I have being trying to get pregnant for a year and after just having my 2nd miscarriage I am feeling so terrible and full of grief. The worst of it is how I feel towards other's who are pregnant or trying to get pregnant or just had a baby. I have a good friend who has just started trying to fall pregnant and keeps saying how good it will be to have babies together. Yes that would be nice but I can't try to get pregnant for another 2 cycles now and my grief at knowing I soon will be congratulating her is really upsetting me. Also I was due to have my first baby late August along with a friend who is due any day. She keeps telling me I must not be doing it right and what am I doing wrong. I feel so awful that it should be me also. I am young, healthy, don't drink, don't smoke, financially secure, have a great marriage and I can't seem to understand why this is happening and how come other's have no trouble when I am doing everything right and still I am not blessed with a healthy pregnancy. I feel so punished. The grief is turning me sour and I don't know what to do about it. Inside I feel my friend who is now trying to fall pregnant will be like the last one. About to have her baby and I am still waiting for my turn. How can I get past this?
I have seen a specialist who has tested both me and my husband and said there are no known causes for our misfortune and to stop thinking about it and then it will happen. I wish it was that easy.
Miscarriage is a very difficult journey - & sadly many find it hard to understand unless they have experienced the sadness, fear and pain themselves.
You are not doing it wrong - this is not something you have or haven't done. This is just what is.
I hope you can join the Trying to Conceive after Miscarriage & Loss thread HERE. You will find many Women who understand your pain and grief..
all I can offer is some :hugs: it took me 5 pg to finally bring my son home I had a ectopic a stillbirth @ 21 weeks and 2 m/c before we finally had a healthy baby, this time round it took 2 years of TTC and 1 m/c I am due in 8 weeks
there were times when I wanted to shout why me what did I do wrong... so I hope you get to bring home a bundle of joy soon
Thank you Flowerchild and Rach75. Deep down I know my turn will come eventually its just the waiting for that to come that I am finding the hardest especially whilst my friends, work collegues and family are all having children before me when I feel like I now have being trying the longest. I wish this longing for a baby wasn't so powerful.
Its hard losing angels, I remeber the way i felt about others and it hurt I'm so sorry your going through this but as flowerchild said the ladies in the ttc and miscarriage threads are amazing and really help you get through it all
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How to you get over it and move on?
I hope you get to bring home a bundle of joy soon
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