So I kindly drove Arch up to his Dad so XH could take him to see his family. During the hand over at a friends house, XH new car came up in convo. XH has only had his VERY new Fairlane for 12 months as it is, and before that he had a 2004 car for only 9 months. So I ask him about it and yeah, he has decided to upgrade to a brand new car, fresh off the production line!!!!
I advised him to maybe wait til he does his tax and finds out how much CS will go up (it will go up considerably) before he commits to such a huge car loan. He appreciated the advice, but then went on to say how unfair CS is for Fathers WTF!!!! He said, just because a father earns $100,000 a year shouldnt automatically mean he should pay a heap of CS without taking his life into consideration, and quote "I mean what if he has a half a million dollar mortgage?" I cannot believe he said that!!
My reply was "well then ,he, should never have had children"
He has always been awful with money, he got us into so much financial trouble during my pregnancy, I had to give our dogs away, sell most of our stuff and move into a flat in a druggo neighbourhood, because of his stupidity!
Lookout if he ever doesnt pay the right CS to me, he will have my Dad to answer to and thats not pretty! LOL
Gosh, I SO wish I had the good sense to not have a child with him GGRRRRRR!!
Hugs darling. Your XH is just such a knob! At least you know you've made exactly the right decision for the rest of your life now. And as for your DS, please, again, don't be so hard on yourself. Life is about living and learning (sorry, that probably sounds stupid, and it's easy for me to say) that's what it's all about.
More hugs
DP's ex hasn't paid a cent in child support in all the 17 months DSD has lived with us. AND THEN has the gall to tell us that we should get her some private tutoring as her grades aren't crash hot. Different planet.
ALSO, I am currently living with my Dad, which means I am rent free and bill free atm. XH said, "of course I wont tell centrelink about your circumstances at your Dads, but its ot really fair". Well actually Centrelink knows my circumstances, I told them the day after I moved here, and its not exactly a walk in the park living with your parents, I am sacrificing quite a bit atm so that my DS can have a better life later on from the money I am saving now. F him, loser!
All my XP has to pay is $16 a fortnight and hes not even paying that. Apparently its too much and cz he lives in another state he doesnt think he should have to pay for a kid he doesnt see. X's theyre never smart creatures it seems.
Oh my goodness girls, what creeps! ATM XH pays $100 a fortnight and its not early what he will have to pay this financial year, how awful your babies' fathers can think so little of them. My Dad was the same, never paid the full amount and actually whinged to me about it the other day, now he is seeing it from the mothers point of view his opinions are slowly changing...
I think it can be just as bad on both sides of the fence in my situation....
XP's don't pay for their kids and then your new partner is grilled by his XW constantly and eventually makes the kids have no contact..
Shoe is on the other foot in our situation she has everything house, overseas hols etc where DH and I can't afford a holiday or a house....
I agree with your comments been there myself.
CSA is just a joke and dosen't offer my DP a chance at a new life becuase we don't believe in their photocopying of information to be passed to the other side. Don't mind if CSA get it ... Centerlink has it no probs at all but to hand the sensitive information over to his XW NO WAY.......
I wanted to change the (p!ssweak) support agreement to cover DD braces but I see from the paperwork that X will get a copy of my budget?????? I have some pride yanno...
Lulu, yep he gets a copy of everything! Just sux... which is why I haven't bothered having XH reassessed to cover DS2's psychologist at $150 per week...
for which I receive a total of measly $135/month...
gosh guys, CSA really are cr@ppy arent they?? I am sure that XH will always pay his CS, so hopefully I wont have too many troubles with CSA, but gosh, who knows in this situation right? You just cant predict anything at all!
Yep, totally sucks.
My ex is a pastry chef, has been for over 8 years, working full time, trying to say hes on $22000 a year. Obviously getting paid in cash also.
So he pays $12 a week child support, and tells me that all he has to pay cause the goverment gives me money. Hello?? I wish! Me and my partner barely get any family tax at all cause our estimates are too high! Suddenly its up to the government to pay for my child? I don't think so!
How can they honestly want so badly to NOT pay for their children and put everything else first??
We just sit there in hope that the stupid CSA system changes - remember - the one that was meant to change for equal rights for both parernts - what a joke!
DH and I have spent thousands $$ at solicitors trying to see how we can live each week, but without filling in that stupid form we can't do anything.
Don't get me wrong we are not trying to hide anything it is just the information that will be given to her is information she has absolutley no rights to... I am talking sensitive info.
Basically DH and I have resorted to the fact we will not be able to have a restart at life until his children are grown up. We simply can't afford it.
Oh and the pathetic form ( the red one in the front of the assesment ) even a bigger joke.
The form is a privacy page where you put the childrens ( from both sides ) names and dates of birth on and that is that is the only page she doesn';t get a copy of!!!!!! Like she couldn't just ask my step kids what their step sister and brothers names are and when they are born!!
Oh and by the way as for the $5k my XP owes me......I got a call from cnetrelink the other day offereing me an amnesty ( ie if I agree to drop the debt ( because they can't find the money) and then one day they miraculously find it, I won't inccur a debt from Centrelink!!!! ha what a joke they should have got their finger out and never let the debt get that much in the first place!!!!!!!!
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Poor XH having to pay so much CS
I cannot believe he said that!!
Hugs darling.
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