DD is 22 months and i know that hitting and throwing are probably pretty normal behaviour for children this age. but DD has started hitting ALOT. when she is tired or hungry she hits, when she doesnt get her way, she hits, when i ask her do do something, she hits/throws etc. Mostly in my face!
I tell her it makes me sad, and upset. etc. maybe my responce is to exciting for her, i do tend to gasp when she hits me. should i ignore! but i dont want her to think its ok to continue with this behaviour.
what should i do! what have you done???
Have you tried getting her to use her words? Does she have words? It's likely frustration. It *will* get better - in the meantime, just be very vigilant.
Pip was a huge biter / hitter and it was really bad at CC. Parents suggested a star chart, but that meant that he had to *do* something to get a star - so we started each day with a picture of a train (his favourite toy) and the carers would rub it off if he bit / hit someone. It's a subtle difference to the star chart - it's a lot more visual and after a couple of weeks actually began to work.
It's so hard, do try not to react with excitement - cry or say "ouch" and then get her to help you with a kiss there or a rub / ice pack etc. Good luck
thanks, great advice. i thought she was to young for the whole star chat thing, how old was your DS when you did that?
i tried ''thats not nice, show me how you can be gentle'' and she would kiss/pat it better, but it didnt seem to make her do it less....but i guess il just go back to that and hope it passes thanks again!
About the same age as your DD! It really got to me - I caught the train to work one day and one of the mums from CC was on there, we chatted the whole way in. She more-or-less started the conversation with "it's been a rough year for you, with Pip's biting and hitting hasn't it". Had me in tears. Just keep the communication up with any carers / other parents etc. Other kids around Pip were taught to put up a hand in a "STOP" manner - as in "STOP - I don't like that" and that also helped.
Thanks for the help, i have been trying all day, but now she seems to be enjoying being able to say ''its ok mummy, i love you'' which is great! BUT she is wacking me just so she can say it! we cuddle so much and its not like its the only way she can get some attention! just have to keep trying i guess. thanks again kazbah!
At least she's only hitting you and not her whingy older brother - muummmyyyyy she's hitting meeeeee... owwwwwwwwww... mummmyyyyyyyy....
I just threaten her with going in the corner if I can't take it much more.. LOL... I also tell her that we don't hit in this house (meaning we aren't an abusive family, not that we can go outside and start bashing each other..)
When DD doesnt get her own way she will throw whatever is closest to her.. happens alot at the shops when shes in the pram. Shes also gone to bite and hit out of anger but ive stopped her before she did. I usually just let out a big "NO!" Which makes her stop in her tracks lol. But it works. Ive found at that age, you really need to use words they know otherwise they just wont understand. For me to tell DD who is 22 months that it makes me sad.. she couldnt careless. Whereas with DS who is almost 4, he gets that and makes impact. So i stick to those words she knows, like 'no', 'thats very naughty', 'no biting/hitting', 'you do not bite/hit' etc and use it in a tone that will also make impact as ive found again, when just saying 'thats naughty' in a regular speaking tone, its not taken in whatsoever.
Hitting and throwing!! How do i stop it!! HELP
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It's so hard, do try not to react with excitement - cry or say "ouch" and then get her to help you with a kiss there or a rub / ice pack etc. Good luck
thanks again!
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