Now, my Dh is amazing!! at least i thinkhe is he puts up with an aweful lot from me, and this was before pregnancy so now its even more so.
But as of the last week or so, he has been VERY unsupportive. Now as most of you know, i have whooping cough and have had it for over a month so far. So as you can imagine i am pulling my own hair out and am completely over it. So i have become a little more absent minded and a little less effectionat (sp?) coz i just dont have it in me at the moment.
But i am SO over hearing "i just dont know how you can honestly forget so much!!" things along those lines it really gets to me and i understand he too is frustrated (we thought for a couple of days that he too had whooping cough, and coz symptoms for WC are so much like alot of things its been hard) but really, does he ned to be like this. He doesnt seem to understand how difficult pregnancy can be, how hard it is on your mind and your body!!
Please dont think less of my beloved DH he is just so male.. he doesnt get it!!
Im just haveing a vent more than anything :P
Vent away! I know totally what you mean, I love my DH so much and in general he is wonderful but some times he says stuff which is very unsupportive. I think if he stepped back and listened to the conversation himself he would see what I mean, but he just has a brain freeze sometimes......
Like I've had morning sickness my whole pregnancy, throwing up 9-10 times a day until 20 something weeks and my all day naseau is still going strong at 35 1/2 weeks 9 times out of 10 he is wonderful but one day after I'd barely been able to get out of bed he started complaining to me how inconvenient it was for him that I was sick all the time, and was grumpy that he'd had to finish doing the dishes when I couldn't stand up long enough to finish them without throwing up. Ummmm, inconvenience - do you want to have a chat about inconvenience? You think being house bound for months on end is convenient for me?????
I think my DH just has this thing where things aren't 'real' until they are happening to him. Even when I was being sick all the time sometimes he'd be like 'hundreds of women get morning sickness and they are able to do x, y and z'.
I'm not sure how labour is going to go really.....I don't think he's really comprehending how difficult it is going to be for me because it's not really 'real' in his mind because it's not something he is going to experience.
Stevie, hopefully the unsupportiveness is just because DH has been sick and cranky too. Fingers crossed he gets over it ... and things get back to normal. I hope you get over your whooping cough soon. I know my sister and I had it when we were kids (stuck in floods in the middle of nowhere) and Mum was worried we were going to break our ribs.
Sagress, your guy sounds like he needs a good shake! I think you need to tell him what kind of comments he can and can't make when you're in labour. Maybe sit him down and ask him to PLEASE count to 10 before he makes a comment about you being pregnant.
my DP says im a winger for saying 'ow my back hurts'
He brings up the fact that he had a bad accident when he was younger and was in a wheelchair for months, or he brings up the fact that he suffers from scoliosis.
Its hard to not say anything when im in agony, but then i think about it, and i guess he kinda has it worse...
my DH just doesnt get the "pregnancy" thing.. he doesnt realise howmuch it takes it out of you. How tired you get. How much your back hurts. How you cant stand upright for as long as you used to. How you cant be quite as wild while DTD coz you cant squeeze yourself into those positions anymore lol.
he expects so much of me. But i guess he's gone half the time so he doesnt see me sleeping my time away when he's not here.
I just wish he could be a little more understanding sometimes lol.
But he IS a male.. so what more can we expect haha.
unsupportive DH!!
he puts up with an aweful lot from me, and this was before pregnancy so now its even more so.
it really gets to me and i understand he too is frustrated (we thought for a couple of days that he too had whooping cough, and coz symptoms for WC are so much like alot of things its been hard) but really, does he ned to be like this. He doesnt seem to understand how difficult pregnancy can be, how hard it is on your mind and your body!!
Reply With Quote9 times out of 10 he is wonderful but one day after I'd barely been able to get out of bed he started complaining to me how inconvenient it was for him that I was sick all the time, and was grumpy that he'd had to finish doing the dishes when I couldn't stand up long enough to finish them without throwing up. Ummmm, inconvenience - do you want to have a chat about inconvenience? You think being house bound for months on end is convenient for me?????
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