OK bare with me well I try and explain my situation as best I can....
DD is now in 4 year old kinder she has been at the kinder since last year when she began 3 y.o kinder....Now her current class has a handful of boys who really are trouble makers they seem to liike to annoy the other kids including my dd by taking toys off them pushing ect....Yes the kinder teacher trys to pull them up but at the end of the day there is not much she can do but tell the boys parents which seems to fall on deaf ears cause the mums just don't seem to care...
Now please stay with me and don't just click the back button
DD begins prep next year and we were lucky enough to get accepted into the private school up the road they also offered us a place in there 4 y.o kinder starting next month...I am so confused as what to do...I know that if i put her in the private kinder that she will be able to form new friends and then will move into prep with them so want be such a big deal...on the other hand i know that she will also make the friends in prep...
What shoudl I do? what would you do? would you take your child out of her kinder and out her in the new one for the last 5 months or leave her where she is?....I have spoken to dd and she says she wants to go to the new kinder but the next line is and i want to stay at my old kinder.....No one from her old kinder will be going to the school where dd is enrolled so not like there is any lobg tern friends there...but she does have friends at the old kinder ...
I am so damn confused I can see the good and bad for both situations..I just think of the times that i have seen her pushed and in tears saying she hates kinder but then i have also seen her running around and playing very happily with her friends....
Please help me make this decision either way she will be going to this school so do i do it now or just wait till next year
Only you can make this decision but here is my 2 cents worth....
Difficult choice. Talking to DD was a good step though. I think it is important to get her opinion even if it changes from one minute to the next (as it is with most 4 yr olds!).
If this was my DD, I would ask myself 'Will going to the new kinder help with her transition to school'? If I thought this was the case, I would most likely start my daughter at the new kinder now. It would give her the chance to make friends now, and the transition to school may then be smoother.
I would also ask, 'Is it possible for her to still maintain contact with her friends from her old kinder'? as this may make her feel happier about starting at new kinder. However, if she is never going to have contact with those kids anyway once she starts school, this may not be a major issue.
These are just my brief thoughts. Obviously, I don't know your DD and I am sure you will have thought about it more deeply and thoroughly than I have. I sincerely wish you well though. Just remember, you can only make a decision with the info that you have before you now. So don't beat yourself up down the track if you feel that you made the wrong one......
At that age, making new friends is a very quick process. So I wouldn't worry from that PoV.
But I'd be more concerned about how it would affect going to school afterwards.
The other thing is, if the bullies' parents are doing nothing about the bullying (and yes, it can be classsed as such) then I'd move to a school were there were more concerned parents. Bullying in the early years can affect the brain and personality of a child so much - take it from someone who was bullied from the age of 2 by a girl 2 years older whose mother didn't care!
Even though she happily plays with her friends, this group of boys will still be leaving an impression on her and the others they are treating this way - even if they are not being affected personally by having toys taken off them etc, it still affects them in that it is disruptive to their day. There is one boy in my DD's preschool class that has a few developmental issues and he is what you could call a 'bugger of a kid'. He isn't a bully to the others, but he is always doing something he shouldn't be and is quite disruptive to the rest of the class - he will make himself vomit at meal times or tip out the drinks of the children sitting next to him etc or he is just loud kwim? I can guarantee that when I ask her about her day when I pick her up that she will have something to tell me about what this boy did and his escapades which far outweigh what she can tell me about the rest of her day - if I ask her what did she play on or do in the classroom, she says she can't remember, but if I ask her what did xxx do today, then she can tell me in great detail what this boy did and that worries me. I worry that she will have more memories of this boy doing what he does than she will of what she did with her friends kwim?
So if it were me I would put her into the new prep. It will help her have confidence in the early days of school if she knows a few children already and make the transition to school easier. I don't think it is something that you can let her decide though as like you've seen, she changes her mind from one week to the next. If you do decide to do it certainly let her know, but tell her in a postive light.a
How many of you can remember people you were in Prep with? Friends at that age are mroe important than you think, so if she can start building the relationships now, she'll have a little bit less to deal with when she moves on to Prep.
I know the Melbourne childcare and kinder scene pretty well, so if you want to PM me the specific details, I'll talk more about it.
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