I have a problem which is eating me alive since yesterday arvo.
I gave DS $10 for the school Mother's Day stall on Wednesday night. Yesterday, when he came home i asked him if he bought anything for me?
DS- " I didn't know where the stall was"
Me - "O.K. Where is the money then?"
DS - "I spent it"
I went ballistic. I told him he was grounded. DH took him into our room and talked to him nicely about it. He finally confessed.
He wanted to play footy with the kids in his class during lunch. He took his Sherrin footy to school (the small Sherrin footy which kids size) but the kids were using the adult sized footy and he couldn't kick that big ball properly (he is 7 and not very athletic, solid build), so asked them if they'd play using his footy. A kid in his class grabbed it off him and kicked it into the grasslands of the school property. He couldn't get his footy because it was long grass and it was wet. So no footy atm. He then asked the kids if they'd let him play if he gave them some money. They agreed. He gave one of the kids his $10 and they allowed him to play.
I can't believe it. The day before we got his Sherrin footy, he did not sleep that night because he was so excited about owning a "real" footy and now its gone.
Some of you know that he is a gifted kid. He is 7 and in year 3, so his peers in his class are about 2 years older than him. He is often left out in the playground or in sports. The school playground is divided into sections to reduce bullying. Grades prep -2 play in one area, and grades 3-6 in another area, so he can't play with kids in the lower grades who are his own age.
I have approached the school and am waiting for a phone call. I am soooo over this. I can bite someone's head off at the school. I just want to wrap him up in cotton wool and not want to get hurt at school.
What do i do? How do i approach the school without yelling at them?
the poor little sweetheart, why do kids get so nasty?
i suppose you can't ask the school to let him have play time in with the younger kids, as that would create more of a divide between him and the kids in his class. have you thought of putting him into a montessori school? they do things at the kids level, whatever that may be, and it is based on the kids desire to learn, whilst teaching them in a 'real life' setting. maybe something you could look into?
other thn that i have no real advice, i feel it for your little man, and youself who's heart must be breaking. school life is tough, and unfortunately, sometimes you have to be tough to get through it, but it's not fair.
I'd love to take him to a Montessori school but there are none near us. This school has a bus service which picks him up and brings him back as both DH and i work.
I will talk to the school about allowing him to mix with his own age group during lunch and recess in their area.
They did want to keep DS down in grade 2 last year just for social reasons but still give him year 3 work and we thought that the teacher wouldn't be able to do it properly. Teachers now days have enough on their plate as it is. Plus, at the end of last year, he got an academic excellence award which had grade 1 on it. He was most upset and so was i. When i approached the school, they told me that the teacher did not know which grade he was in Yes, he was in a composite 1/2 but you would know which child is in which grade level, so that broke our confidence in the school too, hence not allowing him to stay down but to move on into a straight year 3.
Children are sooo mean these days. We never had this back in our days
We had troubles with DD in kindy. It was horrible.
It was a great school. Small with only 12 kids & like family. I do still miss the caring community aspect of the school, but anyway.
DD was the only one in kindy. There was one boy in year 1 & 2 girls in year 2. After a few days Jazz started saying that J (boy in yr1) was being mean, but I told her to ignore him.
Then I saw the girls in year 2 & how they were. If they were alone with her they were great, but once they were together they ran off & hid on her & tried to avoid her.
Then she came home with bruises all over her legs. I asked what happened, she said she didn't know. Then a few days later she said something about J throwing rocks at her. I realised that thats where the bruises came from & I was infuriated!
12 kids & noone saw that! How hard is it to watch 12 kids!?!?!
So I went up & talked to them, & they did fix the problem with J. He & Jazz are now great mates, but the 2 older girls were still the same.
After she finished kindy I decided the school was just too small for her. She was hanging out with 10 & 11 year olds.
Now that we are here she is so happy. The principle told us this morning just how much she's improved & how hard she's trying. She's really popular & just so happy.
We moved 8 hours away to the small town my mum lives in, but her being happy has made life all round so much easier.
I know changing schools is a bit drastic. Not something thats really possible.
This school fits Jazz's personality better. I'm so glad I did it.
I'm not sure if my post helps at all. I thought I had something really helpful to say, but my mind went walk abouts again when I changed nappies, lol.
Just know there are others going through the same. It can get better. I hope the school agrees to him playing with the younger kids.
Sorry my posts wasn't as helpful as I'd hoped .
Nobody wants to play with him -LOOONG
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Yes, he was in a composite 1/2 but you would know which child is in which grade level, so that broke our confidence in the school too, hence not allowing him to stay down but to move on into a straight year 3.
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