Ok, some background for those who haven't read anything on it.

When I was young and stupid I married a moron and had 2 kids. Then I grew a brain.

XH wanted all the stuff, and to keep all the stuff, he and I signed a statutory declaration (two in fact, one each) that stated that he got the stuff, and I got all "parental rights and responsibilities" of the two children. When I attended court for the divorce hearing, the judge asked about custody and settlement and I advised of the Stat Dec and what it contained and that we were both in agreement with these arrangements.

Zoom forward 10 years to today. A couple of days ago I got the surprise of my life. A letter from CSA turned up and said he has to start paying me more than the base rate... I could have dieeeeed!

If you were a fly on the wall in XHs place though - you'd get a show. He is not going to be happy. He tried to get me to agree to him not paying child support at all and the ONLY reason I got away with that one was I told him its out of my hands - centrelink and CSA control that - not me.

But what if now he decides since he is paying so much, he wants to start sticking his nose in more - or worse, want shared care so his rate gets reduced (he is sadly smart enough to work that out).

Where do I stand on that? Kids are 13 (on Sept 18) and 12 (On Aug 28). Do they have a say in it?

Help!