So my ex and I are talking about doing week about shared care with DD aged 9. She's currently at a school near her dad's place as she's lived with him since we split when she was 2. She's sooo unhappy there, the school isn't supporting her or dealing effectively with the bullying etc - so we've been talking about her coming to live with me next year while I'm on maternity leave and after. But tonight the subject of shared care came up, as it's something DD asked about and suggested.

We think we can make it work. We both get along quite well, we disagree now and then but negotiate settlements and organise our own stuff (no court orders etc). DD would essentially be at school near us (much nicer area) and live one week with Dad, one week with DH and I.

But has anyone done this? What are the advantages, how do the kids adjust to different rules in each house and anything I'd need to watch out for?