Uh-oh I'm in trouble now!

[Early Kids]

Brendan wants to carry Tristan all the time. He carries him down the step and out of the loungeroom, he carried him down our back steps from our kitchen into the laundry (which has a concrete floor)

Oh dear... no more Tristan staying in one room, no more leaving him alone for a few mins with Brendan...

I'm quite amazed at it really, Brendan is only 12kg and Tristan 6.5kg.

Anyway has anyone got any tips on how to discourage it?

[~MummaBear~]

i wasnt going to reply cause i dont have all that much advice but no one else has replied yet!!

I found with my boys they just wanted to be helpful/ like me. I found heaps of other little ways to include them getting nappies and toys ECT. i explained that they could hurt their sister and eventually they got over it lol also bouncer/ rocker where bub is strapped in worked too lol

[mbear]

mmmm been there...done that. And after DD#1 dropped DS in January , and broke his femur (bone above knee cap) , we knew we had to do something drastically.....- we invested in a cage/playpen thingy....it worked , but only becuase the girls couldnt get to him.

Now that he is crawling, he doesnt like it in their much.... - and my 4 yr old is just itching to pick him up ...i watch her and i can see her about to do it. Just repeating the dangers of what happend to him in January, the ambulance ride, the hospital, all those images seem to stop her.

The thing is....we used to let our 6yr old pick up DS.....it was a help, it was cute, and they both seemed safe. But after the January incident....an accident can happen soooo easy, its just not worth it. Keep on top of it......GL .....

[Mad Scientist]

The only advice I can give is to stop it as soon as you see it and explain that bub might get hurt. DD1 started to do it too but luckily I discouraged it enough where she got over it and doesn't try anymore. It didn't take long. DD2 is now at the age where she doesn't like it and will push DD1 away.

mbear - that is such a reality check for me! How scary that must have been! I would have been totally comfortable with a 6 year old carrying bub too. Wow.

[Early Kids]

Thanks ~mummyof4~

mbear OUCH! Is he ok now?? That's my main concern is that Tristan is going to get dropped, it's inevitable really.

Yeah Tristan is crawling and pulling himself up to stand, so a playpen or bouncer ect won't work lol.

Brendan is very much included in the helping out with Tristan. The issue is Brendan doesn't want to play in the lounge room where Tristan and I am. Also Brendan is quite delayed in language skills and doesn't understand a lot of things. He doesn't know about actions and consequences yet, so explaining things to him is quite useless at this stage.

I can put up a gate in the doorway that goes between the kitchen and laundry (there is two concrete steps to get into the laundry) but the door is mostly closed anyway.

[Early Kids]

The only advice I can give is to stop it as soon as you see it and explain that bub might get hurt. DD1 started to do it too but luckily I discouraged it enough where she got over it and doesn't try anymore. It didn't take long. DD2 is now at the age where she doesn't like it and will push DD1 away.

Our issue is that Brendan doesn't have that understanding, so stopping him from doing it becomes quite an issue, for him and us.

I might just have to keep Tristan with me all the time now... which again gets complicated with toilet breaks ect.

[mbear]

toilet breaks ect.

ahhh forgot to mention...thats where the playpen DOES come in handy.....DS gets put in there when im on phone, shower, loo etc.....

[Mad Scientist]

It's a tough situation for you! I guess all you can do is take DS2 away from him each time he does it and unfortunately that means them being in your sight the majority of the time.......I'm sorry I couldn't be of help. It will get better in a couple of months when your DS2 can assert himself a little more

[~MummaBear~]

sorry for the useless sujestions i was unsure how much Brendan would understand
we have a thing like a walker but it doesnt move.. i think it is called an activity centre ( i hope you know what i am tallking about!!) that is where DD got put to stop the boys once she was more mobile/upright!

[Early Kids]

mbear, will give the playpen a go, but I can see Brendan just lifting the playpen up and Tristan crawling out lol.

Nik, I do that now, I was kinda hoping for an 'easier' or 'better' solution lol, but that's ok. We'll just keep doing what we are for now lol.

sorry for the useless sujestions i was unsure how much Brendan would understand
we have a thing like a walker but it doesnt move.. i think it is called an activity centre ( i hope you know what i am tallking about!!) that is where DD got put to stop the boys once she was more mobile/upright!

Not useless at all! It good to get even the smallest things out there, it's helping me with my thoughts too I know what you mean, I don't "believe" in walkers ect, we were advised against them for Brendan (from many specialists, but mostly the physio) so we just never got one.