What attributes about yourself do you need to work on?

[Butterfly Child]

So like the title suggests

What attributes about yourself do you need/want to work on .. to improve your emotional wellbeing and to grow as a person.
Also what what are you going to do to improve these qualities within yourself?

Here are a few of mine:

- I want/need to learn forgiveness, i just believe its the key to alot of unhappiness within myself at the moment. ( ive been trying for awhile but im finding it a hard thing to budge)

- I want to be more confident in myself and within my body. (so acceptance)

Ill add a few more later. Please feel free to share yours.

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Need to become more assertive to help me at work.

[Ginger]

i really need to stop the whinging. it's become a really bad habit of mine, i whinge way too much and i don't believe it actually gets you anywhere.

[C~Q]

I want gratitude, patience and empathy to be feelings that come naturally to me. At the moment I have to stop and think and then tell myself to feel that way because I really, honestly want to. But I can't wait till I can feel that way towards someone straight away. I'm not sure if it will ever happen but I hope so.

More i'm sure but i'll add later

[blessedatlast]

I want to be more confident in myself and within my body. (so acceptance)

:yeahthat: Not only body confidence, but the confidence that I wont always fail.. I take rejection very hard and have quite low self esteem.. When I was younger I never used to try my best because at least if I failed I could just shrug it off with "Oh well I didn't try anyway" Where as trying and failing REALLY knocks me around.. I am very proud that I have completed my 1st ever qualification even if it was just a cert 3 at TAFE..

[C~Q]

blessedatlast - I just read a quote -

"I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that don't work."

Which to me means that failing is not always a bad thing, it's not the opposit of succeeding, it's the journey towards success

[skeetaboat]

I need to learn how to stop being grumpy. Usually happens when I'm tired and one or two things haven't gone my way (hmm, sounds like a certain 2 yo I know lol), but it's contaigeous - I start huffing & puffing & soon everyone is in a foul mood. I need to learn how to snap out of it. Been trying, with some success, but still got lots to figure out.

[Spring Angel]

I have really been making an effort to stop cutting people off during converstations. I am very opinionated and perhaps it's a result of my profession (works wonders at work) but in my family/friend relationships it isn't cool.

It is a difficult habit to break but I'm aware of it and working on it.

Spring xx

[Lolli]

Apathy, laziness, procastination And addictive tendencies that fuel my procrastination further (ciggerette, anyone? )

CQueen, I meant to post this in your Gratitude rock thread and didn't get around to it (that damn procrastination!). A few years ago, i was suffering from a really bad spate of depression- the worst i've ever had, apart from the PND. I made myself a promise to think every night of three things, little or big, that I was grateful for. It became such a powerful tool for me, and made me much happier with myself and my situation. It's become a part of me now, after doing it for so long- gratitude is an emotion I feel every day, for a lot of things, and it's enriched my life, and bought out other agreeable personality traits as well, like empathy and patience. It can be done. I think, from your posts lately, you're on a very spiritual path of learning and 'mind stretching', so to speak. Run with it

[luna moth]

My temper. It has been worse than ever this year - I seem to have a lot of anger at the universe inside me, and it doesn't take much to let it out. Complete strangers cop it, often. I have shoved someone, I have hit a car with an object (just for not stopping at a ped crossing) I have kicked cars while out on my bike, I swear frequently. All to people I've never met.

I also hold grudges. A friend once made a comment about the aforementioned behaviours, and I am fighting constantly not to say something nasty back, but I know that eventually I will. I have this intense need to "get back at" people if something happens that hurts me. Doesn't even have to be their fault.

Sigh.

[tan32]

to stop stressing over everything

and to learn to say no, I try and please people all the time and sometimes I do this at my own expense.

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

* I need to be more accepting of myself and who I am.

* I need to worry less about what other ppl think about how i raise DD, i KNOW i do a wonderful job and thats all that matters.

* I need to be less grumpy towards DD and DP or atleast be grumpy but not just SNAP at random things.

[Butterfly Child]

Avasmum- im the same "I need to worry less about what other ppl think about how i raise DD, i KNOW i do a wonderful job and thats all that matters" in general i need to stop worrying !!! lol

LoriRae- thanks beautiful means alot your comment !
im with you on the procrastination...l