Prostate Cancer

[annabel]

Hi Everyone,

My Dad has prostate Cancer and Decondary bone cancer, he has been doing chemo now for almos ayear, the fist couple didnt work so that they had to keep trying different types of chemo, eventually they found one that worked and after so may months of chemo we thought it was the end, until yesterday his psa count went up so now they going to try another different chemo. This journey is never ending, just as i think everything is well is ends and turn bad.Does anyone know what i am going through?

[AnyDream]

Hi Annabel, I'm currently walking a cancer journey myself, although I have been blessed with early diagnosis so my treatment is likely to be more straightforward than your dads. In the time since my diagnosis I have been lucky to find support with online forums, and organisations like the Cancer Council who provide free counselling, even for family members. There are many twists and turns along the way, and you might find it helpful to chat with a counsellor - many people who have not shared the experience have no idea what it's like and are often too scared by their ideas about cancer to be able to listen to how you're feeling. It is horrible and it is scary, there's no way around that. Just remember that breakthroughs in treatments are being made all the time, and there are many treatment options, some of which will work better for your dad than others, and the survivorship rates for prostate cancer are much higher now than in the past. Dr Harry had prostate cancer and is back doing his thing on the telly now!!

[Kazmar]

Hi Annabel, I'm currently walking a cancer journey myself, although I have been blessed with early diagnosis so my treatment is likely to be more straightforward than your dads. In the time since my diagnosis I have been lucky to find support with online forums, and organisations like the Cancer Council who provide free counselling, even for family members. There are many twists and turns along the way, and you might find it helpful to chat with a counsellor - many people who have not shared the experience have no idea what it's like and are often too scared by their ideas about cancer to be able to listen to how you're feeling. It is horrible and it is scary, there's no way around that. Just remember that breakthroughs in treatments are being made all the time, and there are many treatment options, some of which will work better for your dad than others, and the survivorship rates for prostate cancer are much higher now than in the past. Dr Harry had prostate cancer and is back doing his thing on the telly now!!

I had no idea you were going through this MD. I hope your journey ahead is as straight forward as possible.

Annabel- My thoughts are with you and your family, especially your dad as head goes through this

[annabel]

Thankyou for all your words, it means so much. I tend to to keep alot to myself so sometimes it god to just let it out. Although my dad is suffering from this terible disease, it also terrible watching someone go through this, my mum is suffering so much as well , she has her own sicknessess, but she has put her pain aside and take care of my dad. Sometimes i try and take her out but my Dad doesnt allow her becase he thinks hes going to die.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Annabel- im so sorry to hear about your dad, i hope they can find a treatment that works for him

Marydean- im sorry to hear that your going through it too, i wish your all the best through your treatment

My mum's bestfriend died 5 years ago from cancer, she got breast cancer in 2000 and she fought that and she was doing really well and then i think it was 2003 and she went for a general check up and found that she had secondary cancer and it was in her bone, she fought a hard battle, what broke our hearts was when we thought she was doing so well she crashed and ended up passing away at home with her family. My mum was so distraught as her bestfriend was only 50 years old, my mum always said that "but she was so young" i would sit with her as she just kept repeating it over and over, and because i was only 15 i didn't understand the full extent of what cancer does i didnt know how to comfort my mum.

5 months ago i rang up my mum to check up on her, i had moved out of home and hadn't talked to her in a little while and the second she answered i knew something was wrong, i asked what was wrong and she said she had something to tell me that she wanted to tell me for a while (i was thinking oh no don't tell me she has cancer) and she went on to say that her partner found a lump in one of his testicles, he had tests done and was waiting for the results. My heart sank, i was happy it wasnt my mum but i was shattered that she had to watch her partner go through it. She started crying which set me off (mind you i was sitting in the waiting room of the doctors) she said that she couldnt watch him die and why was it happening to him, i had no answers for her i felt useless just sitting there as she sobbed. We then did get the bad news that it was infact cancer, he started his treatment pretty much straight away. He was doing so well, he wasn't getting sick from it and then it was about the 7th week of chemo that he crashed he got so sick, he got very depressed and he ended up breaking it off with my mum because he didnt wnat her to watch him go through it, as he knew she had lost her bestfriend. But despite what he said she stuck by him. I didn't see him at all while he went through it, not that i didnt want to see him i just knew i would break down and he needed his privacy.

Its been 3 weeks since hes stopped chemo, hes still messed up (i made a post about him attacking my mum and he said stuff about me) i just don't think hes dealing with it as well as we thought..

[annabel]

Hi Marydean, its great that you have such a positive attitude i keep telling my Dad , positive attitude makes such a difference. I believe the mind plays a really important role, if you are negative, negative things will happen and if you are positive, positive things will happen. I hope all the best for you.