Feeling sad, lost,guilty and lots of other emotions.....
So DS2 is 6 months old and LOVES his food! This is great as DS1 wasn't overly fussed and loved his boob so it was ok.
Ds2 is not boob obsessed and I have a feeling he will wean early...he loves his sippy cup with BM in it and really only feeds at night.
I feel guilty cause I am kinda excited at the prospect of him weaning early and having my boobs back lol. I would keep expressing for him so he wasn't missing out, but the relationship this time is so different as expected but I really didn't think he would be so uninterested....
I also feel that maybe I am not making enough milk for him...he is 8kgs (am getting him weighed this arvo to see if he is gaining weight) He seems to be cranky during the day even after I BF him?
I don't know where I am going with this I just need to know I am not an awful mummy for wishing our BF journey to be over...as some of you know I am a really big BF advocate and this is really breaking me
Thanks x
Don't really have any advice on the weight gain etc, but I do know supply = demand so if he's slowing down on the feeds then maybe your supply is slowing to match? Just a thought...
Also wanted to reply to say don't feel bad about wanting your boobs back! I have been BF for 15mths now, I know the feeling! DH keeps telling me we could think about weaning, he doesn't feel strongly about it either way and knows I feel strongly about continuing so he supports my decision.. but every time he says it part of me thinks "It would be really nice to NOT have to get up every morning at 6.30am to BF..."
So if you are a bad mumma for secretly wanting your BBs back I am just as bad a mumma (maybe worse?!) for wanting to be able to sleep past 6.30am...
Seriously though, you have done so well getting so far with BF both your boys!!
Hun, I think you are putting too much pressure on yourself with this I don't think you've done anything wrong so you've got nothing to feel bad about. If he does wean early, then it is on his terms and some babies do wean earlier than others. The way he is acting lately is more likely to be a developmental leap more than anything else I reckon so I don't think it is because you don't have enough milk. As for wishing it was over, well I think that if it did happen earlier than you would have liked, then you can focus more on building a different kind of relationship with him and it wont make you any less of a BF advocate than anyone else who fed for longer.
I guess he just has different needs and feeding patterns to your first.
Sometimes they go through phases of wanting more or less. If you go with the flow and make your boobies available, then he'll come back to them when he wants it.
And no, you're not a bad mummy at all!
Thanks girls
I think since I only stoppped feeding DS1 when I was pregnant I have forgotten what it is like to have my body to myelsf lol!
I will keep offering unitll he flat out refuses..which I know I will feel sad about but happy....argh these hormones are crazy!
Trillain I think your right, he is learning to crawl and sometimes stand up so I am guessing he is just too busy for boob lol!
Ahhhh it feels better know I can come to you all for advice and not feel like I am doing the wrong thing x
My DS went through something similar I think at around 7 months, so maybe it's just a normal phase.
I don't have any advice either sorry, but I wanted to say that I've only been BFing for 10 months and often wish I could have my BBs back. In no way does this make you a bad mummy, just a human that would (understandably) like her own space for once.
If your feelings were someone elses, would you think they were a bad mum? I doubt it.
hun DD2 was fully bfing at 6 months and she was 6.3kgs and the mchn wasnt worried. she weaned herself a few weeks later. it was sad and hard but DD2 was as happy as a lark so it made it easier.
dnt feel guilty for wanting ur boobies back, ur bosy hasnt been urs for 15 months!!!
Feeling sad, lost,guilty and lots of other emotions.....
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you have done so well getting so far with BF both your boys!!
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