I've had a hell week in the gastro/food poisoning type way.

24 hours into it, i got the hot/cold/teeth chattering, heavy breathing stuff, so i rang Ex (at 11.30pm on a Tuesday night), to tell him i did not feel capable of looking after bilby, while i was in that state.

He was amenable, came straight over to get her, took her to his home. Agreed to take her to kindy the next morning (so i could stay home and be ill without having to drive her to kindy, inbetween being sick).

But while i was on the phone, he said "you can both come over here and sleep". Which i didn't quite get, cos i wanted to keep her away from me (possibility of infection) and i know when she's around me, she wants kisses and cuddles - we are pretty cuddly usually.

So i just answered, "thank you for helping out with bilby".

The entire time, since i left him, he has never pinned me down to WHY i left, WHAT would have to change, for us to come back.

He knows we live in a high crime rate area, horrible to live in. Has he been waiting for me to be in vulnerable enough state, that i would agree to move back?

At the time, i had a gut feeling, it is important that i DON"T give in, and DON"T sleep over, even when i'm sick as a dog and could really do with some looking after.

He had a car crash maybe a month ago, (with bilby in the car), i came and got them from the crash site. I'm a helpful person, she is my daughter, i'm now wondering, does he interpret these things as "she's still interested".

Side issue: i am not impressed that the gastro was four days for me, and not the standard 24hour thang. 4kgs down but not my fave weight loss technique.