thread: Did it take some convincing??

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    Nov 2008
    Victoria
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    Did it take some convincing??

    I am struggling to have a normal (serious) conversation with DP re the use of cloth nappies. All I seem to get is jokes about pooey nappies, and how its disgusting..

    I am keen to give them a shot, I am not sure if I would use them fulltime but I would certainly want to at least give them a try parttime.

    Did you have much resistance with your DH/DP and the use of cloth nappies?? If so how did you manage to convince them otherwise?

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    Jul 2007
    Over the rainbow
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    Oh, my DH went for the "You know if we use cloth, I save $$$ and then you can go hunting TWICE a year instead of once" BINGO Idea sold

    BTW - I still have to make my nappies, so have not started yet

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    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2006
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    When DS was born we used terry squares and there was no other option as we couldn't afford disposables. In the end we ended up using disposables as well terry squares just didn't cut it with a heavy wetting little boy.

    Convincing DH to use modern cloth was a combination of costing and practicality. I had to do some serious research as to why these were going to work where the others failed. I also bought 1 to start with, to see what it looked like and told DH it was for taking photos in - so she wasn't in an ugly disposable in her newborn pics. Once I saw them and we saw how well they worked I bought a few more and then used the cash angle. Everytime I didn't spend $30 on a packet of disposables I got to buy a new nappy (about every week - week and a half)

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    Dec 2007
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    Nope no convincing here - he doesn't think they are as cute as I do though.. haha.. he doesn't rub minky against his face as much as I do..

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    Nov 2008
    Victoria
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    Yeah have tried the "cost of a slab of beer" and the money saving... but it just doesnt seem to be enough, he just doesnt want to have to deal with a pooey nappy when he can just roll up a disposable and throw it away!!

    and he just rolled his eyes when I said how cute they are!!

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    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2006
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    What about telling him that in most councils/states it;s against the local laws to throw poo in the bin - check a packet of disposables. Maybe if he realises he needs to deal with poo in disposables anyway cloth won't be such a reach.

    Also my hubby doesn't deal with the pooey ones, he just rolls them up and leaves them in the laundry for me to deal with - which suits me - God only knows what he would do to my nappies :-)

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    Sep 2007
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    DH doesn't really have a choice. I just bought a stash of mcn's and didn't buy any disposables after our newborn stash ran out. So when he changes a nappy he has to use MCN's. He agrees that it is cheaper and better for the environment, but doesn't think they are cute.

    I am a bit like Arimeh, I love rubbing minky over my cheek, preferably not while on DD's butt and definately pre-poosplosion.

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    Would he be more willing to use them if you said you would use disposable liners with the cloth? All you have to do then is throw away (or flush if you can get the flushable liners) the liner rather than a whole nappy. Maybe try the stinky bin full of nappies angle too!
    I don't think DF was too fussed...I don't we actually made a conscious decision to use cloth, it just kind of happened that way...my mum used cloth nappies, not sure about DF's mum, and it's just so much cheaper. I'm sure your DP is going to have a lot more 'yucky' stuff to worry about than dirty nappies over the next few years...lol

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    Nov 2008
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    What about telling him that in most councils/states it;s against the local laws to throw poo in the bin - check a packet of disposables. Maybe if he realises he needs to deal with poo in disposables anyway cloth won't be such a reach.
    - True... hadn't thought of this... knowing DP he wont care and would prob throw them in the bin anyway.. worth a shot tho!

    Also my hubby doesn't deal with the pooey ones, he just rolls them up and leaves them in the laundry for me to deal with - which suits me - God only knows what he would do to my nappies :-)
    Hehehehe I tried this one tonight and he didnt have a comeback to this... so thinking this is the only way to go about it..

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    Nov 2008
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    Would he be more willing to use them if you said you would use disposable liners with the cloth? All you have to do then is throw away (or flush if you can get the flushable liners) the liner rather than a whole nappy. Maybe try the stinky bin full of nappies angle too!
    Yeah I tried this too.. I think I might need to buy one so he can actually see what I am talking about. I have showed them to him online, but he just laughs it off..

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    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2006
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    Another good one is to think of them as useful clothing - clothing with a purpose. How much does it cost to buy an outfit?$15-$30 but they outgrow it in a few months and what is it good for??? Nappies look good, catch poo and wee and if you get a one size then it will last for 2 yrs!

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    Sep 2007
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    Don't forget that the resale value of MCNs is fantastic!!! You can outlay 30 per nappy now, and resell them in a year or two for 15-20 each. So even though you outlay a bit, you get a lot of it back.

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    May 2007
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    You could try the uncomfortable plastic angle... ask him which he'd prefer: walking around in nice soft cotton jocks, or plastic ones. And when he says cotton, then say "well how do you feel making your own child do something that you wouldn't like to do". And just push that for a while

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    Jun 2009
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    We're just starting using MCNs more now (still using disposables at night - he keeps peeing through everything!). DH said to do what ever I wanted - he did do the ewww...pooey nappy thing, but that didn't matter as I dealt with the pooey nappies anyway! He has seen us do quite a few washing cycles now and he hasn't been to the store to buy disposables for weeks, so I think he is now really liking the idea.

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    When I pitched to my hubby - he knew my mind was made up cos I had loooooooooads of info hehehehe. Also as already posted - they have a resale value - so mine was a financial pitch - and also washing wise yes another load of water, but we rarely use our dishwasher and manually do this dishes so a trade off

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    BellyBelly Member

    Oct 2007
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    Tell him you can get one made in his footy team colours...

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    LOl love the footy team idea!!! I didnt think to try that one!!
    I tried most of the above suggestions, but DH just didnt "get" it.....so I bought afew to show him they were different to the terry squares idea he had in his head. I still got a fair bit of resistance (mainly the pooey factor) but I think he just gave up aguing after awhile cos he realised I wasnt going to back down (and also realised that I would be doing most of the changes and all the laundry anyway)
    Altho he wont really admit that he prefers the MCN now.....I did catch him showing off to some of his mates about them LOL he even brought one out for a demo for them and rattled off all the features and advantages (I guess he really did listen when I was nagging about them) hahahaha

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    Oct 2008
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    Just get them. I didn't have much trouble convincing DP, I said this is how much it will cost in disposables, this is how much it will cost in cloth. Sure it is extra work, but they are nicer and cheaper in the long run and last as many kids as you want!
    I have got my whole stash of excellent brand name nappies 2nd hand (not everyones cup of tea, but they are in excellent condition) for $250. That is a huge saving on new cost.
    But who knows, bub may come along and I may hate them, time will tell!