thread: I smacked him :(

  1. #1

    Mar 2004
    Sparta
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    I smacked him :(

    Every day I ask the boys not to throw water all over the bathroom while they wash and every day they ignore me. Today I walked in there and smacked Yasin. I feel like ****.
    He seems to be over it but I'm not.

    He's doing my head in right now. He shouts all the time - I wish he would just conduct his conversations at a normal volume. He shouts and points at people no matter how often I ask him not to point. He's in his bed now shouting at the ceiling. I have no idea how his brother sleeps through it.
    At his swimming lesson he's totally feral - he blows rasberries at the teacher, jumps off the platform, splashes and basically carries on like a crazy pants. I feel so sorry for his teachers.

    I shudder to think how he must behave at school.

    I used to love his oddness but now I just worry that it's going to have a really negative impact on his life. Or maybe I'm projecting because I was always the school weirdo.

    I'm so tired of having to go out in public and deal with the looks.


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    Totally understand ! There is only so much you can take sometimes.

    xo

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    Oct 2007
    Brissy
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    youre doing such a good job - hang in there.
    I know you feel bad - but like you said, he's probably over it already, so take it easy on yourself. We all have those moments.
    I dont have any advice, but hugs to you

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    Aug 2007
    Sydney
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    The hugest of warm and comforting hugs to you. I hear you.

    WRT the incident in question. I have felt what you feel, I have done that too, I totally understand your feelings about the situation now. More hugs.

    As for Yasin and his personality, I have no advice. Do you think there is something underlying that needs further investigation? And some more hugs.

  5. #5
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber

    Jan 2006
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    Seems like you've come out of this worse off than him
    He sounds like a handful right now - he'll probably be a hugely ambitious and successful adult. You just have to figure out a way to survive till then

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    BellyBelly Member

    Mar 2005
    Limestone Coast, SA
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    Dont beat yourself up over it hun, just reflect on it and learn about how you could handle it differently next time, thats what this parenting caper is all about, learning and growing x

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    I know it's a cliche and if I'm going to give you one, I might as well give you two - you're only human and you can only take so much.

    I've got a complete Sillypants too and get tired of the looks as well. I got an old lady giving me a lecture the other day about DD's behaviour. Not a feelgood day.

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    Aug 2006
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    No words of advice, but I think you need a . So here's a

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    Water throwing in the bathroom drives me insane. My 3 youngest flooded the bathroom 2 nights ago and boy oh boy did they all get a talking to. and they each got a smack as well.. Difference is I didn't feel bad about it as I have told them time and time again there is no need for it..

    I hope Yasin settles down for you. I am currently up thanks to my 2.5yr old still crying out. She woke up at 10pm and is still a bloody wake.. not happy lol

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    Huge I'm pretty sure as you've said you're more affected by it than he is. It sucks when we parent in ways we wouldn't like, but that doesn't make you a bad parent I promise. And I doubt he'll be scarred by this at all. You however might need a little time Can you talk to his teachers and see if they can offer some guidance? Quirky kids do their parents head in... but they make AWESOME adults. And if he turns out like you m'love that would be awesome, because I think you rock

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    Jul 2006
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    Firstly, I think you need to forgive yourself. Like the others have said, it seems you have been much more affected by your reaction - and that is all it was (a once off reaction) than your son.

    Rachel might be right - does he need further investigation? - diet change or something else or is he like fionas said (I giggled a little) just a 'Sillypants'. He might be very outgoing & needs fostering that in a different way that most kids do ie: painting, dancing, singing! rather than reading, watching TV. You never know he might end up being an actor/performer on stage Best of luck