It's Over! :(

:hug: talk to his mum and your friends. Why should you be without support so he can save face! OMG just reading that made me sooo angry for you because it's obvious he knows he's being an ass and doesn't want everyone to know :rolleyes:

:hug:

Big hugeee hugs. :hug:

OMG big hugs :comfort:

What did he think was going to happen when you had a baby? of course the baby is a responsibility. Im so sorry you have to go through this. I am so upset for you to find out the engagement if off over facebook what was he thinking :shakehead:

I think its really good to speak to him mum if you are close, she is your baby's grandmother and she will always be connected to you in that way. I think its wonderful you can keep in touch with her and chat to her. You may want/need her support/help when your new bubba comes.

Sending you big hugs to get through this and for being so strong.

Bel
xxx

Hey Ladies.

Just a quick update to let you know i got thru the night ;) perfectly may i add.
he called me at 11.15pm last night and wanted to "talk" as he was drunk staying at his mates as his being a VIP at the surf comp again today (so more drinking) i told him that i had nothing to talk about, that he has made it clear that we were over and that he should choose a day to come pick up his gear and move out! he then proceeded to tell me how F%$*ed i was and that i have gone "mental" and that i need help. I responded YES thanks to you i do need help!!! no hiding that.
anyway i told him that i was going as unlike himself i have a child to look after tomorrow! anyway doesnt seem his to fussed as he is heading to 2 festivals in the next fornight this sat he is going to Goodvibrations and next weekend is Future!

I called his mother and we are going over there for dinner tonight! i know she and FIL will be great as they adore DS.
im not to worried about my living arrangements as the house we are in atm, is my dads and we are buying it off him so to speak and i called him this morning and explained what is going on! he has told me just to pay what i can spare each week! money wise im also not that worried XDP is on quite a large wage and im working 1 day a week as a nutritionist/dietician in which i could go up to 3 days a week as there desperate but i dont want to leave oscar 3 days as i already find one day bad enough!
anyway ladies i just wanted to thank you for all your wise words and wizdom!!

I CAN AND I WILL DO THIS! tbh i cant see him coming back nor do i see myself taking him back! im over it. if im going to be a single mummy to my kiddies id rather do it ALONE all the time not just on the weekend, haa imagine telling oscar when his older oh on weekdays daddy is a good daddy on the weekends daddys a drunk! no thanks!!!

Well done hun, you are strong and you can do this. You have a wonderful positive attitude and I am so proud of you.

Regards,
Dianne

A great positive attitude you have there :clap: You need this to start your life over. Look forward to seeing how things pan out for in the future. Good luck with it all.

Wow Brooke!!! You have done amazingly!

I just want to offer huge :hug: and lots of support. You are a very brave and courageous woman! It sounds like you have a very lovely and supportive family.

If you are separating, make sure that you let Centrelink/FTB people know ASAP - you may be entitled to different payments which may help you out a bit financially.

Good luck with everything. :hug: :hug:

Like the other lovely ladies have said, you have such a great positive attitude. You are a strong woman who is doing what's best for your bubbas and yourself and I wish you all the best.
Big hugs!

Im sorry to hear your going through this :(

Great attitude though.

If you ever need someone to chat with from out side the box im happy to meet up for a coffee. im on the gold coast at least once a week :)

You go girl!!!

Yep as Lady Zaidie said wash that boy (and he is a boy) right outta ya hair!!!

I have no doubt his mum will be on your side, she knows how hard it is being a mum and sounds like she knows what an idiot he is!!

Not only are you looking after yourself by not having him around you are also looking after your children's best interests as well and that's what we mama's do!!!

So, stay strong, you have a whole lotta BB'ers backing you all the way!!!

Lots and lots of hugs to you.
Laurin x

You go girl! You sound so much more decided and confident in your last post compared to the ones where you've been worried about the x - it may be hard but I'm proud of you for looking after yourself and your children before the prat. Well done.

Rock out brooke :) Well done you! I think you've definately made the right decision, it may be hard at times but you know you've done the best thing for you and your children, and they'll be proud of you for that. And we're all proud of you too :)

Just wanted to give you a big hug!

:hug: I love that in such a sad and upsetting time you seem to have a clear head and are putting your bubbas first. I dont see too much of that as lets face it sometimes its easier to give in or stay etc...Just remember that some things are worth fighting for and your and your kids happiness is up there on top :)

Hold onto that strong maternal instinct, Brooke... Needing to be there for your babies will keep you going through the rough times, and they will be there to comfort you through your doubts..

Do not at any point in time be afraid to come back and talk though.

You have every right to be furious with him, and that anger will keep you grounded and focussed.. But allow your heart a little time to feel sad too. Grieve for who he was - the man you met and loved, the man he isnt anymore, but always remember that he is who he is now.

:hug: You are going to survive this just fine... Sounds like your village is pulling together.

Hope dinner with your babies gramma was good.

stay strong huni. lots of love xox

:hug: Good luck :) I love your attitude :)

UPDATE LADIES:
Last night was a bit of a struggle for me after going to dinner with XDPs mother and father i just couldnt seem to get all the good things off my mind! he called me at approx 1030pm as im guessing his mum had called him and given him a spill, she was gobsmacked at what he has done and told me that no girl that he brings home from now on will ever be welcomed by them both! :o
she was so apologetic and told me that no matter what happens between me and sam she will ALWAYS be here for her grandchildren and that i will always be her BESTFRIEND! haha. She thinks there is something going on with him and that his drinking and bad behaviour could be his way of coping, but we all know thats NO excuse!!

anyway so the call with DP starts off civil. i accually thought we might of got somewhere like planning when and where his moving etc... but it quikly turned to how much ive F%^#ed his life up! how naggy and needy i am. blah blah blah!
I started yelling back (cant remember what exactly but it was naughty) and he puts me on hold comes back and i say dont put me on hold and his reply is well stop yelling! WTH thats the only way you listen! but apparently im dumb and my voice annoys him! LOL.

anyway we get into an arguement about why im so like i am and i say that its because his mates have ALWAYS come before his son, me and oscar have to compete against mates,beers,seedy night clubs and dirty SKANKS.. and his reply is how do you know one of those seedy SKANKS wasnt my future wife? i just told him where to stick it and wished him all the luck in finding his future skanky wife!!! :wall:

anyway im going out to dinner tonight for one of my girlfriends 21st that will keep my mind off things. Im taking Oscar hopefully he will sleep alright in the pram!
My mum offered to mind him but after all this i dont feel okay leaving him, my mum keeps reminding me that its ok to be upset but the words that have come out of XDPS mouth make me not want to be upset! i cant, if he thinks so little of the mother of children why should i ever get upset, i should be thankful his given me the most amazing gift (my babies)really! ;)