I think I broke her - help almost 9 mths

[Queen]

I think I broke my baby!

I have cuddled DD2 almost 9 mths to sleep since birth, I have pat her then put her into bed, alas she sleeps, until the other night
She was fussy and fighting me, scratching me but so tired, I put her in her bed and left her to cry for maybe 2 mins (if that) she fell asleep, I thought
I was wrong!!
Now I pat her cuddle her like before but once I lay her down she screams, sits up and does not sleep :yawn: I am exhausted, she has not slept properly for almost 3 days.

How can I fix this? Can I? Hellpppp

[sloane]

no real advice cos my DS still feeds or is rocked to sleep...but is she just ready to self settle maybe & doesn't want to be cuddled at all? i'm sure i've read posts before where people's babies have just stopped wanted help to sleep & want to put themselves to sleep.

what happens if you just put her in her cot, say goodnight & leave?

sorry, i'm no help

[Pandora]

at 9 months it could be developmental. related to crawling/walking etc new skills? This is common at 8-9 month to interfere with sleeping - for my DS it was 9-10 months

Teeth could also be in the mix?

[*TripleJ*]

my DS went through that and after he didnt want me to cuddle him still doesnt like it

[Party-of-five]

Awww you didnt break her...hopefully its just a phase and will soon pass

[angelaartsstudent]

You didn't break her!

Sleeping issues happen, unfortunately for us Mums...it WILL pass...even though it probably feels like it will go on forever!

xx

[Fleur]

you didn't break her
As others have said - it's normal, probably developmental - what happens here with us is, we get past it & I think 'phew' ....and then a couple of weeks, or maybe a month later...it's all on again
Also at around 9 months separation anxiety kicks in (or can become more of an issue)

So you can try -
- cuddling her for a bit longer after she drops off to sleep
- letting her self settle, maybe stay in the room with her until she drops off to sleep
- co-sleeping if it's an option? even just for a couple of nights to get some sleep.

I usually try anything & everything, eventually something works (eg right now we are co-sleeping but the other day she self-settled in her cot)- sorry that's not much help I know, but just know it's normal & will pass

[sunshine_sieben]

Don''t overthink this. In a few days the reason for this sudden wakefulness might become apparent. This is how it has been with my 2 kids. I''d be all stressed that they weren''t sleeping anymore and a few days later they'd start crawling, show obvious signs of a cold or have a new tooth or something along those lines and once that was settled, they returned to their normal sleeping pattern.
I found that the more you worry about not sleeping the less sleep you get. And once you relax and go with the flow, things work themselves out again.
I stressed over my DD sleeping or not sleeping for over a year. She is now an incredible sleeper who tells me when she''s tired and wants to go to bed. She''s almost 3 and has been sleeping through most nights for about 1 1/2 years. And that''s after I thoroughly ''spoilt'' her by co-sleeping, feeding to sleep etc.