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My MCNs, cloth nappies and DPs mum... I just want to cry
Ok, I am probably being an oversensitive pregnant woman... but I am seriously about to break out in tears over this.
DPs mum asked a few months ago if I needed help washing the nappies as I had mentioned that they needed to be pre-washed. I said thanks but no thanks as it was something I wanted to do. She seemed ok with that.
Then a few weeks ago I had mentioned I would start the pre-washes soon and would come up and collect the nappies so I could get it all done as the weather has been miserable. DPs mum again offered to help. I consulted with the ladies in the cloth thread and got some very useful advice. I decided that if she wanted to help = great but I was going to go through the process with her etc and get the right detergents etc - she was ok with this. I had collated information on washing the nappies etc but was yet to email it to DPs mum.
So last night - DPs mum said she is going to start washing the nappies tomorrow and was there anything specific she needed to do. I said um, yes - we discussed it a few weeks ago - I will get the stuff for you asap and give her some $$ for the detergents cause I now can't get to shops easily (whole other thread about why I don't have my car).
Anyway - to get to the point of this story... I just read on facebook that DPs mum has asked a relative in UK who uses cloth (not sure what type of cloth) what she washes hers in and if it was anything special because DPs mum wants to start washing the nappies for me and she has no idea what to use. The relative responded with "Nothing special really just wash them in Non bio and no fabric softner - stops them from being as absorbent" which I know is good advice... but I feel like these nappies are being done behind my back and now I realise I want to wash them... I want to get the nursery ready. I want to do all these things and ppl keep offering help and because I don't want to offend them I keep accepting it and then getting upset when they do a nice thing...
Ok now I am crying.... I want to ring DP and get him to stop his mum washing the nappies and say it is really important to me for me to do them but he will think I am a dill (he has said in the past - mum wants to help so please let her) but I want my nappies back! They were stored at her place as I bought them because we had no room at our place and the was to be no baby stuff in our house before we reached 12 weeks and then I was too lazy to go get them and now they are being washed without me
Ok I am now officially a nutter and whinger and will end this post... I don't know if anyone can help (anyone feel like retrieving/stealing nappies lol!)
I just had to get this out otherwise I will pick up the phone and become the "hormonal pregnant TK"
Thank you for reading
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Ok, SW Sydney, that's not too far from me, want me to get in my ninja outfit and go on a recon mission? LOL
DP might think you have gone slightly mad, but maybe just try explaining to him again that you want to do it yourself, a few tears might help the cause.
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Awww honey
If it were me and my MIL - I'd just let her do them to keep her happy (god knows why I would want to keep her happy, but anyhoo) and then I'd do them again when I got them back - and do a strip wash on them JIC.
That could still be special - your very first strip wash!!!
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LOL please Marlene - get your gear ready but I fear they are already on the clothes line soaking up the suns rays...- thank you so much for the offer - and your post. Makes me realise that part of me is crazy preggo hormonal and part of me is still normal(ish)
DP isn't answering his phone...
Arimeh - it did cross my mind but (here is the hormonal part) I was hoping that I would do such a good job the first time I wouldn't need to do a strip wash just yet LOL... mainly because it is the part I find most confusing
But you have given me lots of food for thought... it might just be easier to do a strip wash and let DPs mum think she has been helpful rather than me being the "cranky preggo one"
Last edited by tk1999; July 16th, 2009 at 02:45 PM.
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Me too!
She's trying to help but she's imposing on your space and your need to fluff your own nest. Totally NNR but I got upset at my MIL putting a cot set on hold for my approval. That was something I wanted to go shopping for myself and I was quite angry about it at the time.
Even if she has prewashed then you will find rewashing them yourself to be very therapeutic!
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Oh Tk, big big big hugs sweetie
You know if I lived near you I would happily volunteer to Ninja up with Marlene
Bugger DP isnt answering his phone! Hopefully she was busy today and didnt get around to it, and you can get your fluff back!
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