i have a 5yr old but i'm no longer with dh and have been that way for several years. i have become financially stable enough to now have another one on my own, which i yearn desperately to do. i was just wondering if there was anyone out there in the same boat, would love to hear from you.
Hi, I have a 19 month old and have been a single mum since I was pregnant. I would love to have another baby, but unsure how to go about it. Would love to hear any ideas you have
Hi ladies. I'm not in this situation, but would just love to stop by and say my hat comes off to you and all the other mums and dads out there who manage alone to do what I think is the toughest role life has to offer.
I have a hands on husband, and great support network of family and friends, yet still find raising my 19 month old (yes, only 1 child) the hardest gig ever, despite feeling as ready as I ever thought I could be to become a mum.
Greatest of luck to you and I'd love to hear how you manage the day to day ...
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I am single and have just had my gorgeous little 5 week old girl with a known donor. Prior to this I was trying to get pregnant with an anonymous donor through a fertility clinic. I have many friends - mid 30's women - who are choosing to have children while they still can and are using different fertility techniques. I did a fair amount of research about the different options before a embarked on the process... so happy to respond to questions. The best start I think is to book an appointment with a fertility clinic who will chat through the standard conception options... and then explore other options as well. The legislation and processes differ greatly from state to state, and the pro's and con's of the different options have wide variation in them, meaning that its a very personal choice depending on what feels right for you. There are some really useful websites if you decide to go ahead with donor insemination. There are also some that I think seem fairly dodgy. There is one I know of that is a Free Donor site which matches up women who want to have children with men who offer to be donors for free... (its illegal to get paid for being a donor in australia) This site however seems to offer very little in the way of protection and I would be very warey. The key factors are of course protection from transmissible diseases (including HIV which requires a 3-6 month testing window) and legal protection from custody issues. Oh dear, my baby is awake... gotta go... send questions!
Rhianon
Thanks so much for replying. I have been looking at various web sites, I looked into the fertility clinic, I just felt like there were too many interventions, and I know for some this is highly reassuring, but I personally would prefer to do it by self insemination.
However saying that, looking at some of the postings on different websites, you just don't know how safe it is. Some sound ok but you never can tell. I have asked a friend of mine, but he lives in Canada, and actually wants involvement with the child. Even though I have been single since I fell pregnant the good old fashioned way to a friend and he isn't involved with my son, just the limited contact I have with him is driving me batty.
How did you go about organising a donor? What sorts of things did you need to know from him, and how did you go about it, did you need to draw up any contracts, did you go through the clinic for the insemination, or did you do it yourself, how did you prepare yourself for the pregnancy, fertility drugs, vitamins, how many attempts until you fell pregnant? sorry hahaha lots to ask
It's' funny, I already have one, but trying to do it this way seems to be like a military operation hahaha so much to think about.
I am a single mummy to 2 beautiful kids, and it is the best thing ever.
I dont know how you would go about having another one- would you use a donor or would it be by someone you know?
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