Would I Be Within My Rights....

[Kitt3n]

..... to deny my x to take DD1 if he refuses to give me his address?

[Lulu]

I dunno, but after his last performance he can get stuffed royally.

[Kitt3n]

She still hasn't even had an apology!

[briggsy's girl]

there are lots of situations in which people don't know the address of the other parent (changeover occuring at swap over points) - i don't think you would be able to deny him based on that

i agree with Lulu - he doesn't deserve to see your beautiful little girl BUT, i don't think you'd be able to deny him based on the address situation.

if you want to be sure, contact the family relationships advice line and get it clarified through them or an associated parenting advisor

[Lulu]

WHY won't he give it to you?

[Indadhanu]

I dunno, but after his last performance he can get stuffed royally.

:yeahthat:

I have no idea, but huge hungs for you and your poor DD

[Kitt3n]

He didnt tie up his nasty financial ends and they are after him.... he thinks I will dob him in Like I care, my ends are all finished.

[Peg]

I would be asking the child maintenance people that question

[thepixie]

Do you have any kind of agreement with him? Is he supposed to take her at any particular time? Kind of seems like he never shows up, pays child support or does anything for her anyway, what would you have to lose by saying no? What's he going to do, try to get custody of her? like that's going to fly.
Surely you don't have to let him take her if you don't know where she is going to be.... especially when he is abusive and unreliable.

ETA

I dunno, but after his last performance he can get stuffed royally.

:yeahthat:
What Lulu said!

[Glamourcide]

Well I don't know the legal requirements but yeah, I'd be very, VERY iffy about anybody having access to my kid if I didn't know where to track them down, kwim? I don't know what you're going through but it sounds bad, if I were in your shoes I'd definitely be seeking advice about what your rights are. I'd never let anybody take my child anywhere without me knowing where I could find them if I needed them... what happens if you need to come get her and he won't answer his phone or something? The possibilities frighten me
Sorry, just my two cents, and I have zero knowledge of anything to do with shared care rules... hope you can work it out. xo

[briggsy's girl]

maintenance and access aren't related Peg - it's entirely about the kidlet having access to both parents, money doesn't enter into it (well not within the "rights" anyway.)

my understanding is that the parents each have a right to access their children. they each have the right to privacy from an ex partner. it may be that he needs to provide his address details to someone else in regard to the potential for custodial disputes (if he doesn't return his DD) - but yeah, i think you'll find whether you know his whereabouts or not, you can't deny him access to her

[Kitt3n]

Nope, there have never been any orders.

He has seen her 3 times in the last 12 months, two of those occasions were because her grandparents had her (they see her much more often than he does).

He has gone for up to 6 months without contacting us and hasn't called her to say merry xmas for the last 2 years, didnt call last year on her bday either.

In the last two/three years I can count the amount of times he has seen her on my hands. She hasn't slept at his house for over 2 years because SHE does not want to.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Can you ask his parents where he now lives, as he wants to take your DD there? Do you have their details?

I would NOT be comfortable handing over my daughter to an idiot who could be taking her anywhere without me having any clue where she is.

[thepixie]

I think in that case definitely no. He often doesn't answer his phone, so how are you supposed to know where she is? If he wants to see her tell him you won't let her go with him until you have a parenting plan in place first. BG/ mum1984 I think she would be within her rights to do that wouldn't she? it's safer for you too Kitt3n because without anything in place you don't actually have any legal documents to rely on to get her back if he doesn't return her as promised.