DD - 3 half years old, reverting back to bed wetting. Is it Daycare or new baby??

[Eng]

Where to start...

DD is 3 and half years old and has been having a few issues, before and after the birth of our DS.. Im not sure if it all related or not.

Ok so DD goes to DC 2 days a week, basically I sent her for the interaction as my parents had been looking after her while I was at work. She has been TT since she was 2 years of age however she still wears a pull up at night as she isnt ready for that next step and I'm not pushing it yet either.

A couple of weeks before DS was born, DD had an accident during her sleep at DC. At the time we thought it was strange as she has never done that since being TT. The next day she did the same.. I thought maybe she was just feeling the excitment of bub coming. The following week she has another set of wet sheets. The following week I had bub and again another 2 sets of wet sheets.

Then we all got sick with gastro and DD stayed at home with us and she was fine. I sent her back to DC, her normal teacher/DC person was away, she had a good week. Then when he returned she started having wet sheets again. When she is on her home room senior kindy (SK) she seems to have accidents. When she visits pre-school she comes home with dry sheets.

I have no problems with DD at home, she never ever wets the bed. Even when we started TT her she never wet the bed. So I have rung the DC and told them that something is wrong as she doesnt do that here and nor does she do it at my parents. It seems when she is SK it happens. I explained they need to make sure she goes to the loo before her nap, they assure me she does..

That brings me to this week, yesterday mum picked up DD and she had yet another wet set of sheets. My mother went off at the teacher/DC person and she said they took her to the toilet but thats all she said to my mum. So I rang today again to find out what is going on. The teacher/DC person told me she went to the loo before her nap time, however DD didnt nap, they let her sit quietly and read. Mid nap she asked to go to the toilet so they took her, 10 mins after she had been she wet her sheets..

I am lost as to why this has happening?? DD is an intelligent girl and I spend plenty of time with her. My parents have been letting her sleep over 2 nights a week as she has been asking to have a holiday at their house.. Im not sure what to do? Do I cut all the sleep overs and take her back to basics?? I asked her why she has been wetting her sheets and she blames the teacher/DC worker telling me he didnt take her to the toilet..

She has been acting out at home a little since bub arrived.. As in she has been over loving towards him and not sticking to her bed time. Which I was told would happen, but is this all part of having a new brother? Is this all an attention thing?

Help Im lost.. I really am worried for my little girl.. What if there is something going on and I'm failing her but not being able to fix it or work it out...

[angelaartsstudent]

I don't have a 3 year old, but from what I have been reading recently about toddlers and new babies arriving, I'd def say it's a slight revert to 'baby-ish' behaviours becuase of your new LO. Rather common apparently. Esp with the toilet training and accidents.

[Eng]

I have read that too but I feel like there is more too it.. Im wondering if its all the change at home and the changes at DC..

My other track of thought tells me she might be bored at with her current room at DC...

[luna moth]

My other track of thought tells me she might be bored at with her current room at DC...

Definitely possible.

I have seen this before in kids who have been TTd for ages, then they revert, but it seems really odd, because it never happens at home, and hasn't happened for ages.

In one case, the child was just getting exhausted at CC, really running herself ragged, and then (we postulated) falling into a deeper sleep, so not really waking up with the need to go. But she was much earlier in her toileting career.

In another case, it was in a room where children played on their beds if they didn't sleep, until a particular time (2 o'clock) But if you wet your bed, it got packed away, and then you could go and play anywhere in the room (again, just theory) So boredom was a major cause.

Have you pointed out to CC that it only happens in one particular room? That might help them to come up with some strategies.

If it's not happening at home, I'd say it's not a lot to do with the new little guy, unless all the CC workers are constantly asking about him and she's over it. I've seen this happen too, CC people do tend to love babies, and get so obsessed with new ones that they forget that the child in their care maybe wants to talk about/do something else or be their own person.