very demanding toddler,tantrums and breastfeeds

[Olive]

DD 14 months is still feeding 5 times in 24 hours, which im fine with, shes not she wants more, shed feed all day if i let her so ive cut back to
early morning-around 4am
after brekky
sleeptime which is midday
around 3pm and
6.30 for bed

problem is when we have cuddles, she wants boob, everytime makes me sad that she thinks and expects a cuddle to end in a feed, she throws huge tantrums at me, screams hits etc.. i do my best to distract which somettimes works, but i want ot have cuddles with her without the expectation of her getting boob, this has been going on for a while, is there anything else i can do?? will it end or will it be like this til she weans.
she is also like this when it come to resettling, DH can resettle but she wont for me because she wants me for boob im sad

[feeb]

Hugs hun its hard work!!! I have a very demanding nearly 22 month old. He wants BF when ever he is near me some days!! I will get him up from cot and hands are down top, he climbs on my knee on couch and want's boobie, if told no he chucks a tantrum and screams!! He wants it when DS2 is feeding and if DS2 asleep or on floor.

No idea how to help just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

xoxo

[Olive]

thanks hun lets hope someone has some answers for us!

[~Kim~]

Hey Olive, again no real answers but bumping this up for one.
We were going along happily with feeds at 6 and 12, 6 and 12...then we moved interstate, he got gastro and four teeth and every time he looks at me he's pulling at my top.
He hardly eats and distraction rarely works anymore

[Barb Glare]

Nothing lasts forever!
14mnth olds are demanding and have temper tantrums regardless of how they are fed - she seems like she is shaping up nicely to be a typical 2 year old. It can be frustrating though. There are times as a mother that you just feel "mauled" all day long - what you wouldn't do for 5 minutes peace and quiet.
Can you see it from her point of view? A breastfeed has got everything a cuddle has got - but more. It's a supersized cuddle! It fixes scraped knees, puts you to sleep and stops that tantrum mid scream. And no-one told her the rules had changed - that for 14mnth olds feeding according to need isn't cool any more.
Try to separate (in your mind) the feeding from normal baby behaviour. It's fine to teach some manners around breastfeeding at this age. Above all - all of this is normal and will pass

[Jennifer13]

I agree with Barb re the manners. So she has to maybe calm down, ask nicely, lie quietly, or bf is over.

You know what, hun, it sounds like your DD2 is VERY secure in her attachment to you, which actually is a wonderful thing. And she's clearly never going to be a doormat! It sounds like she's turning into a little girl you'll be very proud of one day.