Q About CSA

[Cupcake]

Currently i transfer DP's child support privately, have done so for years & have no intention of discontinuing. (I do all our finances DP is hopeless with money lol)

DSD's mum has now decided she wants to go through CSA, which is fine with us. However, DSD's mum does not know where we live as she is quite immature and likes to do stupid things (at our previous address she would constantly go by when we were both at work and harrass our dogs...we couldnt figure out what was wrong with them until we asked the neighbours if they had seen anything...) and we dont want her knowing what he earns as she is a gossip and things end up being said to mutual friends and drama is caused.

SO. My question is, do we have to fill out the form she keeps giving us or can we deal with CSA directly? DP has told her several times to call CSA give them our number and they will call us, but she refuses to do it that way and insists we fill out this form, which makes me think she doesnt really wish to go through CSA she just wants information?

Secondly, DP is casual so if he doesnt work he doesnt get paid. Going off his 08/09 Tax Return it states he earns a huge amount which is going to push the payment up a lot. The huge amount includes working public holidays and when other staff members go on holidays DP often works for a few weeks with no time off. We predict the next few months are going to be quiet as his place of business is quiet therefore his hours are being cut back. Plus there is a two week block in August where he wont be working at all and my pay covers JUST all our rent/bills etc. Do we still have to pay if he is not working therefor not getting paid for 2 weeks?

I just wanna do the right thing without giving her too much information if possible...any help would be great! I know there are a few CSA/CL experts among us

[~clover~]

If you go through CSA (if she applies you will have to) you will both get a notice, & unfortunetly it will have both addresses & incomes on it.

[Cupcake]

arg...thats annoying. Thanks for the reply

[~clover~]

Thats ok. I wouldn't be filling out her form though. Doesn't sound right to me. I've delt with CSA a few times & I never had to contact the payer (DH-we've split a few times) in any way. They did it all.

[Cupcake]

Well thats what i thought, surely they would have contacted us by now! Will just wait it out i guess! Thanks

[Lulu]

I don't think it has addresses on it - annual income and names of all children ARE. grumble..

[Cupcake]

I really hope our address can stay confidential

[Yael]

Yes, your address can defintely stay confidential, i know because DH works at CSA, and they also provide a service to forward certain documents, such as court orders etc, to the other party, and it is always annoying because he needs to find a JP to do it for him. Anyway, i will email this and get him to answer whether it is automatic or whether you need to tell them.

[Cupcake]

oh thank you so much Yael! That would be great!! Life saver

[Visitor8]

Firstly there is information, like your address, which can be kept private. If you get forms they will often say that 'this page will be sent to the other parent' but the addresses aren't on there. I know because I haven't told Ashtons father our address and I made sure it wouldn't be passed on.

Also if they go on last years taxable income, and the current is significantly lower, you can apply for change of assessment. You will have to fill out some forms and prove that your income is lower, and they will change it. And vice versa (you think the other party should be paying more) etc. Again I have just done this as CS for Ash was being calculated at a $18,000 gross wage when he is now earning a lot more.They have changed it to reflect his current income.

[Cupcake]

Thanks missymoo!! Such a releif knowing our address can be kept private!