My eldest niece is 14, she is my SIL's step daughter.
I am friends with her on FB and she posted a status of a silly song that my 6yo niece learnt at school and me and my other SIL were laughing and joking about how we used to skip to it. When one of her friends commented: "wtf r u all on or lack of?" and i replied with "oh yes because we would have to be on drugs to think this CHILDRENS song is funny" and he wrote back that "yes we would lol" so i called him an idiot. It then went back and fourth with silly insults and then he wrote this: well now i cant lie its against my code i can tell u that for every 10 years u age its like its only been 1 year to me im older then u and i can tell that i would be taller faster and stronger than u to u are nothing more than a bag of meat a walking meal ticket my kind is the top of the food chain and u are at the bottom of it by now DP had stepped in and laughed at him and this guy called us "pathetic humans".
I looked at his profile thinking hes 14/15 just like my niece and hes 18-19.. and is ringing big alarm bells.
I want to contact her dad and my SIL but i know they will only punish her when i think this guy is i guess "pretending" to be a vampire to lure in twilight fans and my niece happens to be a HUGE fan. While me and you can look at what hes saying and know hes full of it but to a vulnerable 14 yr old it could be true to them.
I have seen some terrible things on the news this year regarding guys luring girls and hurting them.
The name he has is Raven Williams but DP has found his real profile and by his photos he looks really dodgy. I have this awful feeling in my stomach but i dont know how to deal with this situation. And this guy Mike (is what his name appears to be) has befriended alot of my nieces friends..
I would let your SIL know that you were not impressed by some interaction you had with one of her friends on Facebook and are a little concerned that he isn't what he seems to be. I would keep it simple and stick to the facts of the situation, rather than adding in your opinions or feelings about it. I think the parents deserve to know and should be monitoring her Facebook friends and interactions carefully at this age.
Let her parents know but stick to the facts and be prepared to hear "it's none of your business"
My nieces and nephew are on my FB and recently I've seen some really disturbing posts from the eldest who is 15. I know his mother doesn't monitor it but I thought I would "do the right thing" and let her know...didn't go down well at all.
Definitely say something. I monitor both of my kids (13 & 16 yr olds) FB pages and I kinda monitor their close friends too. One of my DD's friends added some creepazoid from Indonesia who is 60! I sent the message through my DD to get her friend to delete the guy and watch out for who she adds from now on. I can not believe some parents don't pay that much attention to what their kids are doing online.
I hope your inlaws don't take it out on their DD but have a good talk to her about internet safety.
I have spoken to my other SIL and she is going to sit our niece down and talk to her about who she should be friends with and who she shouldn't. We have to be careful in what we say to her mother as she is always quick to punish her without listening to the details.
But if it isnt rectified in a matter that i am happy with, like my niece has a go at us then i will let her parents know. I hate to be the party pooper but when it comes to internet safety i take it VERY seriously.
I have two teens on FB and I would want to know if it was one of them.
Keeping your niece SAFE is #1 priority, not being the cool aunt who keeps things from her Parents when they [whatever the secret] could be dangerous to her.
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