Hi girls my DD almost 15 is starting Grade 11 next year and I am a little worried about how she is going to cope with all the extra pressure and work load. We have had many discussions and lectures from the school about how important OP's are and QCE etc etc I just feel like there are a lot of expectations and I was just curious if anyone else has gone through or is going through this and if there is any advice you can give me to help her out on all this. The reason why I am a little concerned is they gave them a grade 11 assignment list at the end of the term and she was struggling with the amount of work it all was, and I could see her getting stressed over getting a good mark. Plus she wants to get a job arrrrrrgggg.
i guess the first thing u can do is re-assure her that if there is anything she needs help with or even just to talk about it with that your gonna be there.. maybe look into the facilities that are like tutoring but are based on the actual school work... these actually help them out and show them other ways of dealing with the work load.. i think that schools these days are putting so much pressure they forget that they are still human beings with needs for bigger outlets then doing homework and thinking about the consequences of doing anything but that... maybe wait till she starts next yr and has herself a routine set out and then maybe look into casual or part time work...
I am an HSC survivor!! DD did it last year.
I found I had to be a bit tough on letting her go out as she couldn't seem to self regulate and wasn't as motivated to study as i would've liked LOL
I also got her a bit of tutoring for things she was having a lot of trouble with and also got her a good multi vitamin from the health food shop.
Keep in contact with the school too so that any problems can be nipped in the bud and be ready for a lot of mood swings and tantrums!! (from you and your child LOL)
I went and got her some really good vitamins
I think you girls are right though she does have a tendancy to leave things till the last minute I think I will just have to be on her about what assignments etc she has so we can get onto them early enough. The school does offer free tutoring the problem is she doesnt always want to go . I definately think there is too much pressure on them what scares me is just last week a young girl from her school in Grade 11 commited suicide it is so sad and scary
well it sounds like you have everything in the right order...
thats the scariest part it seems that they dont think of the mental compacity when it comes to young adolescents my neice is in yr 5 and she gets assignements that i never did till i was in yr 8-9 and i think its ridiculous.. they should try different avenues to get kids to be more interested instead of stressed out that they resort to such horrible ways of dealing with it all... i used to love school but made wrong choices and became a parent instead but i now understand why my lil SL hates high school, so much pressure and so little room to improve without falling behind.. and the end result high school drop outs..
i wish your daughter and yourself the best of luck for next yr and hope that your DD finds it alot less stressing then she finds it now and that she does beautifully
My son is doing Grade 11 next year, and I completely understand the pressure you're talking about.
We just tell our son that what is important is that you try your best and anything less is just letting him down. If he tries his best and comes out with lower marks than he expects, that is FINE. There is no such thing as a fail, especially when the effort has been put in. He was worried about not getting high enough scores to get him into Uni for the course he wants to do. I told him that the worst case scenario would be him working and perhaps travelling until he could enter Uni as a mature aged student. He can also do some study at TAFE.
There is definitely so much pressure on them to do well.
Starting Grade 11 next year
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