thread: DH is preventing us from co sleeping because....

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    DH is preventing us from co sleeping because....

    HE SNORES LIKE A TROOPER!!!!!

    I started off co sleeping with DD because she was very unsettled from birth and it was a way off getting some sleep. But then I really loved having her close and found that it meant so much more than that. It has been really great. HOWEVER, because DH snores like a steam train he was waking DD up and now I put her in her crib in her room for half the night until she wakes for a feed and then I go and sleep on a foam mattress with her in her room.
    I just read that co sleeping is better for babies when it's done for the whole night instead of after when they wake up.
    How can I stop DH snoring so we can all sleep in the same bed again ?
    Any ideas ladies ?....or any gentlemen out there with ideas, please share.

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    so his snoring has got worse? Has he gained weight lately? Is he over weight? Does he have sleep apnea?

    I poke DH in the ribs & have him role over, but his snoring is only really bad after a night out with the boys!

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    DH stopped snoring badly after he lost some weight, otherwise maybe he could sleep in the babies room

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    He's actually in the process of losing weight but even when he was a lot thinner he snored ... bad ! Ugh! He does have sleep apnea as well. He wasn't too bad when I first started taking DD to bed with us but I think because he's been working so much and he gets up really early (5.30am) and his day doesn't finish till about 5.30pm, but by the time he goes to bed it's about ten-ish so with DD waking in the middle of the night he will often awake also, so his tiredness is just making him more exhausted which makes him snore much more.
    He doesn't smoke and he doesn't drink. Only when he is on his front does he not snore.
    Mmmm....?

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    You could try those breathe right nasal strips, they are supposed to help. There is also some sort of mouth guard you can get which pulls the lower jaw forward a bit to open up the passages and prevent snoring. There is also a surgery that can be done but that might be a bit extreme. Good luck!

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    I kicked mine out to the spare room.
    He snores so loud I can still hear him through 2 closed doors but it's not loud enough to keep me or bub awake now, so we are all getting some more sleep and I get to stretch out in the bed.
    Well mostly, DD takes up a lot of room for such a little person.

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    My DH tried the nasal strips and they did very little for him in fact the only thing that works a treat is ensuring he is well rested.

    I would suggest to your Dh that he tried to go to bed earlier and do it gradually like 10 mins to start with then 20 min and so on until he wakes feeling rested and his snoring subsides. If he goes to bed say an hour earlier in one hit he will probably find he will be restless and unable to settle hence the gradually easing into an earlier night.

    Nae x x x

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    Is he getting treatment for the apnoea?
    My FIL has a breathing apparatus that keeps his airways open. After 30+ years of deafening snoring, my MIL now gets a good night's sleep....
    The other option is that you sleep separately. I think it just depends what works for you - if co-sleeping half the night seems ok for you, then do that.

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    Dp snoring drives me NUTS!!! Wakes the hole house! He's not overweight at all but snores terribly! I find he does it while in a strange or uncomfy position
    I have heard of some crazy little ring from the chemist, that goes on their little finger!????? Have know idea how it works but just thought Id let you know there are things out there. Try your chemist and see if they can help

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    hi pretty butterfly - have you tried getting him an orthopeadic pillow... the one with the dip in teh centre, it will throw his head back and open his airways but support his neck (i use one for a bad back).

    my dad snored badly (not overweight in the least, just a snorer) until he got one of these pillows about 15 yrs ago.

    you can get them from mattress shops as well as pillow/bedding places and even big dub these days.

    hope you find a solution soon.

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    Just sympathising, my dh snores like you wouldn't believe. I've gotten used to it, and it doesn't bother dd yet, but it used to wake ds up all the time when we were co-sleeping. Here's hoping you find something that works.

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    bilby's dad snores really loud too. he has sleep aponea, has the CPAP machine, which is also loud, and a noise a bit like bagpipes happens when he uses the CPAP machine. I'm glad it keeps him alive (breathing) but so noisy.

    bilby's dad sleeps at one end of our unit (on the sofa) and i sleep at the other end of the unit (in the bedroom). so there is a long hallway, toilet, laundry and bilby's room between us. I can still hear the bagpipes.

    at nearly three, bilby sleeps in her big girl bed first half of the night, then comes into my room for a breastfeed around 1am, and spends the rest of the night co-sleeping with me.

    to use the cpap machine, bilby's dad has to sleep on his back, he's not a small person, takes up most of the queen size bed, so if he sleeps in the bed, i sleep on the sofa. not enough room for both of us in same bed, plus the noise keeps me awake, let alone room for a LO as well.

    How is YOUR back PrettyButterfly, sleeping on a foam mattress in your DD's room?

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    I have exactly the same problem. R comes to bed for a cuddle because she's unsettled and gets woken up by daddy who sounds like a forghorn!

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    I kicked mine out to the spare room.
    He snores so loud I can still hear him through 2 closed doors but it's not loud enough to keep me or bub awake now, so we are all getting some more sleep and I get to stretch out in the bed.
    Well mostly, DD takes up a lot of room for such a little person.
    OMG that's exactly like DH, I can still hear him but not enought to wake me in the other room.

    I'll try the pillow see if that helps.

    My back is not too bad. I quite like the foam mattress ? Otherwise DH was sleeping on the couch for a while so DD and I could get some decent sleep in bed.

    The gradual earlier sleeping may be the trick, because DHsnores HEAPS and LOUD when he is really tired.

    Thanks so much for all your responses xx