Hi,

I have two little ones, a 4 and a 2 year old. Boy and girl. I'm finding this single parenting thing so difficult sometimes. I get a bad case of the guilts regularly and am so hard on myself.

Their Dad has them a few nights a week as do I and they're both loved and cared for so much. There's no fighting with us or a messy separation. He's a fantastic father. He just wasn't such a good partner for reasons I would rather not go into.

But how on earth do you stop feeling so damn bad that your two kids have two homes, two beds, a set of parents that no longer live together? In the beginning, I was fine to give them up for a few nights but now as they drive away, I feel like I'm being stabbed through the heart. They are happy to go to him and happy when they return. The girl loves her Daddy and is very close with him, she will say she misses him when she gets into trouble from me.

I know this is the case and it's the way it has to be. I should just accept this and move forward and do the best I can for my children.

For those that separated when the children were quite young (like my little ones), were the kids alright? I honestly feel like I'm going to stuff their lives up big time!

Thanks for listening.

S