Sorry to ask this stupid question but i just need to know where to go about all of this!
As you all know i was rehoming one of my little boys ( DOGS) Which was the chihuahua.. And ever since he has gone to his new home our Border collie hasnt been eating and drinking or going to the toilet and screaming all the time. So We have taken him to 3 different vets to see if we can get anti-depressents for him. But they wont give them to him as the dog that we gave away hasnt died and they are saying we should get the other dog back because it is the only way he is going to calm down ( Mind you 3 different vets has all said the same thing.)
So now we are stuck as in what to do. We was thinking about getting him another play buddy but then we thought we dont want to go through all the training etc again. So i contacted the vets about that saying we dont want to do all the training again etc and they all turned around and said your going to have to get your other dog back then. So now df is wanting to get back the other dog also as he is starting to miss him like crazy. But im not sure if we are able to get him back. the lady we gave him to emails us daily to let us know how he is going and that he is still missing us etc.
Is there such a thing as cooling dow period for animals etc are we able to get him back.. What sort of process do we need to do. My partner said to me that he would pay good dollars to get our boys back together and also get this another lady a dog. She only wanted our little man to keep her dog happy of a day..
Im really confussed at what to do.
Whats your best advice? We didnt know our dog was going to be like this otherwise we would have never thought about letting him go..
This is the reason we wanted to rehome him.We rehomed him as we spend over 1252.00 on training for him alone as once i became pregnant again he was starting trouble with partner by trying to attack him wouldnt let him near me and was going to the toilet inside and wouldnt go out.etc plus we are soon to be moving and he the landlord said we can only keep one dog if we want the property ( Df's Family the property is owned by) So we thought it would be best for both him and my family for him to be rehomed. But a week before he was to be rehomed he started to calm down quite a fair bit and we wasnt going to let him go but this lady was already lined up to take him and we felt bad about not letting her have him so we just let her take him.. Biggest mistake ever and i will never do it again... So we have turned down this property that my df's family was going to give us just so we can get him back aswel as wanting to put him in for more training etc.. You dont know how bad i feel about doing all this.. but at the time i thought it felt right but wasnt i wrong . In our life we all make mistakes and this is one i have made this is wrong. So im just trying to fix it for the sake of my other dog.. Its really heart breaking to see his food bowl still full from breakfast and dinner as it hasnt been touched since our chihuahua has gone. Also we havent had any sleep in a week since he has gone because our dog has been screaming all night and day for him to come back
Also if you was in this situition what would you tell the lady? And if you was to write her an email how would you explain it all to her? We are willing to buy her another dog and give her extra money on top of that.
Im happy to answer any questions aswel.
thanks
Last edited by Mummy2Lilly; September 29th, 2009 at 12:36 PM.
One of my dogs behaved like that after our other dog died. He eventaually came around but he did see her dead so knew what had happened to her.
I would probably go to the ladies house and explain the situation. I think any dog lover would be sympathetic and give the dog back. It's lovely of you to want to get her another dog.
it sounds like you dog is heart broken . i guess time heals all wounds ,so i think it may get worse before it gets better
it may be hard for you to see the dog upset but if the other dog you re homed caused you stress and possible danger to family members than it would most likely be the same when he came back .
try spending moe time with the lonley dog and get him to play games and make him feel special . eventually he will gain appetie and learn to live with out his mate .
you could organise a play date perhaps ? and whats not to say the dog you buy the other lady will be a terror and she will be on your back to come get it off her , then you wil have 3 dogs !!
i think an email or a phone call to explain how your feeling is best . be honest it will also feel better to get it off your chest
its hard but he working through his emotions ... really consider another dog if you think it will solve his problem . but just wait awhile to see if he calms down .
Last edited by *charmalea*; September 29th, 2009 at 12:48 PM.
I've just remembered that our dog was prescribed doggy Valium, maybe you could look into soemthing like that if you can't get the other dog back and he still isn't coping.
Thats what i was thinking if i cant seem to get this other one back ill just have to get the vet to give me something. But the vet did say because of his breed and being young he may never forget what has happened. Its a complete night mare. Thank you 2 for your replies.
I would really try doggy vallium and also some obedience training for the border collie, or agility training etc? Getting him working would be good for him, that's what his breed is best at ... and give him a new obsession.
could you get him playdates with other dogs? maybe that would help... But I would definately tell the other lady, she may understand and be happy with a replacement, most people understand how attached dogs and people can be...
Hi there.
Firstly the reasons you rehomed your dog are still valid. Aggression is a large concern and I think if he is happy in his new home then leave him there.
As for your remaining dog he is obviously grieving. I see it that you have one of two choices. Firstly you can get him a companion. If you do that, choose carefully a well adjusted dog who gets along well with your current dog, have good doggy manners already, is well socialised, fits your lifestyle and has no health problems. There are many good adult dogs around which fit this bill. Go to someone who has a good knowledge of dog behaviour to help you choose.
The second choice is to go to a dog behaviourist. I think Kirsti Seksel is in Melbourne. They can prescribe medication (if needed) and some good behavioural advice. But it can be time consuming and pricey.
Your dog is going through a pretty natural emotional progression. They do get through it but need support. It can also take quite a few months. Minimise other changes in the household (eg moving) at this time, give them lots of affection and attention and make sure they get lots of happy times with other dogs (eg at the dog park). This kind of depression is commonly seen in shelter dogs who are going through major upheavals.
thank you all for your support and advice. The lady emailed me last night to let me know how our little man was settling in to her friends place. The friend is currently simi-disabled and is in her late 50's and already has another dog. But and i mean a bigger but. we thought our little man was going to stay with this woman for good. But turns out this simi-disabled friend doesnt like our little man no more because he is only 1 year old and is every playful which a small dog is that is still quite young. So now he is going to a new home. Im quite hurt by this. But the lady that picked him up ( which is emailing us all the time to let us know how he is going) said that she will take him as she feel inlove with him. Which in away is a big lot of worry off my shoulders. My partner and i have decided that we wont ask for back and just try and keep our border collie busy all the time also we are looking after my sisters rabbit at the moment and his mind seems to be on that which is great..
So once again thanks for the help.
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