF for that matter! Down side to me not being able to see it - is that i cant maintain it either!! :redface: I am so sure i am going to get a notice from the council about the forested area being too overgrown and now causing a hazzard!!! :doh:

:ROFL:Elyse84, I may have to get the whipper snipper out soon.

What a great thread, God I so needed this laugh. Well done Stevie for starting it:clap:

elyse84: my DH wouldnt let me get too bad.. i personally would be breathing a secret sigh of relief for the excuse to be lazy for awhile. my bumps still small enough to see over :( LOL

and to kitten76: my pleasure :D my friends so wouldnt understand if i asked them >.< most of them are quite ..uh.. sheltered? hehe

Thanks for the giggles girls!!

I may as well put in my two bobs worth (as embarassing as it is!).

I LOVE my toy and so far, it all seems good so I'm not hanging it up on the shelf just yet! I do make sure I wash it very well and use the antibacterial spray after each session.

On another funny note, DH and I are so useless at DTD now that Tarko is involved! Neither of us have managed to reach the big O (by actually DTD that is) cause we both end up giggling and the mood kind of changes. It's always a positive mood and we're always laughing cause we just think we're so damn useless at DTD these days!!! Our mate asked what we'd been up to the other afternoon and DH said to me later that he was thinking 'oh you know, trying to have sex but failing miserably!'. Hilarious.

okay so i was reading this thread and was having quite a giigle to myself...altho i never had sex when i was preg (except for at bout 14 weeks) i lost my libido for most of it nut then in the last 3 weeks before i had him i used Mr Toy quite a bit oh my how embarrissing...:redface: but i always enden up feeling guilty after wards as DS was in the still vibrating!!! lol thatnks for bringing up the memories!!

Just to confirm what many others have said, enjoy your toys they will not harm your baby providing that you keep them clean

What a great thread! I'm sure all of this is totally fine as long as you don't get too rough and like others have said keep hygeine front of mind with your toys! It's funny because DF & I used to be like that but since being preg I've lost my drive and only feel like it very occassionally :( I never thought this would happen to me!!

Anyone know if sex drive and the sex of the baby are related? Someone told me that you want it more if you're having a girl and less if you're having a boy although I'm not sure if there is any truth to this??

Enjoy your men & your toys girls!

Fi, I dont think theres anything in that. With my last PG I was ravenous:p with this one its been a bit "meh" and Im having another girl. I think its just hormones

OH you guys are getting me so jealous!! And a good case of the giggles...

I am with Nae - my OB actually told me with my son and this one that we could have sex, only DH had to use a condom (prostin in sperm) and I wasn't allowed to O!! So that kind of took all the zing out of it for us... Boo Hoo for us... Go for it ladies!

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Anyone know if sex drive and the sex of the baby are related? Someone told me that you want it more if you're having a girl and less if you're having a boy although I'm not sure if there is any truth to this??

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I'm having a boy and Dp and i have only DTD five times since i got pregnant. I don't want anything to do with male bits.

Although, my toy has been getting used a fair bit. Weird huh, don't want the real thing but am fine with the fake one. Lol:rolleyes:

I think i don't want the real thing cause it's too much effort. Hahahahahaha

Especially when you feel like and move like a big walrus:lol:

Thanks girls. I agree with the effort thing. I don't mind it on my own but when it comes to the real thing.... well, who can really be bothered?!!!

Hey girls,
Stevie - So glad you asked - was wondering myself the other day so googled it...and then found a section in the brand new edition of What To Expect and, for the first time ever, they have included a section on toys (and other forms of sexual satisfaction)... and they have said that both vibrators and dildos are safe to use because they are just artificial versions of the real thing!
I sighed with relief because I have just purchased my first toy :redface:... think my husband might be relieved to get some sleep... My sex-drive has become ridiculous and it's all I think about!!! How embarrassing!!!
Anyway, good for you on the post - and NaeNae - that sucks!!! I would be climbing the walls!!!
All the best buzzing-buddies!
Lily