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Sorry to be a downer in here already but I've had the most scary afternoon. DH and I have spent several hours in the Emergency Department as I started bleeding. Of course I immediately think the worst news ever but I had some b/t's and an ultrasound and my little bub is stickier than ever at the moment. It has grown 2 more mm and now has a heart rate of 117bpm. However just as I started to relax a little bit I've had a bigger bleed. I'm not going back to hossy though. I'm just hoping like mad that I don't get any pain and we'll have our scan next Monday as planned.
I eneded up letting Sage go to my mums. As much as I don't want him to be there I need to get some rest. The DR has ordered me to rest for the next few days. I'm yet to inform my boss that I won't be there tomorrow either.
DH's parents now know that I'm pregnant too. They are so excited.
Oh and my edd has now been adjusted to 10th August.
Mako - Massive hugs... what a terrible afternoon and I'm praying that all is giong to be ok. Things do sound ok and I know sooo many lovely ladies who have bled throughout their pregnancies and still had healthy little bubs. I know it's not going to help you right now though but take the dr advice and rest up. If you start feeling unsure again... just go back to the hospital and so you can put your mind at ease. Please, please, please take care and little bub in there... please continue to be the stickiest little bub ever!!!
mako I had 2 bleeds with E one at 7 weeks and another at almost 9 weeks - New Years Eve last year. I know how stressful it can be but at least you have good news with the scan. I was convinced the pg was over when I had the first one I never had any bleeding with DD1 so no bleeding was normal to me if that makes any sense?
Take it easy OK?
everyone else, specially the ladies I haven't met yet
Mako - how scary, but it sounds like all is going very well after the scan. Sooo many women bleed during their pregnancies and all turns out fine hun, so keep holding onto that thought! Make sure you do take it easy over the next few days too. I hope Sage will be ok at your Mum's, try not to worry about him, who knows, he may be just fine!
Deb - big big sweetie, you really shouldn't be going through all this. I wish there was something I could do for you. I know that you will have a lovely Christmas despite all of this because you will have all your beautiful children with you. They will make it a special day no matter what else is happening sweetie, just focus on them. I think you are an amazingly strong woman and you will get through this.
Spring - how are you going?
BW - wow, I can hardly believe Sam is almost one either, that has gone way too quickly!
megsmum - hi and welcome to the thread! It's great to have you here!
Bek - good to see you pop in, You must be sooo busy with your three gorgeous girls!
Lee - love the pic of Flynn! I have PMed you for facebook so I can see some more!
Sorry, I am a little behind where everyone is at and don't have time to go back and read up on the last thread again, I promise that I did read it, just with my pregnancy brain I can't remember it all! I have had a shocking few days. After thinking DD was sick on the weekend because of drinking the dog's water, it turns out that she must have actually had a bug, as DH caught it two days later. Then, two days after that and feeling exhausted from looking after them, I went and got it! Was sick as a dog yesterday plus had tilers in the house all day which really didn't help, and then the illness brought on the WORST BHs last night. I seriously thought I was going into labour, had the hossy ph no out and everything! I had to rock through them, have a long shower, take pain killers, and eventually they went away and I had a little sleep last night. Feeling a lot better today but utterly exhausted. I have no one to help out with DD at the last minute here but thankfully she was a good little girl all day. I am really looking forward to having a spew free house now!
Mako - big hugs hun I empathise with the bleeding etc. You know where I am if you need to chat.
Deb - sending you big squishy hugs too I know there are no answers but knowledge is power. Early intervention with that knowledge is critical - but you already know that
Sorry girls - it has been one of those days here too.
DH crashed the car on the way home from work and it is probably written off. Thankfully he is ok but it is a headache to get sorted at this time of year. Stubborn man he is, we are sitting here at home and I am monitoring him closely. Brought down power lines, set off the airbag, caught on fire I get to see the end result in the morning.
AFM - cramping pain and a sanity scan on a crud machine that didn't reassure me at all leaves me anxious and worried and prepared to be outed at work to do another one before Christmas. I just don't want to tell everyone when I go home without being sure things are still progressing Hoping the extra cramping is related to the phone call from DH telling me he had crashed but feeling sooooooooo fragile I hate this stage.
Michelle: Poor DH, that sounds like a pretty bad crash. I am so so happy to hear he is ok. You are right, sorting out the car will be a hassle but it is so good that DH is ok. Tough cookie he must be. Get the scan hun, if it will put your mind at ease I think it is best. I hope you and DH are feeling better tomorrow.
Mako: babe. I've BTDT and it isn't fun. I hope and pray bub is sticky and this is just a terrible scare.
Bun: I just shudder when I hear about gastro doing the rounds, it is terrible terrible terrible. Hope you and the family are over the worst of it.
It is too late for my brain to function well enough for personals, but I am seriously thinking of all of you with stresses tonight . I went late night shopping with DS, which was nice, got heaps done, but thought I was going into labour by the end of it so I'd better get myself to bed I think! I'm sure I'm not in labour, or close, but will probably be a panic merchant this time around .
Nighty night all xoxo
PS Spring, sending you extra strong STAY PREGNANT VIBES!
Michelle sending you a great big hun. I hope your DH is ok after his crash. Hope it wasn't your new car but if it was then maybe you'll end up with the silver that you originally wanted
Also get that scan done before you go away to help ease your mind. This stage of pregnancy sucks I reckon.
