Hi there guys, my name is Lacey and I'm 21 years old. I am only 8 weeks pregnant, but I'm finding that it's difficult for me to speak to anyone in my life about what I'm going through as I don't know many mum's in general, let alone single mum's. I was with the father of my baby for a year and he broke up with me about a month ago, just before I found out I was pregnant. We lived together and I loved our little home. I still love him more than words can express and I'm really scared that my being so heartbroken is harming my baby. I know that others have been through a very similar situation, so I'm just looking to find out if it ever gets any better. I was studying to be a midwife up until recently and I would give anything to feel as excited as I should about being pregnant, but it is so hard when my ex seems so determined to convince me to abort. I have the support of my family thank goodness, but I just know that they can't truly understand how I feel. My ex messaged me today and told me that I need to get over it and if I'm not going to terminate then I have to do this on my own. Which is very saddening because two days ago he said that he would be a good Dad eventually. I'm so confused. Can anyone tell me if this gets better with time?
Some support from people that believe I can get through this would be asolutely incredible right now. I would love some advice on...well any advice on anything at all right now would be amazing
I have no advice sorry, just a big and congratulations on your pregnancy.
You'll find lots of support in BellyBuddies during your pregnancy and wonderful Ladies who have had similar experiences.
Thanks so much ladies, I've been wandering around the forum a little more and it's really cheered me up alot. I will definitely be posting regularly from now on I'm excited to be on here!
I have only been a single mum when DD was a toddler but you can and will survive it!!
It can be hard, motherhood is, but its so incredibly rewarding too and you develop such an amazing bond with your child.
Absolutely you can do this! Congratulations on your pregnancy!!
Can I ask why you have stopped studying? Don't feel like you have to completely can this if it is your dream.
I'm not and have never been a single mum so I can't speak from experience but I know that there are many single mums on here that inspire me with their tenacity and attitudes and hardwork, they will be able to hep you with advice at all parts of your journey to becoming a mum.
It is ok to be excited about this and scared and everything else you are feeling, t is normal!
As far as your ex saying you will have to do this on your own, he is legally responsible to pay child support and this is something the child support agency will help you with once your baby is born, you won't have to worry about chasing him yourself. He may also change his mind, as you have already seen happen, as time progresses
Congratulations on your pregnancy. I won't repeat everything the others have said but rest assured, when you are feeling along BB will cheer you up. You are just embarking on an amazing journey, so as hard as it is, try to embrace the positive things in life rather than dwelling on the negatives - easier said than done, I know.
I have a fave quote, read it slowly
"Things turn out the best, for those who make the best, out of the way things turn out"
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and congratulations on your pregnancy. 
I'm excited to be on here!
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