Young Children and Step Parent Death

[little_Miss_Chez]

Hi ,
My Husband Died in March of 2010 , after being married for 3 weeks and in my daughters life for 12 months .
My DD is Nearly 3 and Smart and Understands to some what hes gone to be with God in Hevan we are mildly Religious . But Asks For Him Everyday its so hard . My husband had a son of similar age and through circumstance we currently dont see him at the moment , and my dd asks for the son as well everyday .

For anyone in the Situation , what Did you DO or say that was more meaningful or was more accepted , did u read a particular book or infomation that lead you down that path .

To Complicate the Situation Futher my idiot ex husband DD's father rings me everyday to tell me he loves me and now hubby's gone we can be together - he's also filling our duaghters 3year old head with this . Its Not going to happen ever and i'm struggling with this also .

I'm Trying to find some way to help my beautiful smart dd cope with all of this and would like suggestions from your experiances
With thanks

[Rouge]

Sorry I can't offer any advice but I just wanted to say I am so sorry to hear that you lost your husband. I hope there are some people here who can offer you some support and advice.

[Just Me]

Oh Cheryle, I am so sorry that you are going through this I'm sorry, I don't have any advice either but I couldn't read and not post.

[human bean]

Unfortunately I don't have any advice but I do want to say that I am truly sorry for the loss of your husband

[sasha]

I'm so sorry to hear about the death of your husband. It must be hard enough to lose him but then to have to explain it to her everyday as well....

It's not the same thing but my friend's daughter was very close to her great-grandmother, and was 4 when Granny died. She missed her terribly and one of the things my friend did was plant one of Granny's favourite flowers in their garden so that they could see it and think of Granny. Obviously that probably won't apply for you, but maybe there's something you could do or have in your house that she could look at to remind her that he's somewhere safe and happy and thinking of her. Sorry I don't have any more helpful suggestions.

Not sure what you can do about your ex... that's rough as well. I would go as far as unplugging my phone and just having the mobile on so that I could tell who was calling, and let close friends know that you're only contactable by mobile for a few weeks. Hopefully if he gets the message. What he's doing is pretty insensitive.