poor little things, i wouldnt put my kids through that, i know kids are 'meant' to see the other parent but is it really worth it to have ur kids crying and upset? im not trying to argue lol but im sure u could give them 100 times more love to make up for the father being like that
When he does take them he is a really good dad and the kids love him...I get pi$$ed of that he upsets them (usually I don't tell them till last minute) I can't deny them their dad. My older 4 lost their dad last year and I don't want my younger three to miss out also.

My Dad raised us and when my mum used to come and pick us up to avoid us having the bags packed and her not coming she would have to pack our bags when she got there. My Mother saw us about 4 times a year when we were younger and even less as we got older. Now she has nothing do do with any of her 5 children by her choice. Some parents just suck at being parents
That is sad