Grrr at my friend!!

[Oscar&Grouch]

I hope this in the right thread, its a bit of a vent so i apologize in advance

Im so cranky!! I just went and had coffee with a friend of mine who has a 5mth old DS. I went to school with her and since both becoming mums at a young age we have become quite close.
anyway she is still with her DP (father of the baby) and we got talking about finances and how hard it is etc.. anyway she blurts out and tells me the only reason they are living in LUXURY! i mean LUXURY, is because they have told centrelink they have split up so she is recieving a single parent payment AND rent assistant and whatever else, when her partner is out working a nicely paid job monday-friday.

I just sat there trying not to cry, i guess i was kind of jelous that here i am struggling, working 6 days a week with a 7mth old, recieving only what i am entitled to which is not much. and here she is boasting about shopping trips, coffee dates and taking there DS on holidays here there and everywhere.

Sorry for ranting its just really hurt/ upset/ angered me!!!!

[BrightSparkles]

thats so horrible. If it were me i'd be dobbing her in.. but thats jsut me.

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Aww hun your trying your hardest it's sooo not nice of her to rub it in.

Personally i would dob her in.. it's YOUR hard earned taxes paying for her to go on all these trips etc.

[*TripleJ*]

i would dob her in but thats just me plus its anonymous

[Oscar&Grouch]

how would i go about "dobbing" someone in. I know its not really a friend thing to do but its really P!ssed me off.

[Arimeh]

Mustn't be going on very exotic holidays on what you get from centrelink though

I'd be a dobber though. If people can't play by the rules.... *shrugs*

[Oscar&Grouch]

[QUOTE=Arimeh;2280172]Mustn't be going on very exotic holidays on what you get from centrelink though [QUOTE]

haha. still more exotic holidays then im going on!

[BrightSparkles]

how would i go about "dobbing" someone in. I know its not really a friend thing to do but its really P!ssed me off.

There'd be some phoen number if you jump on the centrelink website.

[Cupcake]

If you find out how to go about dobbing one in annonymously please pass the info on to me hun...

Its really not fair to those who play by the rules!

Yep id be a dobber too!

[Oscar&Grouch]

will do babe im going to look it up on my lunch break... mmmmmm foood!!

[Cupcake]

will do babe im going to look it up on my lunch break... mmmmmm foood!!

Im just poking around the site now! Your thread reminded me to look into it!

Food...*drools*

[AnyDream]

I know how upset you must be, it's so hard when you're constantly struggling and then to find out someone you like is ripping the system off!!

But I think what's also important here is that this is a friend whose friendship you value, and you don't really want to jeapordise that either.

You need to think carefully before you dob her in. Is this what you really want to do? It might be worth talking to her instead and telling her honestly how upset you are to find out what she's doing. Also warn her that if someone were to dob her in (because if she's told you she may well have told other people too) that not only will they have to pay the money back, she can also be prosecuted (ie criminal charges for fraud). Ask her if she really wants to risk that and also tell her how hurtful it is for you who are doing the right thing to have her luxurious lifestyle rubbed in your face like that. If you do this with the intention of being honest and straight within the friendship, you may get a better result than if you tap into your anger and just go off at her, or dob her in.

[AnyDream]

There are links here on:
Centrelink Fraud

and also
How to report Centrelink fraud

[CinderToriella]

i hate that, we honest ppl are out there making a living with our kids and getting what we can from centrelink and then there is ppl who dont look for work cheat and just be blugers about it

dob her in , my god when they get found out either from u telling on them or later down the track - which they will ppl always do ,they will get in so much trouble and have to pay back money

[Cupcake]

I went to the C'link site & clicked on

'Contact Us' then

'Message' then

'Report a Suspected Fraud'

Going through the steps now...

**SNAP** Marydean...

[Pandora]

Really you are doing her a favour Reporting it. She won't see it that way but the sooner they find out the smaller her clink debt will be. We have a 3k overpayment and that was with notifying them as early as possible.
Someone else will do it if u don't and the longer it goes on the bigger the hole she will be in

[Zinnia]

I would dob her in without feeling guilty!!!

Just think of all of us working, paying our taxes and saving to be able to stay at home when the time comes.

I HATE people like this!!! It's fraud. I hope she gets caught out!!! The fact that she is telling you about it shows that she isn't even remorseful!!!!

[Asparagus and Lemons]

Oh thats just not fair to everybody else that's doing the right thing. GRRR to her. I'd dob her in but try not to mention the situation around her otherwise she'd suspect it was you who dobbed her in.