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Hi
Just want to put a message out to Roz 1982
I also live in Perth
I am a single mum to a beautiful 19 month old girl
i can related to how your feeling.
would really love to have a chat with you
someone who understands and also is in the same city
I really hope that you are doing ok.
Username: SJE
Real name: Sara
Number of children: 2
Separated since: 27 nov 2009
Care arrangements?: Interim thanks to family court...But it seems just the norm plus my concessions due to good morals?
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Making my babies life as normal as possible without a Dad
General comments: Where to start? Just think its so good to think ther is love and support out there!
Username: Lacey
Real name: Lacey
Number of children: 1 (8 weeks pregnant, still early days!)
Separated since: About a month ago
Care arrangements?: Will be with me 24/7
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: At the moment, the fear of not being able to do this on my own. Knowing that my baby's father doesn't love our baby the way that I do.
General comments: I only jumped on here after a google search about an hour ago, but I'm already feeling so much more hope. Thank you guys :heartbeat::heartbeat:
Welcome to BellyBelly. I became a single mum when my fiance left me at 20 weeks. I thought I would never be able to get through my pregnancy and if I did, I thought because of all the turmoil and stress I was under that I would somehow have hurt my baby in utero. Everyone kept telling me, "you'll get through this" but it didn't help me at all. The only thing that got me through, was my mum. She was on call 24/7 for the tears and knew exaclty what to say. The father of my child ignored all correspondance and all I kept hearing was how many women he's with every week. I felt so hard done by, how could this man, who made this decision with me to have a child, just walk away? It's incredible. I've now got the most angelic 11 week old daughter and although he started talking to me when she was born, for only two weeks, he's since started ignoring me again and now we're going through property settlement legal battles and child maintanence.
Anyway, sorry got a bit caught up there, I guess what i'm trying to say is that when you're down, just talk to someone who will really listen, get a sad movie and cry it out and always know that that little person inside of you will love you unconditionally. The moment I saw my daughter nothing else mattered.
You'll find alot of help on here, I still put up threads when i'm down and so many lovely people get back to me, it's great. If you ever want to chat let me know and i'll put up my email address and MSN.
Take care hun.
Kristi
Thank you so much, you are the sweetest! It helps just to know that others have gone through this and have come out of it as stronger people. I am excited for the first time since being pregnant, just from reading this forum and knowing that when the pain is gone I will have my little one in my arms.
I will be posting regularly from now on because this forum is making me happy :D Just knowing I have people to talk to helps so very much! :heartbeat:
Welcome to BB Lacey :welcome:
You'll find tons of support on here. And you know what? You CAN do it! Although at the moment it's hard, this is still a very very special and exciting time in your life :hug:
hey lacey!
yup totally agree with the support thing! i found bb through a google search as well. am not even an australian and i love it here! i live in wellington, nz, and just had my gorgeous boy 12 days ago! would you believe he can already hold his head up and is trying to roll over.. is a bit of a worry really lol, can't take my eyes off him for one second!
his father and i had actually already broken up when i got pregnant with him, it was pretty complicated so please don't think too poorly of me.. he kept saying that my family was trying to turn me against him and push him out and that he wanted to be totally involved with bub and blah blah blah.. so it went on. he cut me and bub out of his life at about 14 weeks.. and then decided to pay nice when i was about 8 months, but by that point i was totally disillusioned. mum txted him when bub was born. he never even replied. now he's said he wants to meet bub when "i'm happy with visitors" so he can have his new gf come with him, he suggested march maybe. am tempted to say "look, just don't bother"..
sorry you got the whole sob story there lol.. basically i just wanted to emphasise that you aren't alone in that we're all here. who needs a useless, childish man to make our lives difficult. just let him walk away. i was given a great piece of advice last year:
men do not grow older than 14 emotionally. you're lucky if you find a 16 year old
but your little 8 week bump will love you so much, so who needs anyone else? just make sure you have as many strong friends and family around as is possible. that is all you need. believe me!
big hug and kiss to you and your bump, liv and boo <3
Thought it was about time to admit that I belong here.
