thread: having a hard time

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    Unhappy having a hard time

    Since falling pg i have been increasingly tired and snappy.

    I am finding it all just too hard at the moment (and i am only 7 weeks!) and am turning into a monster

    Poor little MJ must be wondering who has taken her patient and loving Mumma and replaced it with the awful woman that i have recently become.

    Everything is annoying me,, poor DH is bearing the brunt of my frustration, but today i really havent been nice to MJ at all and i feel awful.

    I dont know what to do, im sitting here crying... i just want to be nice again...

    Please tell me this will stop soon... i cant remember being like this when i was pg with MJ

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    Those pregancy hormones are probably dong nasty things to you.

    I remember being so tired and irritable when I was pregnant and I cant possibly imagine what it is like to be feeling like that and still have a child to look after. Exhausting!

    Big Be kind to yourself. You are a good mum who just needs some sleep and some help.

    MAybe you should talk to DH about how you are feeling so he knows that you arent meaning to be snappy at him.

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    Oh Sammiejane,

    Sending Big Hugs !! I can relate I am feeling tired and sooo soo grumpy I really feel for my DH right now. I can't imagine how tough it would be feeling like this and having another little one at the same time. You prob did feel like this but it may not been as overwhelming because you didn't have MJ. You could be like me and lay on the couch under a blanket all day watching crappy day time TV feeling sorry for yourself. lol



    Cara

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    It'll get easier. Working, breastfeeding, growing a baby & just life in general...thats alot you're trying to keep up with atm.
    The tiredness is hard. I hope you start feeling better soon. You know I'd give you a break in a second if I could Let you sleep.
    I'm tired & snappy enough without all the extra added

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    (just sent you loving message and got lost ggrrrr)

    Oh sammiejane,

    sending big hugs !!! I can soo relate I am grumpy swamp woman at the moment with CRAZY hormones.. I really feel for my DH at the moment.

    You know you prob did feel like this when you were preg with MJ but because you could just rest when you needed to it is more noticable now. I really have sooo much respect for women who go through how we are feeling now with another little on to take care of. Don't be so hard on yourself!! Are you able to take a little time out for yourself this weekend?

    Sorry that you feel so and like ! You are not alone.

    x

    cara

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    sorry for double post.. guess it didn't get lost after all.. my system froze so i thought i had lost it.

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    Aw
    I hope things get easier for you. I agree - talk to your DH about how you're feeling so he knows what's going on. Maybe he can help out more.

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    You could just replace the names and you have described me!

    My poor kids havent got a mother at the moment they have a grumpy, snappy, angry, B$%#chy, sh$%ty women that has moved in.
    I feel like I am wound so tight and I can seriously snap at the smallest of things.
    My poor DH has been trying to keep the peace and bites his tongue so much im suprised he even has a tongue left!!!

    I do have very small windows where I do feel somewhat normal and these are the times I make sure I praise and show my kids love as much as possible before something annoys me again and I lose it.

    I am lucky in that my DH has been through this 4 times before so he is well trained and very practised. Make sure you let them know that you are not meaning to be so awful and that you do know you are being unreasonable but you truely cant help it and its not fun for you either.
    It does come in phases and sometimes will be better than others so accept it is going to happen and dont be hard on yourself when it does.
    Just another one of those pregnancy joys.

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    I can sympathise with how you are feeling, that first 3 months is not a nice one at all is it!? All those hormones are playing havoc with your body. I too remember feeling how you describe in my first 3 months of pregancy with DS2 and felt SO much guilt because there were days when i just didn't want to get out of bed and i never had felt like that before. For me once those first few months had passed and we got to see our bub in the first scan things did improve. I'm sure your daughter knows you are a wonderful mum and like the girls have said explain this to your husband so he can give you a bit of extra help and tlc right now.

    Hope the next few weeks pass quickly for you and you start feeling like your old/young self again

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    Thanks guys for your support

    DH is pretty good, helps out when he can, its just that he runs his own business and this time of year things really crank up til xmas... he has to get as much in as possible so we can actually shut down for a few weeks and not worry about paying staff etc etc... so he works late at least 3 nighst a week and is working Saturdays...

    Feeling a bit better today, yesterday was shocking, just cried and cried... hopefully things get better.

    Skye your right the BF and toddler are things that i didnt do when i was growing a bubba last time. i am shattered!!!

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    Oh hun. Big hugs. I'm sure it will get better.

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    Just found your thread - how are you going now?