am i crazy

[mystic lily]

Hi
just needed to vent a little,
a bit about me
i have 5 natural children 16,13,8,7,4, and 2 stepchildren 15,14
DH and I are planning number 8 and this will be our only planned baby since we have been married ( 18 months) and i love them all dearly, and they are worth every grey hair i dye.

My vent is that i wish people would stop telling me what is right and what is wrong with our decision to have another child, it is not like i am racing out to do this tomorrow as i have been working with the doctors for optimum health this time as usually i fall preganant and either miscarry or i find out at 5- 6 months and it is a scramble to get used to all the complications that go with being preganant.

I know that i have health issues ( diabetes, thyroid issues, and pcos) i know that i am overweight but i have tried very hard and been unsuccessful in losing anything significant that stays off, but i wouldn't go ahead with this if i didn't have doctors support and approval. I mean it is not the be and end all if i do not fall pregnant there is no garantee but the benifit is i am healthier and that is a plus for all my family and if another child is meant to come into our lives then it will but i will n ot be upset if i dosent happen .

I have certain people that call me their friends and i realise that they are just looking out for me but i wish they would stop telling me what to do in a my way or the highway sort of way if that makes sense, it is very frustrating as i feel like i am being treated like a child and i feel like i can't tell tehm to their face but grrrrr it makes me mad and i needed to get that out.

I am happy to be a stay at home mum , i have worked for the last ten years had my other children in care to do this and i have out on lots and when i made the decision to stay at home and try and get healthy i lost a few friends as this wasn't right for them so you win some , you lose some ....

i am sorry if sounds a little selfish or childish but i just needed to get it out and now i feel a whole lot better.


for all the mums who are looking to add to there families honestly the more the merrier , yes being organised is an advantage( iam not but i try lol) and yes having money to do stuff like sports and things is an advantage but most places let you pay things off and i just love layby, so if you really want to and it was meant to be then it will be

thanks for listening would appreaciate any advice but please no judgements i do respect all opinions but am a little fragile at the moment

[Trillian]

Sometimes I think it is hard for our friends to be objective. They only have our best interests at heart but they can't see that it is our life to live kwim? But I think that if they are crossing the line and taking more than just a passing interest in what you are doing and actively/forcefully try to convince you it is a mistake, then you are probably better off without them in your life, because as I'm sure you know, having a large family is often a challenge and I reckon that if you ever had a moment where you admitted it was tough going, then those same friends would give you the 'I told you so's' when all you really need is a hug Good luck and I hope that you don't have to wait too long for your next baby

[[M]umma[M]ia]

I am the youngest of 6 kids and i wouldnt have had it any other way. I love all my brothers and sisters and i wished my mum would have had more. Yeah we didnt have everything when we were growing up, but it didnt matter to us. We were just used to the norm IYKWIM. Im sure my mum struggled finacially but she never let it show.

Babe, if deep down u want another baby... go for it. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise, its got nothing to do with them. Good on you for concentrating on your health

At the end of the day... LARGE FAMILIES ROCK!!! The way i see it.. if you can do 7.. u can do 8

[skybie]

i think s absolutely AWESOME what you're doing! well done to you!
you're going about it the right way and prepairing your body ( i have diabetes aswell and TTC) do whats right for you and your family.
look forward to seeing your pregnancy announcement!

[mystic lily]

thanks everyone