How did i become SOOO impatient????

[BrightSparkles]

I used to be such a patient person. I feel and know i'm becoming so impatient and i know i'm being rude to people. I just don't want to hear excuses for things and want people to be honest with me and say they messed up. Is is so bad to want people to take responsabilty???

I'm not like it with DH or DD or any of my friends, but when it comes to anything else I feel like a B**ch. I have been trying really hard to be nice and patient and understanding but it's just not happening for me...it leads me to be even more impatient.

Is it only me who is like this??? Anyone have suggestions for improving my patientence levels???

[Bathsheba]

Hmmm, I'm ok with other people but I have lost patience in other ways. I blame technology. Before computers were such a big part in my life I would do lots of things like needlework / reading / drawing etc and take pleasure in the process instead of being overly eager for the end result. I think I could recapture that if society crumbled and we all had to live without electricity.

Actually there are instances where i get impatient with people... it's situations like when I am doing the shopping and two people stop and talk in the middle of a supermarket aisle without realising they are holding everyone up. I have a thing about people not being aware of what's going on around them. I've always been a bit like that though... it's based on my own fear of being crept up on, I think... somehow when I see other people lacking observance this reminds me of when my stepfather used to creep up on me and do weird stuff like read my diary over my shoulder etc. So my annoyance is based on fear... funny how that is so often the way in life.

I can't really answer your question. What was your childhood like? Were your parents demanding in the way you describe? I'm not saying everything relates back to childhood... but it could be something to consider. I know my mother was impatient... I learnt never to keep her waiting... so as a consequence I expect people to go ballistic if I mess up and make them wait.... which makes me more likely to mess up IYKWIM?

I think, at the end of the day, everyone has a story... and like my sig quote says: everyone is fighting their own battle... you'd be surprised at how many people are worried about stuff like dying grandparents and serious health issues... take me for example, I'm sh*t scared of stuffing up if I get a new job because I have thyroid related brain fuzz. Today i have been so scared of annoying customers etc that I have gone right off the idea of even looking for work...

I know you don't want excuses... but this is the reality of people's lives. I think it's a worthwhile issue you've raised though Good on your for being honest... awareness is the first step.

[BrightSparkles]

Thanks Bath
I was just having such a bad day when I first posted that
I don't know if it pregnancy and hormone related or what the go is but i can feel myself just losing it at people at the moment when they start making excuses (stupid ones like ummm ahhhh.....we can't come because I have only jsut found out DH is coming home and needs to be picked up from the airport...)or if they don't think about how people around them are affected by thier decisions eg. housemate leaving dishes for a whole week until we have nothing clean to eat off, in the meantime, i've scrubbed every inch of the bathroom, vaccuumed, mopped, dusted, washed ( towels etc) with no thanks what so ever.

Hmm....maybe i need a holiday to refresh my sense of goodness in myself and others??

[Lulu]

Ha - I vote the preg hormones!

Although I think you can get to a point when you can just see all the bollocks around you and think STFU already! Just say what you mean!!

xoxoxo

P.S have a holiday if you can get one!