If you co sleep how do you manage intimate time ?

**Visitor3** · September 16th, 2009, 12:07 AM

Just wondering ? Our dd has been sleeping with us in the last couple of weeks and I just wondered when it comes time for dh and I to reconnect on an intimate level again, how will we be able to do that alone if we are co sleeping ? Can anyone shed some light on their experiences or suggestions ?

murraysmum · September 16th, 2009, 12:13 AM

i alllways put ds back in his room then when it was all over and we were all cleaned up he came back lol had the baby monitor on full blast just incase

**Barb Glare** · September 16th, 2009, 04:35 AM

Hi,

It's a question co-sleepers are asked regularly - and I think the general consensus from co-sleepers is that you look the questioner in the eye, look a little aghast at their situation and say "So, you only ever have sex at night? In bed? and then walk away shaking your head a little sorrowfully at their situation...
Did you ever notice that co-sleepers tend to have more than the average number of kids? You can get the time you need, for sure. For some it's a cot set up in another bedroom - usually babies will have a long sleep from which they are not easily disturbed. Or another adult bed set up. You can simply move them over in your bed (I recommend a kingsize bed - best investment I ever made. Depending on the age of the kids, there's the snuggle while they watch a video over breakfast - they think it's a treat, there's the time they are having their afternoon nap. There's the thrill of being caught. If you do get caught in a *special cuddle* I think it's nice for kids to know that their mum and dad love each other.....

**Visitor3** · September 16th, 2009, 07:26 AM

That's what I thought Barb. Lots of co sleepers have more than one child so how was the second one made ? DD is too little to catch us but she is such a restless baby that I just wondered what we would do when the time came because we want to have our kids fairly close together. I guess we will have no more long drawn out sessions for a while.....