I feel awful for feeling like this but right now I feel that I don't know who DS14 is. His attitude to everything has changed so much, he's just not the same kid. He is grounded at the moment, he was supposed to come home straight after school and didn't, knowing that he is grounded and after dinner went to his friend's house after me telling him he is not allowed. He told me "you can't stop me". I just want my son back.
Big hugs for you. It sounds like he is trying to find himself. Oh the teenage years are terrible. My mother always says it was the worst years of her life.
We've been through similar things ourselves with DS1. My DS1 ended up having EVERYTHING taken off him and he had to earn virtual money to buy his stuff back from us. He earned the money by doing his chores, going to school and behaving himself. It was a huge shake up because he has since realised just how good he does have it at home and he is really a different kid (for now!)
It was a really hard & trying time for everyone in our family. My heart is breaking for you as I have an idea of how you must be feeling right now.
I truly hope this is a fast passing stage for you.
Having only experience being a teenager and watching my brother as one, and not raising one yet, I have no wisdom, only a huge
It still makes me sad thinking about what I put my mum through as a kid, and it was the only thing I apologised to her for on her death bed. I hope he comes around soon and realises there are other ways to be.
Di, try reading the book by Steve Biddulph called "Raising Boys" it is fantastic and explains lots of things. One thing I did read was that when boys reach 14/15 their testosterone levels rise by about 800% and this is what makes them moody, sullen, angry, etc,. When their levels go back to normal so does their behaviour but that is not for ages (sorry). It talks about boys in all their stages and we got it to read about DS1 who is now 11 and omg is he starting early.
Good luck with this I know how hard it is. My DD1 is 15
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