Username: Jitterbug
Real name: Jess
Number of children: 1
Separated since: Quite a few months now.
Care arrangements: Lives with me, has visits with her Dad but I always stay also.
Biggest challenge as a single parent: The fear, mostly. Not getting much of a break. Worrying about the effect this all has on DD. The battles; custody, child support -- the emotional blackmail. Dealing with heartache when you can't find a moment to cry.
hello, im not sure if i really count as being here... my story is.. i have 2 daughters from a previous relationship, aged 12 and 6.. i was a single mum for about 2 years until i got together with my now DH... we married and had a baby of our own. so im not technically a single mum anymore, but i was at one point.. hope im welcome :)
Username: MeganH
Real name: Megan
Number of children: 3
Separated since: 29th January 2010 :dance:
Care arrangements?: they stay with their dad once a fortnight
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Getting the outside chores done as they were his. The rest I pretty much did myself anyway.
General comments: I finally feel FREE! I have more time to myself now than what I had before (surprisingly) coz I get every 2nd weekend to myself now. WOOOHOOOOOO!
well I am now single again :(
Pretty much since New Years day :(
Ah the life.
Care arrangements are the older 2 go to their dads every 2nd weekend. Ashton and Levi wont be leaving me ever.
Username: Brookemorrison
Real name: Brooklyn Elise
Number of children: 1 with another on the way :)
Separated since: about 3 weeks ago.
Care arrangements?: DS is with me atm, as XDP has shown no interest in shared arrangements.
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Doing the basic things such as finding time to do things that need to be done, eg cleaning, cooking with no help.
General comments: Its easy being single i dont need to put up with his cr@p anymore.
life is alot less complicated. and im getting my old self confidence back :dance:
Username: Blujella
Real Name: Julia
Number of Children: 2 (3 and 2 yrs)
Seperated Since: Yesterday
Care Arrangements: Undecided
Biggest Challenge as a single parent: ATM getting out of bed... I'm sure it will get better!
General Comments: Looking forward to meeting everyone and getting some support!
hey there julia (also brooke - lovely to see you here! sorry i haven't been in recently)
hope you and your little ones are doing well. you're right it will get better! and hey being single is really not so bad once you get used to it. i have to say it took me from july until about october/november to really see everything rationally. and man does it feel good to be free of that w***** now!
how're you going with everything today? well i hope. just remember to eat as much fruit and vege as you can as it will make you feel so so much better about life! try to sing along to the radio or just yourself if you so inclined (i sing absently lol!) as it releases endorphins and helps lift your spirit! dancing does the same thing! and if you have a chance then pick or pilfer some flowers from a garden and have them inside somewhere that they can make you happy to look at. it makes all the difference! am currently enjoying four red tulips on my table opening in the morning to the sun and closing up at night. they make everything seem more beautiful.
love and hugs liv and boo xxxxx
Username: Claude
Real Name: Mel
Number of Children: 1 (just under 2 years old)
Separated Since: Hasn't moved out yet but will be soon.
Care Arrangements: Not confirmed but likely with me fulltime due to his work hours and see her dad every other weekend.
Biggest Challenge as a single parent: Getting up each day to look after my DD and go to work when my heart is breaking.
General Comments: Very glad I found this website
Hi, I'm 27yo, 17 weeks pregnant from Sydney East. My story is quite trivial: we dated, I got pregnant, he ran away scared sh*tless. So here I am... I'm used to super social life, and now feel totally out of place. None of my friends are pregnant or with children, and I'd love to meet other parents or parents-to-be. PM me, lets get together or something :)
Username: WasntMe
Real name: Dee
Number of children: 1
Separated since: 2005
Care arrangements?: Sole custody
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Lack of support network
General comments: Life as a single parent can be a challenge, but it is a challenge i meet head-on, every day of my life.
Username: april88
Real name: April lol
Number of children: 2
Separated since: 2009
Care arrangements?: Sole custody
Biggest challenge as a single parent?: Looking after the kids by myself
General comments: Hi everyone ! I'm April, 24 years old. Single mum to Evie 3 years old and Chace almost 2. The kid's father is still very much in our lives but i'm currently separated from him.