thread: Wanting to sit on toilet but...

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    Jan 2007
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    Wanting to sit on toilet but...

    DD is 25 months old and has started asking to use the toilet or potty. She'll sit on it for one or two minutes but wont do anything. Should I keep letting her sit when she asks? Also, how do I encourage her to actually do her business on it? And how do I keep her from jumping off straight away?

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    Jul 2007
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    To encourage her to go you should offer immediately after sleep or nap - as this is when she is likely to be dryest - if you manage to catch at these times it will begin to help her associate 'needing to go' with actually going.

    At our CCC children are enocuraged to sit at each nappy change as well.

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    Mar 2007
    Paradise
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    If she asks, let her go, and do try to put her on for changes and sleeps. Em sometimes sits for no reason still. It is a bedtime stall tactic here

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    Dec 2007
    Victoria
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    DD started like this...just keep going.
    She will get there herself - so encourage her sitting there fro a few minutes and lots of praise.
    I also got a bit sneaky in the end lol made shhhhhhh noises quietly in her ear and turned on the tap lol

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    Can you go to the toilet at the same time? I found that DD2 was more likely to go when I went as well, she even points to the toilet for me to go when she wants to go. She is really into the communal weeing

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    Nov 2006
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    to get my nieces to sit for a longer time my sister used to paint their nails with nail polish.
    I don't think I should do that with my son, so I try singing songs, counting etc,

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    DD just started at a new daycare and I"ve asked them to sit her on the toilet at every nappy change and they are. She still hasn't been doing anything, but has been sitting on the toilet about 4 times during the day everyday for 2 weeks now. Fingers crossed.

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    Jack hates the potty, but loves to sit on the toilet with a potty seat on it. He will run around the house in undies and will say "wee, wee" and point to the toilet. I sit him on there, but he doesn't do anything. I swear, sometimes he can be on there for up to 20 minutes....but still NOTHING! He has been doing this for about 3 months.....still NOTHING! He can wear his undies for hours at a time and not wet them, he just waits till nap time when I put a nappy on him, LOL. I run the tap, I even dip his feet in the warm water before I put him in the bath then run to the toilet, LOL. He LOVES the toilet, knows what it's for, but just doesn't do it, LOL.

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    Ouiinslano
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    Definitely keep encouraging her to sit. But don't let her flush - that privilege belongs to people who wee (I tell this to Toddlers every day )

    At CC, I get kids to stay on the toilet for as long as it takes to sing Incy Wincy Spider. I also a little bit hope that the "down came the rain" bit might have an effect!

    Make sure it's a no-pressure environment. And don't expect too much too soon - she might still be months off. But sounds liek you're doing all the right things so far! Good luck.

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    I start by sitting my kids on it when they are 6-7-8 months able to sit on their own.. So even though your child is older.. get them a book. or something special they can only look at and play with on the toilet. PRAISE PRAISE PRAISE them how proud of them you are at sitting on the toilet.

    I put them on right after nap before bed and when they wake in the morning right away. Keep doing what you are doing!! They do get it!!

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    May 2008
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    DS is 3 1/2 and from late last year we started talking about the toilet to try and encourage things. Up until then he showed no interest at all so it was then my decision to start influancing things a little bit. He would sit from time to time for us but it took SOOOO long (months) for him to actually do a wee on the toilet. I actually got him to do a #2 before a wee (just by chance) on the toilet!! As he was over 3 though i didn't give up, i never pushed things but i always asked him and talked about going to the toilet. I actually borrowed a book from one of the mums in my mothers group that was really quick and easy to read and had a 'flush' button (which he loved). It got to the point where i had to read it every time we sat on the toilet but those things combined and we got there in the end.

    I'd definately let your LO sit because it's a learning process. I always got the impression it was a matter of DS's body and the mind 'clicking' and realising what he was needed to do. I think it took a while for my DS to realise he could 'let go' and control when he wee comes out. Also if you can find a little book about toilet training it may help her understand it all a little more. The one we had would talk about jocks, flushing the toilet, washing hands and sometimes having accidents. It was great and DS knew it word for word.

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    Logan
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    Just follow her lead and allow her to sit whenever she wants to (with in reason). Whenever you are in the toilet and she is with you explain to her what you are doing and get her to listen.I used to say to my DD "Can you hear that?" and then when she sits on the loo I ask her if we can hear anything until she does a wee and she yells out "Can you hear that Mummy!!". I found giving DD a huge basket of bangles and necklaces an excellent way to get them to sit for longer on the loo.