Hi, I just joined the site. I need some advice. I have just found out that I am pregnant last week. Not sure how far 6 to 9 weeks. I have to get an ultrasound.
I am a single mum to three children. My eldest DS is 18.5, next DS is 17 and my DD is 3 in a couple of weeks. They have different fathers as I started young. The father of this baby and I have been split up since September last year after a year together. We have had a rocky friendship since as he was trying to get me back but is one of those guys who says one thing and does another. Not long after we met I fell pregnant to him and had a termination as we felt that it was too soon. It affected me alot and he told me a few months later that he regretted it too. He has been telling me for months that he wants us to have a baby one day and I had told him that I didnt want one in a couple of years and so had resigned myself to the fact that my family was finished and I was fine with that choice. As I mentioned him and I are not together. Anyway, as I said I found out I was pregnant. I told him and he said he wanted me to get a termination. I told him that I wanted to keep it and after a few txt messages of him telling me that it just wont work between us but he does love me...bla bla bla..I told him I didnt want to talk about it by text anymore. I have now not heard from him since Wednesday night and so I have been forced to make the descision on my own about whether to keep this baby or not. I have also not been well in February and had a form of a stroke but chances of it happening again are slim, however I am meant to not get too stressed and will have to have a c section if I keep it as I cannot strain my body. He does not know that part as I only saw the final specialist on Thursday and he didnt contact me to see how it went, even thou he said in a txt on Wed nite that he was worried what having the baby would do to my body. I hope it all makes some sort of sense. I am sorry for rambling. I just dont know what to do. The only thing that got me thru after the termination was my belief that if this baby was meant to come it would. I hate the thought of having a termination and it depresses me but I just dont know if I can do it on my own again. I raised my DD on my own from 8 weeks cause her dad took off with my friend. She now sees him regulary but it took a year and half. I did tell him that if he didnt want anything to do with the baby then I wouldnt put his name on the certificate or ask him for anything cause I dont want to go thru all this on my own and have him come back after its born and try to claim some right. I have told his mum thou that no matter what if I do have it she will always be a part in the babys life. I am so confused. Any advice would be great. Thank you and sorry its so long.
i haven't got any advice but a big welcome to bb and no matter what you decide you will have support here from the lovely ladies and gents.
the only thing i will say is do whats right for yourself and your family.
huge hugs and take care of yourself
rach xox
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