Bun Sending all the get well vibes I can to your house. Gastro is the pits
Janie Well done on going late night shopping last night. DH and I went out for an hour too and picked up what we were after. Couldn't believe that the shops were staying open to midnight last night.
Spring How are you feeling?
Willow Thanks for your text yesterday. Know that I'm thinking of you too. You know where I am if you need anything.
Mako - oh no hun. How scary for you guys, im keeping everything crossed that bubs is sticking. I told you how they said i lost ethan, and it was a very heavy bleed then So im hoping you have a checky baby and thats all it is sweety.
morning girls, well what a day i had yesterday I go to the sleep apneia doctor. This stupid man the asks me "so what brings you here today" grrrr he had the referal right there in front of him. So i then had to explain what happened to Lilli. After that i then had to go and do a resusation course Well they could have told me earlier. On the bed is this little baby doll that i have to give CPR to. First the lady says "now imagine you walk into the room and your child is not breathing" umm well hello i don't need to imagine ive been there. Then she asks, what would be the first thing i do. I tolg her i shock Lilli and then the tears started, it was one very emtional day.
Hope you all have a better day today, ill bbl for more personals.
Rach: I am fuming mad on your behalf. How dare they not take the time to read your referral and to treat you with some sensitivity. You must be a very calm woman because I would have clocked them one. I'm so sorry you had to go through that hun, you are so strong and I admire that so much. But grrrr to the stupid sleep people you came across yesterday.
Mako: Hopeing you had an uneventful night babe.
Michelle: How is DH this morning? Sore no doubt but I hope that he is ok.
Janie: Hope you got a good nights sleep. I'm the captain of the panic merchant ship, welcome aboard (lol)
Well thankfully bub decided to stay put overnight. Phew. DH is due back in a few hours and I have a CTG this morning so crisis averted.
I think we need some massive big group hugs in here
Rach - wow.. I can't believe they put you through all that.. what a day for you. I don't know if I would of coped and am amazed at how strong you sound. You are an inspiration. I can't imagine how tough it's all been for you.
Mako - how are you feeling this morning hon?? I hope the bleeding has eased and you're feeling ok. I'm praying you've got a really sticky bub in there.
Janie - Don't you dare even joke about going into labour yet!!! It's WAY too early for that young lady! Glad you got the shopping done!
Bek - hope you got all the washing folded.. I HATE folding washing with a passion.. don't mind doing the washing and hanging it out but hate folding and putting it all away for some reason!!
Michelle - OMG.. I'm so glad your DH is ok, what a shock! Hope you're feeling ok too.. definitely go have the scan so you can at least relax a tiny bit more over Chrissy. Early pg is just the WORST!!
Bun - you poor thing.. it's just the worst when the germs slowly spread through the whole house. Hope you're all feeling heaps better today!
BW - Hope Sam has a wonderful 1st birthday tomorrow.. how exciting!
Lee - Sounds like everything is going so well with you guys.. what a great Christmas you should have!
Megsmum - Welcome and sorry to hear of your loss. It's a brilliant group of girls in here and it's wonderful to have you join us.
Lisa - Hope you're enjoying your holiday.. when are you back?
Big hello to everyone else and hope all is well.
AFM - As much as I love Christmas and New Years... I'm afraid I'm just hanging out for it to all be over so I can head back to Perth for a couple of weeks and see everyone!! I'm really missing home so much atm and especially missing my mum. We're flying out on January 9.. so all I can say is 'bring it on'!!
Hope things improve for everyone in here... it's been a bit of a rough ride lately!
Rach I'm so bloody angry those stupid insensitive Drs put you through that yesterday. Was that at JHH? The least they should have done was read the referral and the person at the CPR should have chosen their words so much better too. You are such a strong and inspirational woman and friend I so wish you didn't have to go through that. On a side note how did Miss E go with her sleep study?
Kelly Have you tested yet????? Your trip back to Perth sounds exactly what you need atm. I hope you have a wonderful time.
Spring All the best with your appt today and WOOHOO on your DH coming home today too.
Just had a phone call from my mum and she said Sage slept all night although he got upset when he woke up cos he was calling out for me. I really do wonder sometimes how were survived as kids as she told me he had some grapes and a bite of vegemite toast and 2 pieces of nutri grain. She than asks me if I put milk on his cereal Ummmm of course I do Oh she said I'll have to go and buy some then cos I used the last of it in my cup of tea. Did you put any money in his bag??? WTF Oh dear I really wonder sometimes. I just shake my head.
OK I'm off to get some washing done and try and get some packing done too as we go away on Monday for a couple of weeks.
Hope everyone has a much better day today.
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Parenting after Miscarriage or Loss ~ December 09
I had 2 bleeds with E one at 7 weeks and another at almost 9 weeks - New Years Eve last year. I know how stressful it can be but at least you have good news with the scan. I was convinced the pg was over when I had the first one
I never had any bleeding with DD1 so no bleeding was normal to me if that makes any sense?
everyone else, specially the ladies I haven't met yet
I get to see the end result in the morning.
Hoping the extra cramping is related to the phone call from DH telling me he had crashed but feeling sooooooooo fragile
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How scary for you guys, im keeping everything crossed that bubs is sticking. I told you how they said i lost ethan, and it was a very heavy bleed then
Oh dear I really wonder sometimes. I just shake my head.
Happy 1st Birthday Sam. I hope you have a wonderful day.
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