Do you think this is over the top?

[Tinks]

Someone I know has a daughter graduating grade 6 tonight. She's commented on FB that her DD is in tears because she broke a nail this morning and that it's going to cost her money to have it fixed, then said she had her first leg wax last night for graduation.

I can't believe the lengths people go to for a grade 6 graduation! They're 12 yo girls for goodness sake! Why can't people let their girls be girls? They're only young and innocent for such a short time.

I searched high and low for an age appropriate dress for DD's graduation (there aren't many around) and she looked beautiful. I styled her hair and let her wear some of my jewellery. She loved it and felt very grown up while still looking her age. Actually this year's girls all looked lovely, none of them were 'overdone'. Last year when DS graduated was a different story, I didn't see any fake nails but there were high heels, make up and elaborate hairdos on some of the girls from the other campus.

[Jewel]

I personally think it's a bit over the top, yep.

[Pretty Butterfly]

I think its so wrong.
The tarting up of little girls today is just gross!!

I only just let my DD, (12) shave under her arms, she had lots of dark hair and we were in Fiji. She WILL not be getting nails for her grad!!

A leg wax???

My mum is getting DD an battery shaver for chrissy, for her underarms and legs. Even then she had to talk me into it!!!

[Rowellen]

Yep. Way over the top. Let kids be kids. They have plenty of time ahead of them to be grown ups.

[Lisa]

At my daughters Yr6 graduation last year, some girls went all out! Some turned up in stretch hummers and almost all of them had fake tans, fake nails and their hair upstyled at the hair dressers. My DD went in a gorgeous dress, heels and I did her hair and she was (I think) much more beautiful than the other OTT girls.

[Catastrophic]

Agreed let kids be kids. they are growing up too fast these days...

[appletree]

A leg wax !!!

What the??

That is just completely scary... She is 12!

[Nicambhar]

OMG, a leg wax and fake nails, that's crazy...

[sloane]

Yep. Way over the top. Let kids be kids. They have plenty of time ahead of them to be grown ups.

:yeahthat:

we had to wear our school uniform for my grade 6 graduation

i can't believe what it's like now. makes me sad to see them growing up so fast

[widdly]

wrong wrong wrong

[Floweryfields]

Definetly over the top - gosh I was only just allowed to start shaving my legs in grade 6! We didn't have a graduation for year 7 (in Qld) as we stayed at the same school. I was allowed to have my hair done for my year 10 one though (first time ever), but Mum made my dress and I did my own makeup. I didn't even get nails or makeup for year 12.

[Phteven]

I've got no issues with a leg wax. If they're old enough to want the hair removed and they want to wax then that's their choice.

Fake nails..... well looking at my mangled nails I think that maybe my mother would have been doing me a favour if she had placed more importance on my manicure.

[Pretty Butterfly]

ausgirl, completly agree, great post.

Imagine having to "doll up" to be pretty or accepted, at 12!!! sad really.....

Frantelle, noone is saying anything to the parents, this is just our opinion. And I stand by mine. Its what i believe.

Onyx....

I worry that you cant stop making your kids "older" once you start.. if your treating a 12 like 16, how do you then slow it down?
Do you one day say, "Now we have to stop, go back to acting your age for a few years, then we'll get back on track"..?? You cant ask them to act much older, then expect them to stop going at that rate.. I've seen disasterous results...

I'm tying to slow mine down, not speed them up!!!

[Frantelle]

Pretty Buterfly - Your opinion is yours and mine is mine and I do not think that I disrespected you or your opinion but I am noticing a lot of hostility in your response.

I am reading a lot of tut tutting on this site recently. I think that a lot of these opinions are said in a holier than thou attitude. Just posted to see/confirm that their opinion is validated by others.

[Taurean]

I would not do it to my daughter but I also believe each to their own. How would you like it if someone told you how to dress/parent your child because they did not agree with the way you did things

I think you need to remember that no one has 'told' the mother how to dress or parent her child. The OP has simply questioned if us here on BB think it's a little over the top. Some agree, some don't - no one was posting to argue