My 3yo "I want..."'s all day. I hate it. She says it with the complete expectation that whatever she wants she will get. A huge tantrum will follow if I dare say NO! (Which is relatively often!!) How do I teach her that all of her want's are not going to be met? How do I teach a 3yo the respect and manners (she does say please and thankyou) to ask in a respectful tone. She just said to me:
"I want an iceblock mummy!"
naturally the answer was no, it's 9am! You can hace an apple.
No I want an iceblock. (in a horrible tone of voice!) Im really really hungry!
No Lily, if you're that hungry you can have an apple or madarine.
TANTRUM!!!
How do I teach her tone and intonation and about back chat? It's one thing I really dislike in children- 'I want'ing all the time. I'm trying to teach her "Excuse me mummy may I have...." though it's a bit of a mouthful for her at the moment, lol! I know it's probably an age thing, but I would like to get her out of the habbit before it sticks!!
I don't have a 3 yo, but what if you just went along with the train of thought for a while.. and asked What kind of iceblock? Can you draw me a picture of the iceblock? Where could we buy one from do you think? Maybe when we go for a walk..
Then try and redirect back to breakfast? I am not sure if it would work, but it sounds like she wants hr voice to be heard.
I may be way off so I hope someone else replies soon!
I sent my 3 year old to his room if he throws a tantrum, I personally dont belive he can throw a tantrum and have me have to stand/sit there and watch it.. and well he does less and less every day.. i think i get 1 a day if that.
He has no toys in his room.
If not laundry? bathroom.. send him there for 3 min.. for not respecting and listening to you and carrying on like a pork chop.
I tell him to ask nicely and give him an example "May I have an apple please". With treats I say not right now, maybe later if you ask nicely, for now do you want xxx? doesn't always work though.
The othe day he just said Biscuit! I said "Could I have that in a sentence please" & he said "Could I have a sentence please"
DD1 is the xact same! always with the i wants!!!!
i just tell her no and ignore her if she throws tanty and talk to her when she finally calms down.
Its not fun at all and happens soo many times a day, hope she grows out of it soon
He gets NOTHING until he can ask properly - which is - may I please have... so I just say, well thats not the way to ask for it - use your manners, and then he says the whole, may I please have ...
and then I say, lovely manners DS, but its not the right time for xxx.. maybe later. OOOoh how about a xxxxx instead?
Then if he chucks a tanty - meh - so be it.. LOL... I walk away most of the time if he's just carrying on. He's been told no, he's been told the reason why, so then I don't pay the tantrum any attention.
Thanks girls, I do ignore the tantys. She gets nothing if she is rude to me too. She will often say 'I want xxx please mummy', which is half polite I guess! I just want her to lose the attitude that comes with the I wants mostly I guess. DH speaks with attutude and I so hate the tone he uses somettimes, and it seems DD is picking it up! I want to try to knock it on the head before it's habbit.
Ooooh, mel, is that a ttc #4 I see there?? I had to squint and turn my head sideways, but I see it, I'm sure! Excitement!
LOL...Kel...I was just reading too and saw the little ttc...had to look closely too!
As for the I wants and the tone, we get that too. I just have to say, where are your manners, then she will say can I please have... as to whether she gets it or not is a different story! I hope its a phase!
I get "I need xyz", to which I reply "I need you to use your manners", which usually works. It can just as easily result in a tanty though lol.
With the inappropriate food, we have introduced the concepts of healthy food and sometimes foods, so if he asks for a biscuit at breakfast time, I will tell him that it a sometimes food and we need to have a healthy food for breakfast to give us energy etc. Seems to be working (for now...), he is even asking for "a drink of water please, because it is the healthy choice". It sort of softens the blow of not getting junk food when he wants it if there is a reason.
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