Since Ruby died in February I have been struggling to get my life back on track. Everyday is a battle. I am going to a counsellor and I tried anti depressants for a little while but nothing helps. Everything is just so hard - seeing people with babies, having people in the family have babies - even my other kids birthdays.
Does it ever get better? I just want to sleep again and eat again and be able to feel like I can cope again.
I'm so sorry for your loss, i can't even begin to understand what you must be going through
I have 2 older sisters that were still born. I didn't know about them until i was about 14 years old. It was very hard for my mum to tell me about it. She said it took her a while to cope with both the losses. The only advice she had for me if it was to ever happen to me was to take time in grieving don't feel that you have to set a time limit for yourself, and its ok to cry. My mum is still not fully over it, she still finds it hard to talk about it. Just know that it does get better but with time.
My niece was stillborn 2.5 years ago, and I still think of her daily. Think what could have been, what should have been. Even last night at the checkout at Woolies, I heard them playing a song that was played at her funeral and I teared up. So I can't even imagine what my sister is going through (as it was her child).
I don't think you can put a time limit on grief, I think its more that one day you will realise that you haven't had a cry that day, or that week, or that month. You'll never forget - and you'll always have little reminders that make you upset, but I like those moments as it reminds me that she will always live on in our hearts.
Be kind to yourself, give yourself time to grieve and if you can, look to your family for support after all thats what families are for. My family really helped me when we lost our son Riley in March this year, without them i don't know what i would have done. And there are plenty of lovely ladies here that you can talk to if you want to.
Big hugs hun
I really can't cope.
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