Would You Go?

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

If someone that you knew, but never invited to anything, invited you to an open morning tea - would you go? Would you view it as that person trying to widen their social circle - or something else?

I'm asking because recent events have shown me that I'm relying too much on my online community, to the point where I'm not seeking out real life social interactions. I went to an Enjo party this morning, as a guest of another guest, and went to book a party because they're hadn't been any yet in our church group. My friend told me that this one was actually the 6th in a row, because everyone had been helping out one of the other women in the group who has just become a consultant. First I'd heard of it...

I really don't want to come across as desperate, and I don't blame anyone except myself for my current 'social status', for want of a better term. I want to make friends with these women, so I thought that if I sent DH out with the boys for an afternoon, and just invited all the women over for coffee and munchies, maybe it might be a first step? I've invited them before, but always for party plans, because thats what I feel safest with - that way, they have a REASON to be there. But no-one ever comes, and I guess thats probably because they feel pressured to buy? I don't know, thats what I tell myself anyway

So, my basic question, given all the above information : Do you think it'll work?

[Pandora]

Id go.
In fact, if I was in WA I'd come to yours

[black_rose]

It should work, I feel the same lately. I do have friends irl but none of them are mums so they don't understand the whole pregnancy and looking after kids. Dh and I are the only married ones with kids.

You have nothing to lose, so give it a shot.

[Oorki Galoorki]

I think its a really great thing to do! no pretence just a circle of friends having a chat and cuppa!
Yes i would go if i was able to

Maybe even word the invite along the lines of.. we only catch up out of church for party plans but now its time to catch up with out...

[Tinks]

I think it's a great idea Berenice.

[Joeve]

Yes I would go - I would also give it a little theme like bring your fav cookie or slice - that way people feel they are needed to be there you know, they are contributing something and its fun! I believe that most stay away from party plan as they just don't want the pressure to buy absolutely.

[widdly]

What do you have to lose? Go for it, any excuse to widen your social circle I say

I am having a Body Shop party in a couple of weeks so that I can widen my own social circle, last time I tried it (last year) only 2 people showed up......made me a little hesitant to give it another go, but booger it, what do I have to lose right? (apart form my dignity... LOL)

Hope you find yourself actually enjoying it

[human bean]

You'll never know if it will work until you try it, but if/when it does work, it will be well worth it! I think it's a great idea, and OG's idea for wording the invite it a great opener.... good luck!

Yell out if you ever want to catch up for a cuppa

[Liz]

yep! always up for a girls night. We don't have many around here much these days... always meaning to organise them, but they don't happen LOL.

Have a great time if you go ahead with it. Maybe lure them with a chocolate fondu or something? LOL.

[Laranna]

Yep I'd go.

[~Kim~]

Yep, I think that's a great idea!

[Jas]

Absolutely go for it! Sometimes if I get invited to party plan things by someone who wouldn't normally invite me plces (ppl I know at church etc) I wonder if its just in the hope I buy and make their party better etc, lots of ppl don't like party plans and never go to them. So I think a morning tea sounds like an awesome idea!! Absolutely go for it!

[Turkish Delight]

like the others have said, you won't know and you won't make new friends if you dont go. What have you got to lose? Nothing. but heaps to gain. May be a new bestie, might be in amongst all those women. Who knows.

have a girls night/day at your house without any party plans etc... just for coffees and munchies. Wish i was where you were, i'd definitely come, only if you invited me

[LionsandBears]

I think it's a great idea. There's no pressure to buy anything, a morning or afternoon tea has a finite time, so if people don't know each other, they don't feel uncomfortable for too long. I personally wouldn't ask people to bring anything the first time, but if they offer, then great.

Also, it's great to reach out to people. Let us know how it goes.

[Party-of-five]

great idea...id go for sure

[Traveller]

That sounds like a lovely idea. I wish you luck and hope you have a lovely time.

[boobaloo]

i think it's a really good idea, and maybe so people don't question your invite, make a bit of a joke about it.
something along the lines of...

DESPERATELY SEEKING LADY FRIENDS - VIEW TO PERMANENT FRIENDSHIP

at least people then know exactly what the go is! *shrugs*

[Junglemum]

I'd much rather come for a social morning tea than a party plan thing. I avoid those like the plague!